I am a hobbyist who tends to enjoy the larger (BBW) ladies, and frankly, I've been very fortunate.  I have had many wonderful dates with some stunningly beautiful and sweet BBW ladies who provide a GFE experience with plenty of hugging, kissing, cuddling, and snuggling...to me, nothing beats the warm, sensuous feel of a nice full figured lady in one's arms.  However, as much as I enjoy hugging and holding these beauties, I've noticed that while laying in bed, many BBWs are reluctant to LAY ON TOP of their partner.  Although they have no problem letting me get on top, if I try to gently roll my date on top of me while hugging, they either back off or get on their knees to avoid laying on top of me with their full weight.  My question therefore is:  Do you feel that you are going to hurt your date with your weight?

You're a moron Are_You_F*ing_Kidding

That makes crib death sound palatable.

-- Modified on 10/7/2008 8:24:13 PM

I think the answer is pretty obvious.  They're concerned about hurting their partners if they on top of them.  While you may be fine with her lying on top of you, she might worry about breaking something.  Look at this way: if you're with a girl (provider or civvie) who's smaller than you, would you be concerned too?

Some of it has to do with relative size...are you a big guy?

If you are smaller than the lady, she may fear hurting you.

If you are the same size there is still the comfort issue, but there should be no problem, especially if you say it is okay.

I am a big guy myself and I always make sure the ladies I see, never feel that I am suffocating them, or that I am in any way a danger to them.

If you are bigger than the ladies, I can think of no safety issue, but it may have more to do with the second reason.....self image

The BBWs that you see may feel ashamed of their weight or may at least feel self conscience about it and the last thing a person who has issues with their weight wants to hear is you wheezing under the strain of them lying on top of you, or even worse you asking them to get off with a pained look in your eye.

Trust me, as a larger individual with body image issues, I know where they are coming from.  I would never lay on top of someone, even if they wanted me to.  I would fear for their safety, and i would fear for my ego being crushed if I did hurt them, or caused them discomfort.


And I am not a moron...despite what you may have heard.

First, I preface this with...I don't want to be made fun of for answering your question if it was meant as a joke.  So, guys, please recognize my bravery in being so open on a public forum and be your very kind and considerate selves after I answer Mustanger's question.  If you cannot do this, please stop reading here because you will not find what I have to say very interesting at all.

Mustanger, Keep  in mind, I can only answer for myself.  I don't know how other BBW's feel about this issue.  For me, personally, I am bigger than the majority of gentlemen who visit me. And, contrary to what some people may think, my gentlemen friends come in all shapes and sizes and physiques and colors and are not just big boys.  Also, it is important to know that I am one of the heavier  BBW Escorts. So, yes, I do worry about hurting you guys, in part because of YOUR size and in part because of MY size.  Those of you who have visited me, know this.   I will say things like, "I don't want to hurt you" or "if I get too heavy, tell me, please" or, "if that makes you uncomfortable, we can try something else".   I am, afterall,  there to cause pleasure not pain.  

Other concerns.... it is at times difficult to maneuver and sometimes creative positions are needed.  I, myself, happen to be very flexible and can twist into just about any pretzel shape your dirty minds can think of!  However, not all large people can because carrying the extra weight often causes problems with the back and knees.  Sometimes, it is difficult to find plus size sexy little nighties and we all know men are visual and like things like that (by the way, this BBW likes wearing these sexy little nighties).  

Mustanger, probably the most important thing to remember is that BBW's are people too!  We worry about all the regular things people worry about plus a whole set of other issues that most people don't have to worry about or even think twice about.  We are real people with real feelings and real emotions.  We enjoy sex and we enjoy hugging and kissing and cuddling.  I love my sexuality and am not afraid to express it, so, if lying on top of you is what turns you on, then that is exactly what I will do while I DFK you and suck on that hot tongue of yours.  If you want me to just lay there on my tummy and let you rub my big ass for an hour til you blow, then, I will lie on my tummy and wiggle my ass and hump my bed in the most erotic fashion I can.  If kissing me and rubbing my body for 30 minutes is what turns you on, then by all means kiss and rub away...I like that!  

Mustanger,  remember, if you communicate with your provider and let her know what you enjoy and what you fantasize about, whether she be BBW or not, you both should be able to enjoy your encounter.  

Thank you for being willing to give such a careful and frank answer. (Incidentally, you seem like a wonderful companion.)

