Assumptions: You've reached your financial objectives; You're a millionaire, in your 30's, own your home, totally secure, can support and educate your children, have an SO that you love and pleases you sexually.

When you retire, will you miss the "hobby"?  

If so, why, and if not, why not?

You're assuming that an SO and children are prerequisite in the sublime solace of success.

 The last thing I would want if financially secure before forty is a live in nag chronically reciting "what the matter is with me" and offspring in which she would utilize in defrocking me of my millions with the help of the Family Law courts.

 The whole idea of the hobby is to have it when you want it, how you want it, and then return to your Separate Peace when you’re done with it. IMO that dynamic on many levels is by in large the very reason for becoming a millionaire.  


-- Modified on 5/18/2008 1:05:31 PM

Rex Harrison was delightful in My My Fair Lady.  As I recall, he did ultimately surrender on the street where you live.

My assumptions were intended to elicit responses not to set prerequisites.

The question persists, how and what do you ladies envision your retirement?

Perhaps I am unique or possibly many providers feel this way:

When I started in the "biz" I had specific goals. As the years went by and the goals were realized, so did my client base.  (*That is gentlemen to whom I spent time with, enjoyed their company and considered friends- Not that the added income was ever "not appreciated" *)

My choice to retire started as a semi-retirement, followed by an incredible opportunity for one last huge whoo-rah: "The 401K tour- to end all" following the return form that tour, I just stopped meeting with clients.

I think my stages were:
- Only meeting with established friends- and "thinning out" the established friends to leave only: generous friends that I enjoy and trust (*this took about a year*)

- Raising my "suggested gift donation" and extending the minimal visit to multiple hours (*this excluded about 40% of the existing clients*)

-  Selectively making appointment times available on a limited basis in a limited area (*this dropped about 10% more, leaving the "list of clients" around 200*)

- Finally going only to "multiple day trips" ...-or- ... meeting only with "good friends" who were also clients when I was available in their area.

I now enjoy another life outside of the Adult Entertainment Field and dabble in the hobby when I feel the need for excitement &/or when I am missing the EXTRA lucrative cash flow.   I now enjoy the best of both worlds and have considered myself in a permanent state of Semi-retirement. I know I am fortunate to have met many of the gentlemen that I have and I am thankful for the joy & fulfillment my participation in the hobby has afforded me.

As far as what I will miss: Nothing, I have retained the possibility to enjoy all of the traits of the hobby that I enjoy while leaving what I didn't like behind.

My wish to other women involved in the hobby is that they have the same enjoyment, the same rewards and the same opportunity that I was afforded by my participation.  kisses...
That woman formerly known as ~Tori of Atlanta

First, a lot of us are not 30 but I can certainly see your point, since a lot of providers seem to start out young. However, those who do usually retire from the profession a lot sooner.

Second, not all of us want -- or are too old to have -- children. My animals are my kids.

Third, you don't have to be successful and happy with a man. That is an engrained notion from the 1940s & 1950s but times are changing. I'm a perfect example of that. I am very happy being single, not to say that I would never have someone in my life, but I can take care of myself if I have to and very well.

On the other hand, what would I do if I were stinking rich and not just a millionaire: 1) Travel a lot; 2) Move to the ocean; 3) Own a small yacht and an airplane (because I love the water and want my pilot's license); 4) Open up animal & people shelters; and 5) Most important to me is being able to help my family and my closest friends.  

Hugs,
Ciara





-- Modified on 5/18/2008 2:25:05 PM

Geesh! A lot of men on this board make it sound like all women nag. On the contrary, I find that men are more sensitive and degrading at times. I think each person is different. So . . . as you can see from me stating, "On the contrary . . . " I am stating that I feel the opposite. But do I really mean it?

A lot of providers say they are in this business because they don't want to listen to men's lies, to have them cheat on them, putting up with their hair in the sink and toilet seats up every day, hearing their whining about their jobs on a daily basis (although it's okay to talk about things that are bothering you with your spouse, but some seem to think about themselves only).

So, believe me when I say that we all have our love for the opposite sex, our prejudices (hopefully not preconceived for the next person like you guys seem to voice on the board), and dislikes.

