DO NOT, and I repeat, DO NOT email a provider to bitch about something that was posted on the boards.  No, I will not say who the person was, and I cannot even believe I have to make this post. If you feel the need to contact a provider in regards to stupid shit posted on TER feel free to DM if you do not think it should be posted publicly. My email address is to book appointments, not to discuss petty nonsense.  

I have pm'd providers if I think a conversation on here is going too far or was unfair to her.

I’m sorry someone on this board took things too far. I appreciate your candor and humor when you share your point of view. I wonder which poster decided to reach out…??? Can we take bets?

Sorry, I can't help to laugh at this, but I know you're right. On a rare occasion I have DM'ed a provider on TER about something on the board. And, a few have DM'ed me as well. But to go as far as to get your email from your ad, website, or profile and email you about something on TER, oh my.

what petty bullshit was posted that someone felt compelled to email you about?
Asking for a friend

I have had several guys send me a TER DM and *ASK* if it would be OK to talk via email, which I said was OK. The fact this individual felt that entitled to send a message to my WORK (yes, this is my job!!) email to bitch about something I posted on TER is wild.

As a newbie I wonder how much “personality” / flirting / chatting should I share when I reach out to book and get screened.  Usually I am very down to business over email.  Short intro / indication of interest, dates and times, segue into screening.  Should I be more… chatty?  Flirtatious?  It seems that this is not the time to share much personality…

Guessing the Raphaela Ember thread.

....it was just the other day that either the OP or another provider (or monger?) made note that providers would get complaints or unwanted messages sent to their emails from the pissing matches that occurred in here.  Now, out of nowhere it has happened...what are the odds of that?!?!

If you're normally a chatty/flirty person, then be that! Humor can be little more difficult to gauge tone thru text but feel free to be mildly funny, just stay away from sarcasm and anything that would be considered a neg hit/off-color/dark until you've chatted enough or met the lady and have a feel for HER sense of humor.  
 
I love it when intro notes include the pertinent details of a desired meet, the usual screening info 70+% of us ask for and an offer to fill in any safety gaps I may require, plus a short paragraph about the gent. AMAZING!!🥳 And not terribly common. He's already set himself apart and become memorable. AND THEN, if he has a personality on top of that?? 🤩 Chef's kiss!

Thanks, interesting thread.
I just didn't get the anger.  lol

And/or is guarding his TER handle.

I have reported him to TER for harassing me.

What about a quick text?