I will be meeting my ATF at her house for a 3 hour dinner date.
We have only had 1 hour dates so this is a little new to me.
To set the mood I will bring the win, and she is cooking. Would you recomend that I bring anything else. She is really looking forward to this meeting as well as I am. Just need some input.

Just relax and be yourself!  She obviously likes you enough to invite you into her home and cook dinner.  Other than possibly bringing a desert that can be shared in a sensual manner or a CD of music that you think she might enjoy during dinner, just bring yourself.  

On longer dates, you need to be able to converse with a lady during the down times.  Since have seen her before, you should know a bit about each other and conversation should come easy.  If you haven't talked too much in the past, consider opening up to her about yourself with things that you feel comfortable about.  She may do the same for you and things will just flow naturally.

If your ATF becomes your girlfriend, do you stop giving her $$$$?

If he thinks the gravy train has left the track then he's hitting the pipe. ATF to GF = Mo Money, Mo Money. It's cheaper if she stays his ATF because chooses when he sees her. If he's looking for a relationship, then he'll get to pay his tithes at the altar of love or he'll be sent packing.

Offer to help -- either with preparation or with cleanup; be sure to compliment her on the meal, on her appearance and on the great time you're having. Thank her for all the effort.  Be interested in her.  Listen to her.  Ask questions but don't be nosy.  Don't mention other women.  Put yourself in the mindset that she has made you forget all other women you've ever known.

and they are "dating", NOT to stop collecting at GO.  Because once he gets something for free, then she will regret it. I've been there and done it, and regretted it to the very end. Still collect your fee. Too many times I've had provider friends who think they hit the "jackpot" in love with a client, and regretted it when they stopped charging.

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It was the relationship itself.  But they felt they had been taken advantage of, and felt that if they had continued cahrging, then at least they would have gotten the money, and wouldn't have that awful feeling of being "used".

But if they go into a deeper relationship with the expectation that it will fail (which is what continuing to charge means, and also what it tells the guy), then of course it *will* fail.

The best solution to all of this is to exercise better judgement about which guy is the right guy, and then stop charging.  At least you have a chance of winning this way, and haven't given up at the start.