Oh, I almost forgot: I loved the movie, "My Fair Lady" and did the play. Also, Henry Higgins finally gave in to Eliza in the end and she showed him that she could be a true lady and get his slippers for him as long as he respected her.


Hugs,
Ciara




-- Modified on 5/18/2008 9:18:37 PM

I am not sure if I will miss the hobby or not.
First of all I will be 52 when I retire.....So all that there is that goes with me and my 52 years...has mostly happened. I began this SEXY journey 4 years ago.

I know I will def have an SO who is as sensual as I am. I WILL not live without SEX
To be desired and to share this desire is to my good health!!

BUT I know one thing that I love about this hobby and I can understand why there is a hobby....
V A R I E T Y

I have loved the variety of gentlemen.
A Melting pot of SEXY MEN...and the fantasies that they shared with me

I can also state that I am SOOOOOOO glad I am not a man. I rather enjoy my SEXINESS and I KNOW I can get it when I want it. It's not the same for the guys.

I don't plan on missing the hobby. I'm going to take what I've experienced and reap the rewards.
I've learned that most relationships seem to fall apart because of the lack of intimacy and cookie-cutter sex.
Knowledge is power.

Sexy Carolina

Well I have worked off and on for 18 yrs now. And this has been my sole source of income. Seems whenever I try to stop and change careers...or move in with a man and be monogomous...it just doesnt work for me fot very long. I am missing and craving the sex..the risk..the money..the thrill..the variety.I am addicted.This is my drug of choice. I am 45 now but men say I look 32. So for now I will work as long as they pay. Am I rich. No. I wish.But I think even if I was...I would miss working if I stopped. I am a sex addict. Please feed my addiction.!!!

Assuming those were my goals (they're not my current goals... my personal goals are a little more complicated) then I guess that would be the societal definition of success.

When I retire, it will be before all of the goals you mentioned are achieved and it will be next spring, to be honest. I will miss some of the good friends I feel I've made in this, I will miss some of the hilarity and the camraderie that you do occassionally find between some of the amazing ladies and gents on here. I will miss being able to gossip with the ladies about the things that happen in sessions (bc my civvie friends don't have a clue as to how to do some of the stuff we do!)

What I won't miss is trying to keep myself safe from LE, violent people, some of the psychos who occassionally contact you, and fearing being exposed.

Katie

Goals of us all!

Which brings up THE one thing I will not miss when I retire.
The weirdos and the grade-school drama.

If only THE participants could all realize the importance of this hobby. Keeping things PERSONAL and never using other's for their PERSONAL gain. Keeping a positive attitude and staying true to yourself and knowing with appreciation exactly what the benefits are ....Oh the places you can go!!
I would suggest to any lady to travel. And meet guys from all parts of the country. They are all different. But do it up. Spoil yourself. And go to concerts and games and museums and the best bistros!! And look up. WALK the cities. And then take your family along for the ride. Share it. Do it while you can. And all that fun and sexy stuff makes up for the wackos we run across in the hobby. One thing I have learned. to never do anything I don't want to. So if you stick with what you like and be honest and enjoy yourself this hobby can change your life for the better.

I doubt that I will 'retire' from this anytime soon and having an SO would not necessarily be a goal when I do retire (unless he's willing to have an open relationship. I love the variety in this), but when I do retire, I will probably miss 'this' quite a bit.

But I can always live vicariously through what I read on these review boards.

Jas

Dude, smack your English Lit teacher. Clearly you did NOT understand John Knowles.

The rest of your post was too stupid to respond to

-- Modified on 5/19/2008 6:22:45 PM

It was a joke:  Much like the a classic band that re-grouped for a final tour was known as the 401K tour-. (*Now stop hating and be happy some were capable of rising above the pettiness, I'll laugh it off because I know where your post comes from*)

my meager existance... I lived in a simple 2 bedroom apartment - nothing special... just a few rooms and bath....  it costs me... just to sit in the apartment - without food, or clothing... and going nowhere.... $16 grand a year....  add insurance, a car, food... ya know, things that are nice to have?   well - you get the picture.

a mill?   Bwahahahahaha!

I'm not sure it's the teacher's fault, though we cannot be sure of his education background. I think he just missed it. Maybe he was the slacker in the back who slept through that class.

Katie