There is at least one guy tired of fucking her.

If I could get a "different" hot babe, who would fuck and suck me NSA every day without paying for it, I would give up the hobby. Until then, party on. lol

I always knew I was not only smarter than my brother, but smarter than you as well. Not only will there not be wife #3, there won't be a wife #2 either. lol

I guess by that logic, Mikey is smarter than either of us, he will never even have a wife #1, and in that case just forget about everything I said earlier. lol

Not the ones who aren't getting enough sex, or no sex or not the type of sex you want---or the even the ones with wives that let's say---do not look as good as before the rings were exchanged. This is for the men who have really hot looking wives who do have sex with them.
Why do you hobby?
Is it just for variety?

Thank you God!!!

and both of them did BBBJCIM.  But I'm wired to get sexually bored very easily and want multiple partners.  Just the way I'm built.  There will be no wife #3.

Variety, addiction, variety, danger, boredom....just can't stay away from that beautiful flesh...

How do you know?  Out of, what, a million TER hobbyists worldwide only a few have hot wives that fck and sck?  Really?  

I think a large majority of hobbyists are normal, healthy, successful people with families, great wives, etc.  Their wives may have been hot when they married them but after 20 years of marriage... yeah, people age and quit f*cking like rabbits.

Men like variety-- period.  Married, single, hot wife, ugly wife.  They are biological inclined to want to spread their seed to as many women as possible.  Thats pretty much the general rule about (straight) men.

Married for 35 years before my wife died a few years ago. Hobbied for 25 of those 35 years.

Would not want to describe my wife as hot looking - but would definitely say attractive, aside from struggling with weight most of her life. Active sex life, she enjoyed sex, was willing to try anything that I came up with or she read about.

I hobbied for variety - it seemed to be a saner (safer) alternative than affairs with women in the neighborhood or at work. Saner both from the emotional complications angle and from the "getting caught" angle.

In other words, if a man is not going to be monogamous, do it quietly. Don't embarass the one you love.

I don't 'hobby' anymore (I always hated that term), but did for almost 20 years, and made a lot of friends.  I've only ever had one wife, who I love, and who is and always has been really good-looking, and a borderline nymphomaniac.  Honestly, I've never hired anyone who is as good in the sack, and most I've bored don't look as good as my wife.  

I hired women for all sorts of stupid reasons.  Sometimes just boredom, to see who would show up (I took a lot for the team, posted a lot of first reviews for TER).  A lot of times I never even had sex with the girls I hired.  I like meeting people for the first time, getting to know them.  I like first dates.  I like first kisses.

There were a few girls I saw a few times, and sometimes I would talk about my wife, and it was always a weird conversation.  One girl fell in love with me and amidst the big mess that caused she actually called my wife and told my wife she loved me!  Yow, that was awkward.  Yea -- my wife found out about my whoring, and it was weird, but we worked it out and I ended up introducing my wife to several prostitutes I knew, and who she was curious about because they were particularly special people and I told her a lot about them.  I promised not to have sex with others any more, of course.  And credit to my wife: She worked hard to keep me satisfied!  But honestly, the whole episode made me think differently.  Hiring women wasn't my secret little adventure any more.  It was just paying to meet strangers. And that seemed silly.

Then last year I happened to run into a girl that I once had a serious OTC thing with (I've had lots of OTC time with various people, but this was serious -- I actually considered leaving my wife, and this girl would have definitely gone anywhere with me), and me and this girl spent a lot of time talking, and we're still in contact, but now it's totally platonic.  Suddenly she seems so... young.  Honestly, I couldn't image having sex with her.  It would be like having sex with my niece or something.

I do like to see escorts for the same reason the rest of you do. I love sex. I love variety. I love to talk to interesting people and escorts are very interesting. I enjoy it. It is great fun.

Yet it is not why I do it. In fact when I first started to see escorts I didn't enjoy it. I felt a like I was losing some thing. I felt a great deal of guilt about having sex with others besides my wife even though my wife pushed me to do so. More then a few times I vowed that it was the last time, then my wife talked me in to doing it again as it made her feel better about her choices.

