Sometimes I will click on a guy's profile and he has several reviews but no white lists. This sort of thing makes me a little nervous. I don't yet have VIP (still working out how to pay for it anonymously), so I can't see any of his reviews- only his white lists. Is it weird or unusual that a guy should have reviews but not white lists? Is it a red flag?

Why? Because so many have said, they use the WL system like they would any other reference system. When I give a WL, it is my golden seal of approval...much more than saying he did not rip me off and washed his ass.

to turn your white list off, so it won't show.

I've asked, and ladies have recommended/verified me on Date-Check which I believe to be more important. Almost all of the ladies I have dated are on TER - so maybe I should ask them for a Whitelist as well?
I just figured that having reviews on TER is good enough. But I can see how a non-VIP lady can be concerned - since you can't see any details.

i have a whole bunch of whitelists and have never "courted" or asked for any..many providers use them..others consider them worthless..to me they are a welcome " seal of approval" given generously by ladies whom i have had a great time with..and yes..i always wash my ass..it helps..

I turned mine off.

Some providers I've seen gave me green light because the white-list, however P411 has opened more doors.
Just once succumbed to provide extra info -- real name, work phone -- for a VIP Escort that really was worth it

I like having them. I like having as many things as possible for a provider to see/check out so she can feel comfortable with me when I request a visit with her for the first time. I am not concerned if she happens to be one of the ladies that doesn't use them. I'm covered if she does use them. No one should rely on any one thing for screening.

I will only open it if a girl wants to use it to verify me.
I can be an ass here. I don't want to make a girl look bad for vouching for me.
So sometimes the guys you are looking at do have whitelist referrals.
But they disabled the function.

I guess if I have to ask, I am not on any. Doesn't seem to be hindering me.

I agree with Hound 100%. If a lady wants to see them 'on' they go. Otherwise they're invisible. Great question Sarah.

With one or two exceptions, I don't usually do it unless asked.  

I wonder how many ladies feel this way. I have given a few white lists, but they are because I would be very pleased to see those gents again.  

hide their white lists. And not knowing that I have not given full consideration to some gents (although that alone hasn't been a reason I've declined to see someone). Now that I know this I will ask.  

But why hide them???

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Many men do not want other providers knowing who they see, so they hide the WL or review certain providers under an alias. There are many crazy, jealous providers who would actually give a client shit for seeing a certain provider...has happened to me a dozen times. Sure, it's pathetic, but it does happen and some men have to protect themselves.

because they don't want other girls to know they saw me.    

Damn...for me it is because they don't want to hear shit about paying 600 bucks to me, when other girls look better and charge less bwahahhaa. Aint that a bitch!

I embarrass myself enough with some of the crazy/stupid shit I post here.
It's not fair to the women that vouched for me.

Hi Sarah,

I've been lucky enough  to have several ladies white list me, some w/o asking, others I've asked, just to have a few.
For myself, a white list indicates the provider would see me again. I think it makes it easier on the other providers to assess me or whomever.

I still can't find where they are at in this site...

I will WL you if ask me to.  It's not a big deal to do so.  But, honestly, I do forget to do it on my own.  You have to remind me.

Nice post, Liam! Beautifully written.

the whitelist is her way of saying you're ok.  is it foolproof?  nope, but I'm sure most ladies agree it's an extra step that makes them feel better - especially if the other lady is well respected.  I have never asked for one.  If a lady wants to give one, great.  If not, as long as she's still willing to be a reference, it's ok by me.  Her choice.  First lady I ever saw in Vegas (a well respected one) gave me a whitelist off the bat to help me in my Vegas encounters.  I will always appreciate her for that.  Another lady I've seen countless times has never whitelisted me, but has recommended me to her friends and gave me a good reference whenever I needed one.  So to some up, it's up to the ladies, but I would think most guys don't ask for them.  Some may, but most probably don't