After looking through the Los Angeles websites this one ad caught my eye.  "I prefer clients, who are between the ages of 20
to late forties approximately.  Please, no grandfather looks and please no drug addicts at all!"

I understand about the drug addict thing but, I'm  a couple of years over fifty myself and I do not feel like a grandfather.  

Maybe it's best that I see women over 30.  

There may be a little snow on the roof but there is still plenty of fire in the furnace.

You may not be pleased with the preferences being stated in the advertisement but I much prefer that approach to the provider who said nothing in her advertisement but complained in a recent discussion board post that overweight clients did not tell her in advance that they were overweight.

The vast majority of providers (including myself) posted that they loved the guys over 50...they are generally more affluent, better tippers, bring gifts, are very experienced in the bedroom and almost always want to please the lady. Hard not to like all that.

Sometimes the young guys just want it "wham bam, thank you ma'am", which is fine and that can be fun.....but I think with age comes wisdom, maturity, thoughtfulness, and a greater appreciation of all kinds of women.

I've had girls also tell me that they worry about appointments they take with younger guys.  Sometimes young guys have a tendency to think they have to prove something - the girl gets a little more "activity" than what is perhaps sustainable during a tour.  I know one young lady who had to cancel a couple days at the end of a tour because of an all-nighter with a young guy who simply wore her out.  She was OK, but needed to rest the kitty a little.  Overall it worked out to her disadvantage financially.  You gotta protect that little moneymaker!!!

Actually, I've heard of lots of SPs who state their preference is for men over 30 at least.  She must be very young!

-Anya

As much as I hate the thought of being over somebody's hill, I would rather know ahead of time myself.  I usually try to mention my age, height and weight as a "heads-up" to the provider so if she has a problem with "older guys" she can beg off before I get there.  Some older guys take a bit longer to accomplish the mission and I let her know I am in that category also.  Avoiding unpleasant surprises is a two way street...

-- Modified on 6/23/2003 6:59:08 AM

Virtually every provider I know PREFERS the mature client.  I'm just 56, and have never been turned down because of age.  Any provider who places restrictions on their clientele of this nature is certainly within their rights.  So forget it and move on to someone who'll appreciate you for who you are.  You'll both have a much better time of it.

My best experiences in this hobby have been with mature providers.  I have "dated" women from 20 to 51, and let me tell you that there is no perfect age for a provider.  It depends on the mood of the client and what specifically he's looking for.  I for one enjoy the idea that I'm with an attractive lady who will satisfy my needs at both ends of my body, and that usually translates to a wiser, more experienced and attractive mature woman.

Nicole, you got it right again, demonstrating the intellecctual, as well as the physical attributes that make this hobby exciting.  And Tygerlilly is very beautiful, but she has nothing at all over you.

Interesting.  Somewhat related note - a provider recently told me that she's like a guy because she wants it fast and short because she'd rather go for a few minutes and have us both have one, intense orgasm then go all night and have mediocre sex.  She added that a woman who 'wants it all night' has self-esteem issues because she wants to prove to their partner she's desirable, etc.  The provider told me that because she feels this way, sex with older clients is better because they tend to focus more on quality than quantity.

I think it depends on the chemistry between the two people and that age is a secondary concern at most.  If you both want just one really intense orgasm, then what's the issue?  However, if you both want to fuck all night, then there's no issue there, either.

Lol. I remember my homemoon. That is the way we both acted like wild rabbits. I guess that is why sometimes you see a provider sitting in the bath tube soaking. Sometimes they comment "You are drying me out". Sounds like the provider needs to get the kitty in shape. These are indications that a provider might not have been that active and it takes a while for the kitty muscle to get use to things again. I guess that young guy was to busy thinking about himself, possibly he might have not not used the proper lubcricant.

I guess the bottom line is that one needs to do their research and if a client is hot he needs to indicate to the provider that he has alot of stamina. Sometimes providers are shocked to see older guys in such good shape with good stamina because of cardio and weight training.

because she can't look beyond the physical side.

If she is willing to limit her clientele to fit her own needs, there is nothing wrong with that.  There are plenty of ladies offering different kinds of services to various clients.  

Having those preferrences stated clearly upfront saves time and money for both sides.

I have just turned 63,in the last year I have seen 48 different providers, I look 40 and perform like 30.The girl is only looking for a fast ride. Later on she will seek quality.