At the same time I hated my wife's job. She is not doing it for the money. She is doing it because part of her needs it. This made me feel like I was losing everything.

In short there was no balance in my marriage or my life.

When I realized I was not sneaking around behind my wifes back and developed boundaries that worked for me. Boundaries that kept something special reserved just for my wife. I started to enjoy it more.

When I realized my wife still wanted me, and I started to enjoy seeing the ladies. I was able to really accept my wifes choice on her profession. I seen you can separate sex from a real relationship. I realized just like I may have sex with others I am coming home to my wife and while she was having around with others as well she is coming home to me.

Yes, I enjoy the sex. I enjoy it quite a lot. Yes, I enjoy the variety and the different experiences the hobby provides. Yes, I like the companionship of beautiful women I have met though the hobby. Still in reality the hobby empty and fail to satisfy. As I get sex regularly from a lady that loves me and I have real companionship from the same lady at home, I do not need the hobby for those things. I do not need the variety.

But the hobby does add something to my life, it adds balance and prospective. I am not as near as jealous of my wife's clients as I have learned that while she may enjoy their company it is not real. Just like my time with escorts while fun is also not real. It brings balance in that way.

In addition as I no longer fight with my wife over the hobby and play by her rules, it has shown I really have accepted what my wife does. I know it is not orthodox but it works for us. A few years ago this May I had divorce papers drawn. Now, things are better. My marriage is happy.

Part of me still hopes my wife will quit her job and forbid me from playing. I think part of me always will. But until that time I will enjoy what many of you guys wish your wives would grant and see the ladies I wish to see, with my wife's blessing.

I haven't hobbyed much lately do to health reasons but I will partake when I am up to speed again. It is now part of my marriage until my wife tells me other wise.

Photo of Sarah C from Met-Art.com

No, I don't know Scoed.  But he's honest, articulate and secure enough with himself to not be afraid to show vulnerability.  He also brings a unique perspective to this board.

Also, he posts great pictures -a true public servant.

Scoed has been honest about his situation and how he has learned to handle it. You on the other hand.... well who can say.

Where you and I differ is that I am secure with believing everyone is OK and competent to handle their life. Then there is no need to put anyone else down to prop up one's own feelings of inadequacy and insecurity. That is the difference between you and scoed as I see it: he is much more comfortable in his skin than you are in yours. It's OK. As long as your alive there's hope you might grow up and mature.

I made a promise. To scoed, the mods, and some ladies to be a good guy. You're making it very hard for me.

Right now I want to tear you to pieces on the board. I stress the board. If you feel the need to whack anyone, here I am.

I just hope the mods will give me the same consideration to do something in retaliation...

Fuck. This being a kinder, gentler Mikey thing is gonna be tough for a while...

You don't meet too many people like him in your life.

A lot of fucking people here can take a page from his book.

I don't date average looking girls. I did in the past though, but I haven't dated an average looking girl for like 10 years.

See, here's the thing. I'll use an analogy of a hot looking provider that gets a 10/10 score. So, the first session was unbelievably good. Second session, she starts to get comfortable around you, and her performance starts to slack off, so, it wasn't as good as the first time. The third session, it seems like an average session, but still good nonetheless because she looks hot. Fourth session, you basically explored her entire body, you've seen it and done it, and nothing is new anymore. The fifth session, you are starting to doubt yourself for paying money because it wasn't as good as the first time.

It's like that with a hot SO, but, with an SO, you gotta live with them. Well, at least part of the time if she has her own place. I hobby so I can satisfy my own needs, and have variety. I can't keep on eating a filet everyday, sometimes I need some chicken or a pork sandwich.

I feel that hobbying makes my relationship better because I don't "cheat" on my wife with other women. That is, starting a relationship behind their backs. So, this hobby allows me to fulfill my desires by eating a variety of food.