Thank you for sharing your feelings, hon. Many of my family members have extreme problems with their weight, and I am only concerned about their weight because of their hearts and hearing them complain about being lethargic.

I've lost weight recently because I wanted to tighten my stomach and just plain feel healthier and more rested. However, I hate it when my legs get skinny. I prefer a more curvy leg. If I could keep my tummy small and tight and my body firm I would actually prefer to be bigger. I remember when I was a kid, everyone made fun of me because I was too skinny: I had the opposite problem. My Italian cousins were always forcing food down me which, granted, I didn't mind because I had a healthy appetite. Also, skinny girls were not popular when I was in school, at least not until I was about 23 years old and that was only for modeling.

So, if you are healthy and feel good then it doesn't matter, as long as people get exercise. Shoot! Skinny people have heart attacks, too, if their diets are bad and they don't exercise. I do understand what you mean when you say that it's hard to manuever sometimes. I find it harder to move when I gain weight and haven't been working out. I say, "Shine girl, shine!" Be glad you have curves.

Hugs & smooches,
Ciara



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Seriously Mustang,

Use your head more b4 posting...

Thank you Ciara.  If someone, man or woman, is going to be sincere in asking a question like this of a BBW, I really do not mind answering.  
I think the question itself showed a certain amount of curiosity and wasn't intended to be insulting and that is why I answered it.  

I think above all it is always important to be healthy.  I have joined the gym and hope to work out a bit more consistently.  I wouldn't mind losing 40-50 lbs.  I'll still be a BBW but will be more fit and more comfortable.  

Ciara, I agree with you.   Shapeliness is definately a beautiful thing.  Women are beautiful no matter what size they are.  We, for the most part, lead by our hearts and that alone is a beautiful thing.

Skinny people do have heart attacks.... but my perfect way to go.... having a heart attack... while with a beautiful lady - with a tight tummy....

As I say, one cannot look more perfect.... only perfect....  you are one hot lady....

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-- Modified on 10/8/2008 8:36:21 PM

The way you say it.

I would have just said Belindabell your a fabulous provider and just leave it at that. Then again I am just naturally charming,lol.

-- Modified on 10/9/2008 12:21:55 PM

I didn't even hint that the original poster was being insulting. I also thought it was a valid question. I was simply responding to your post and about my family. I just wanted to share. Perhaps I should have stayed more on topic but I thought it was important.  BBW rock!


Hugs,
Ciara





-- Modified on 10/8/2008 9:09:06 PM

MY POST ON THE PROVIDER BOARD INCLUDED COMMENTS LIKE THIS:

"got nothing but positive feedback from providers and guys" (YOU CIARA WERE ONE OF THE PROVIDERS)

"(and there was nothing wrong with Ciara's reply)" (SPEAKS FOR ITSELF)

"Thank you, Ciara.  I can appreciate your concerns with your family's weight issues. " (MEANING I UNDERSTAND )

"I am definately blaming this emotional lapse on my PMS."  (NOT CIARA)


MY POST ON THE GEN. DISC. BOARD TO CIARA'S REPLY:
"Thank you Ciara.  If someone, man or woman, is going to be sincere in asking a question like this of a BBW, I really do not mind answering.  I think the question itself showed a certain amount of curiosity and wasn't intended to be insulting and that is why I answered it.  (WROTE THAT BECAUSE SOME OF THE OTHER POSTS WERE INSULTING BUT NOT YOUR'S CIARA)

I think above all it is always important to be healthy.  I have joined the gym and hope to work out a bit more consistently.  I wouldn't mind losing 40-50 lbs.  I'll still be a BBW but will be more fit and more comfortable.  (BECAUSE I AM A BIGGER BBW WITH A FAMILY THAT HAS HEART DISEASE, DIABETES, HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, KNEE AND BACK PROBLEMS AND I DON'T WANT THAT TO BE ME IN 5-10 YEARS SO WANT TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT NOW...YOU KNOW BE PRO-ACTIVE INSTEAD OF REACTIVE)

Ciara, I agree with you.   Shapeliness is definately a beautiful thing.  Women are beautiful no matter what size they are.  We, for the most part, lead by our hearts and that alone is a beautiful thing.  (NOW TELL ME DOES THAT SOUND LIKE I WAS SAYING YOU BELITTLED ME)