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"When I get older losing my hair,
Many years from now.
Will you still be sending me a Valentine
Birthday greetings bottle of wine.
If I'd been out till quarter to three
Would you lock the door,
Will you still need me, will you still feed me,
When I'm sixty-four
You'll be older too,
And if you say the word,
I could stay with you.
I could be handy, mending a fuse
When your lights have gone.
You can knit a sweater by the fireside
Sunday morning go for a ride,
Doing the garden, digging the weeds,
Who could ask for more.
Will you still need me, will you still feed me,
When I'm sixty-four
Every summer we can rent a cottage,
In the Isle of Wight, if it's not too dear
We shall scrimp and save
Grandchildren on your knee
Vera Chuck & Dave
Send me a postcard, drop me a line
Stating point of view
Indicate precisely what you mean to say
Yours sincerely, wasting away
Give me your answer, fill in a form
Mine for evermore
Will you still need me, will you still feed me.
When I'm sixty-four"

If you don't know who wrote this then you are REALLY young!!

The reasons are pretty obvious, so I won't repeat them.  Fortunately, most of the women in this activity have enough experience and perspecitve on this issue for it not to be a major problem.  A very young provider might still be approaching her clients using the same criteria as when she's dating- an understandable rookie mistake.

As others have stated, the vast majority of CSW's are happier to see an interesting and respectful gentleman, regardless of age, than a young stud putting on a performance.  Hey, we old guys were all young once too, so I don't mean to diminish the advantages of physical prowess.  I'm just saying the more sexually sophisticated you become (usually a function of age) the less important pure physicality is to the enjoyment of an intimate encounter.  

A young guy tends to think he's judged by how long and hard he "banged" someone, because for the most part, he's still operating on a purely physical level (at least that's where I was at that age).  It's only when you're more seasoned- and when male and female sexual response begin to become more similar in middle-age-  that you learn to enjoy the aspects of sexuality that go beyond strength.  

Each stage of life has it's own rewards, they're just different.  The point is to enjoy them all, and not get caught up in what was.  Because always defining the present in terms of the past, rather than the inevitability of aging itself, is what makes you unhappy.

I just turned 50 and in all of my searches one of my criteria is over 30.
I can’t tell you exactly why.
Maybe because I have a daughter approaching 20.
But I think more is the fact that intimacy starts with knowledge and experience.

There are all sorts of people, all sorts of preferences, all sorts of perceptions (or misperceptions)...and that's o.k.  After all, if  all women went for only mature men, what the hell would the young guys do? (Hint: gummed-up machinery at the waste-treatment plant)

"Frankly, there are a whole bunch of us who deserve ratings of 10's in looks just for being the age we are and looking so damn good!"

I PREFER older guys and until recently wouldn't see anyone under 35 (I'm 28).  

In my experience older guys have been better in bed, less nervous about being there, don't usually have any issues about seeing an escort...the list goes on.

Every time I have heard about a bad situation, 9 times out of 10 the guy was 30 years old or younger.

I would take a 50+ year old to a 30 year old any day.

...but I don't have to give an EXACT time requirement, do I???

I wonder if it's really about the shape that the older gentlemen are in. She's assuming all guys over 50 have huge bellies. I'm 42 and in better shape than when I was 30 - and I was in decent shape then. As NOSC alluded to - she might be looking for more than the usual provider/hobbyist encounter. Oh, well - plenty to choose from.

...a StairMaster 3510

>I use it all the time!

-sigh- The story of my life...

Mephistopholis Dangerfield

NOSC, you are truely a great looking woman, as well as a very classy experience.

The thing to remember about gyms are that the guys in their 20's and 30's there about trip over anything that has two legs, breasts and doesn't move when they're gawking at them.  

I find it amusing that gals at the gym will get "righteously indignant" at the stares they get when they're wearing skin tight clothing that shows off everything, and a cleavage displaying top which with the wrong movement shows a bit of nipple.  Then there are those who come in looking all frumpy and in baggy cloths, who get very little attention at all whatsoever.

I saw the ad that was mentioned at beginning of the thread and was put off for a second but... turning 53 this year, I really would prefer to know up front if my age is an issue before I see someone. The younger ladies I have seen generally warm up to me quite nicely... not, certainly, because of my looks or the great shape I am (not!) in. But rather, as has been mentioned before, because most of us guys my age can take our time and do genuinely enjoy all aspects of the encounter, not just the banging part (which for me is oftentimes almost anticlimactic). I love foreplay and making the lady happy. And I am probably not too unique amongst my age-peers when I say I really look to what the provider offers as a wonderful gift... even though I am paying. If she is sensitive enough to pick up on that, and understands that she is being genuinely appreciated, I don't think age is going to be an issue.

dawctor