All my girlfriends, I would rate a 9 or a 10 in appearance.  Mostly 10, that's why I made so much effort 'chasing' them in the first place. I've dated some victoria secret models, porn star, and a former stripper at a very upscale club.

As for why I hobby, that is still a mystery to me as well and a damn good question.

I'd say it's not just 1 reason but a variety of reasons.

1) It has a lot to do with wanting variety,
2) being generally full of testosterone and horny,
3) and wanting to be literally drowned in the scent of a nice ripe raw pussy to the point of being intoxicated from it.
4) Hobby offers a precise menu of what we want and we can get it without much guess work.

Doubles, Check.
Triples, Check.
Porn stars, Check check check check
CIM, check, check check chekc check
Swallower, check.. check check check
Greek, Check.
Top rated gorgeous ladies, Check check check times many+ lol

I think I've mostly satisfied my fantasies and curiosities that it's not really new anymore and there isn't much curiosity involved other than the thrill of meeting a new hot girl and fucking each others brains out.
That's always fun.

Now having that said, I've seriously been considering taking a short break from the hobby cuz the new girl I'm in a relationship with seems she's worth it and starting to get a soft heart for her. lol

That's my big head talking. My smaller head tells me I should continue to hobby and have been.  Maybe polygamy is built into the male genetics, but then having a healthy loving relationship means something too. I guess I'll see how it goes.

I have an attractive wife that likes sex but the sex is all about her, and has not changed in many years.  I have tried for years to try new things with little luck.

I still get a BBBJ but only until I get hard enough for her to jump on.  Once in a Blue moon I will get a dedicated BBBJCIM but then I hear about it for days like it was a huge favor.  I love DATY and have given hundreds of orgasms orally for each one I have received.

Both of us are focused on her getting off and what I truly love about providers are their focus on me being pleasured.  I may seem selfish but it is nice to be all about me with a hot lover once in a while.

But then again...  lol!

It's honest, reflective, and pretty much describes my reasons to hobby despite having an SO, who also, like Scoed's SO, is  a provider and encourages me to hobby.

If your objection is that we are somehow perverting the sanctity of marriage or some such shit, what the hell are you doing on a fuck board any ways?

Other than that, I just don't get it, unless your being uber-ironic, or something like that.

If I were to rate them in terms of looks and performance they would get the following:

7/9
4/4
4/10
8/10
7/5
4/9
4/8
5/8
4/5

So, looks wise they might not all have been escort material, but performance wise they were pretty damn good as a whole.

I never ask if a guy is married or why he is seeing me, but many of them like to talk about it anyway.

And the sentiments expressed here by Scoed are so profound because they are so common.... at least with men who are more interested in having a connection than just banging a lifeless hottie. Many men say that they are disappointed with most of their escort experiences because they are very aware that it is all "fake." There is this fantasy and pretend element to it that is alluring, but, just as Disneyland loses it's magic as a child when you are old enough to notice the gears and levers that really move everything, so is the "let down" when the door is closing as the girl is leaving and it wasn't exactly as you fantasized.

I do my best to keep afloat the "suspension of disbelief"... but at the end of the day, it is what it is.

We like to have a crush. Be infatuated. We like to feel excited. We like to fantasize. There is a thrill in expectation that doesn't always carry over to the realization.

I saw a client recently who was incredibly handsome. I was soooooooooo excited and thought we were going to have so much fun. Nope. The chemistry just wasn't there and it just felt awkward. I would not be excited about seeing him again. But I did enjoy the initial thrill. I'm sure this is much like a client booking with a hot girl but didn't feel any connection when he saw her.

And sometimes, there is that magical "real" chemistry that arises in the middle of all of the "pretending." I have felt that. I'm sure you have, too, if you've done this for any length of time. Sometimes it's mutual. Sometimes it's just one-sided. Amazingly, that's when it gets dangerous. Someone can get hurt. It needs to stay in the unsatisfying "pretend" realm to be fun without hurting anyone.

