You may not be pleased with the preferences being stated in the advertisement but I much prefer that approach to the provider who said nothing in her advertisement but complained in a recent discussion board post that overweight clients did not tell her in advance that they were overweight.

The vast majority of providers (including myself) posted that they loved the guys over 50...they are generally more affluent, better tippers, bring gifts, are very experienced in the bedroom and almost always want to please the lady. Hard not to like all that.

Sometimes the young guys just want it "wham bam, thank you ma'am", which is fine and that can be fun.....but I think with age comes wisdom, maturity, thoughtfulness, and a greater appreciation of all kinds of women.

Actually, I've heard of lots of SPs who state their preference is for men over 30 at least.  She must be very young!

-Anya

As much as I hate the thought of being over somebody's hill, I would rather know ahead of time myself.  I usually try to mention my age, height and weight as a "heads-up" to the provider so if she has a problem with "older guys" she can beg off before I get there.  Some older guys take a bit longer to accomplish the mission and I let her know I am in that category also.  Avoiding unpleasant surprises is a two way street...

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Virtually every provider I know PREFERS the mature client.  I'm just 56, and have never been turned down because of age.  Any provider who places restrictions on their clientele of this nature is certainly within their rights.  So forget it and move on to someone who'll appreciate you for who you are.  You'll both have a much better time of it.

Interesting.  Somewhat related note - a provider recently told me that she's like a guy because she wants it fast and short because she'd rather go for a few minutes and have us both have one, intense orgasm then go all night and have mediocre sex.  She added that a woman who 'wants it all night' has self-esteem issues because she wants to prove to their partner she's desirable, etc.  The provider told me that because she feels this way, sex with older clients is better because they tend to focus more on quality than quantity.

I think it depends on the chemistry between the two people and that age is a secondary concern at most.  If you both want just one really intense orgasm, then what's the issue?  However, if you both want to fuck all night, then there's no issue there, either.

because she can't look beyond the physical side.

If she is willing to limit her clientele to fit her own needs, there is nothing wrong with that.  There are plenty of ladies offering different kinds of services to various clients.  

Having those preferrences stated clearly upfront saves time and money for both sides.

The reasons are pretty obvious, so I won't repeat them.  Fortunately, most of the women in this activity have enough experience and perspecitve on this issue for it not to be a major problem.  A very young provider might still be approaching her clients using the same criteria as when she's dating- an understandable rookie mistake.

As others have stated, the vast majority of CSW's are happier to see an interesting and respectful gentleman, regardless of age, than a young stud putting on a performance.  Hey, we old guys were all young once too, so I don't mean to diminish the advantages of physical prowess.  I'm just saying the more sexually sophisticated you become (usually a function of age) the less important pure physicality is to the enjoyment of an intimate encounter.  

A young guy tends to think he's judged by how long and hard he "banged" someone, because for the most part, he's still operating on a purely physical level (at least that's where I was at that age).  It's only when you're more seasoned- and when male and female sexual response begin to become more similar in middle-age-  that you learn to enjoy the aspects of sexuality that go beyond strength.  

Each stage of life has it's own rewards, they're just different.  The point is to enjoy them all, and not get caught up in what was.  Because always defining the present in terms of the past, rather than the inevitability of aging itself, is what makes you unhappy.

There are all sorts of people, all sorts of preferences, all sorts of perceptions (or misperceptions)...and that's o.k.  After all, if  all women went for only mature men, what the hell would the young guys do? (Hint: gummed-up machinery at the waste-treatment plant)

I PREFER older guys and until recently wouldn't see anyone under 35 (I'm 28).  

In my experience older guys have been better in bed, less nervous about being there, don't usually have any issues about seeing an escort...the list goes on.

Every time I have heard about a bad situation, 9 times out of 10 the guy was 30 years old or younger.

I would take a 50+ year old to a 30 year old any day.

I wonder if it's really about the shape that the older gentlemen are in. She's assuming all guys over 50 have huge bellies. I'm 42 and in better shape than when I was 30 - and I was in decent shape then. As NOSC alluded to - she might be looking for more than the usual provider/hobbyist encounter. Oh, well - plenty to choose from.

I saw the ad that was mentioned at beginning of the thread and was put off for a second but... turning 53 this year, I really would prefer to know up front if my age is an issue before I see someone. The younger ladies I have seen generally warm up to me quite nicely... not, certainly, because of my looks or the great shape I am (not!) in. But rather, as has been mentioned before, because most of us guys my age can take our time and do genuinely enjoy all aspects of the encounter, not just the banging part (which for me is oftentimes almost anticlimactic). I love foreplay and making the lady happy. And I am probably not too unique amongst my age-peers when I say I really look to what the provider offers as a wonderful gift... even though I am paying. If she is sensitive enough to pick up on that, and understands that she is being genuinely appreciated, I don't think age is going to be an issue.

dawctor