No one wants to truly fall in love over and over again to experience the passion of new love just to end it and then fall in love again. Our hearts couldn't take it. We can only pretend.

It was the lure of the blow job.

After nearly 25 years of being with the same woman, I literally (almost) FELL into the hobby.  Headed on a business trip, I Googled "strip club reviews", and one of the returns was an escort review site.  Navigated there, saw reviews, thought "WTF is THIS?!?!"

Set a date, and here I am, years later.

So for 25 years I went without a blowjob (to completion), and I'm making up for lost time.  It doesn't hurt that some of the women I've met have been (and continue to be) good friends whose company I enjoy immensely.  They're true gems...

By the way, yes, my SO is still hot...and she's still mine...

Male insecurity....Interesting that so few men recognize that the need to fuck as many women as possible is to reinforce their self image through conquest of females. Mother Nature surely has the last laugh as she watches aging men, who suffer the self image decline the most, display their futile attempt to relive their more potent youth. Providers know this of course and leverage it to the max.

On big reason: I am busy all the time.  Also, I am Chinese; I do it partially for racial reason -- I have hotter time with white women and most providers are white women.  I also do it for because of younger women are available out there; I am 46, most providers are in their 20s and 30s.

Are those reasons good enough if you are in my shoes?

If it works for an individual and/or couple who is to say they or their life is a mess.

Nope.  I was a member here for a long time.  No urge to pay, and no new reviews coming.  I'm just curious now & then what some of you guys are still up to.  And it's fun to see how the conversations never change.

What's up scoed?  I don't have nuthin' to say that can't be said in front of a bunch of drunken 12 year olds and whores.

That used to go after my marriage, but in a way meant to help. I was wondering if you are he?

Anyway here is a photo of Ai Haneda from SexAsain18.com

...a lot of guys, and lots of women, both in and out of the business.  

After years as client, provider, boyfriend, etc, I can say this with certainty:

Both clients and providers...

1) ...all desperately want to think they're different.
2) ...are all really pretty much the same.

This might sound cynical at first, but it's actually a really sweet thing.  We're all soul mates under the fake boobs and droopy middle-age man pecs. So...

Group hug, everybody!  There ya go.  Now guys -- pay the girls.  I know y'all were really thinking about her tits pressing against your chest instead of how much we all had in common.  Fuckin' dawgs.

I wasn't going to respond to Fuckhead_in_Buckhead as he was not worth my time or effort. It is good though to see this support. Thanks!

As a thank you here is a photo of a chick with large tata's so MP will enjoy. Photo is from Met-Art.com and is of Sofi A.

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My wife could step onto a stage and compete in Figure right now (That's a category in physique competitions).  She's the hottest lady I've ever been with...period.

She understands men and knows that a man's need to seek variety is something that can't be denied. So she has chosen to acknowledge it and to manage it.  She actually prefers hobbying over civie relationships because of the transactional/NSA nature of it all.  A provider is never going to be looking to be the next Mrs. Dumbjock. I tell her who I'm going to see and when.  She has veto authority if she doesn't like how a lady looks or presents herself.   It's ironic that when the ladies are screening me they are being screened by the wife.

When I was presented with this opportunity, I thought I'd be booking sessions every week and giving Beefeater a serious run.  But when the forbidden fruit lost its taboo it also lost a bit of its flavor.  So, I hobby rarely.   Damn, maybe the wife is even smarter than I thought.  lol

one of the most honest and sincere that I've seen on TER. And the man has balls for putting his personal situation out here like that, where there's always some hater waiting to attack with vicious and unnecessary bile.

Cheers to you, Scoed, and thanks for your post. I would like to buy you a McRib, good sir.

not only does he have a great sex life; he has a sexually active wife, one that encourages him to hobby, and he has the insight, sensitivity, and ability to articulate a very rare insight to inspire others.  I have it pretty good as well, at least I have permission; but I'm no where near the self awareness and the personal maturity level of Mr Scoed.  I'm very impressed by his post.