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I think more should be like you and they would probably experience more rewarding sessions. Sometimes I wonder why men out there don't see that - while variety is fun and exciting, seeing a new girl every time guarantees that you will never enjoy the pleasures of seeing someone you've been able to get to a comfortable report with.  
I think usually the 3 or 4th session with someone are the best because you have a sense of the other person, shouldn't be too nervous anymore, and you can accurately decide at that point if that person is a good partner for you by knowing how they do past the first time they see someone.  
There are providers out there who basically only want to see first-time clients and they stick to that, but they typically have a bit of a routine they use with most people and then they go down hill the more times you see them, so you do need to know how to pick out the right ones. Look for ladies that say they want to have a genuine connection with who they see and that chemistry matters to them and you will probably find a lady your speed.  
In conclusion,  I have thought many times how sad it is that I only maybe had one shot to impress someone, and that they missed out because maybe they thought I was too shy because I didn't jump them at the door. I just don't roll that way, seems ridiculous and I don't know any girls who would do that in the real world the first time they meet someone. I would prefer things to seem more natural.  

Posted By: donbecker54
I was never good at one-night stands when I was young, and only did them when I was drunk. I've always needed to spend a little time with a woman to get comfortable.  
   
 I'm not surprised that the same goes for time spent with a provider.  I've been nervous at the first sessions, and it hasn't been a great experience. This past weekend was the first time I saw a provider for a second session, and things went much better. I was more relaxed, knew her a little better (to the extent that she lets herself be known), had a better feel for what she says she likes, and she knew better what I liked.  
   
 I expect the next session to be even better, all things being equal.  
   
 I'm just wondering how many providers have clients like me. Are just a few like that, or is it more than a few who need multiple sessions to get comfortable with you?
Related Link: http://www.EstellaAyres.com

donbecker54583 reads

I was never good at one-night stands when I was young, and only did them when I was drunk. I've always needed to spend a little time with a woman to get comfortable.

I'm not surprised that the same goes for time spent with a provider.  I've been nervous at the first sessions, and it hasn't been a great experience. This past weekend was the first time I saw a provider for a second session, and things went much better. I was more relaxed, knew her a little better (to the extent that she lets herself be known), had a better feel for what she says she likes, and she knew better what I liked.

I expect the next session to be even better, all things being equal.

I'm just wondering how many providers have clients like me. Are just a few like that, or is it more than a few who need multiple sessions to get comfortable with you?

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EstellaAyrs400 reads

I think more should be like you and they would probably experience more rewarding sessions. Sometimes I wonder why men out there don't see that - while variety is fun and exciting, seeing a new girl every time guarantees that you will never enjoy the pleasures of seeing someone you've been able to get to a comfortable report with.  
I think usually the 3 or 4th session with someone are the best because you have a sense of the other person, shouldn't be too nervous anymore, and you can accurately decide at that point if that person is a good partner for you by knowing how they do past the first time they see someone.  
There are providers out there who basically only want to see first-time clients and they stick to that, but they typically have a bit of a routine they use with most people and then they go down hill the more times you see them, so you do need to know how to pick out the right ones. Look for ladies that say they want to have a genuine connection with who they see and that chemistry matters to them and you will probably find a lady your speed.  
In conclusion,  I have thought many times how sad it is that I only maybe had one shot to impress someone, and that they missed out because maybe they thought I was too shy because I didn't jump them at the door. I just don't roll that way, seems ridiculous and I don't know any girls who would do that in the real world the first time they meet someone. I would prefer things to seem more natural.  

Posted By: donbecker54
I was never good at one-night stands when I was young, and only did them when I was drunk. I've always needed to spend a little time with a woman to get comfortable.  
   
 I'm not surprised that the same goes for time spent with a provider.  I've been nervous at the first sessions, and it hasn't been a great experience. This past weekend was the first time I saw a provider for a second session, and things went much better. I was more relaxed, knew her a little better (to the extent that she lets herself be known), had a better feel for what she says she likes, and she knew better what I liked.  
   
 I expect the next session to be even better, all things being equal.  
   
 I'm just wondering how many providers have clients like me. Are just a few like that, or is it more than a few who need multiple sessions to get comfortable with you?
Related Link: http://www.EstellaAyres.com

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donbecker54255 reads

Thank you. That makes me feel a bit more normal. ;) I knew there's guys who like a different girl every time. I prefer quality over quantity. ;) (I went through thousands of provider ads in my part of the country before deciding to contact this latest lady; I'm particular about everything).

The first time neither of us knew what the other liked. By the second time, she was comfortable enough to tell me what she didn't like as well as did like, and I was comfortable enough to say "could you please do this?".  

She's said that she likes DATY, and she seemed to enjoy what I was giving her the second session. Some moves got better reactions than others. Next time I'll know better.

I was comfortable enough to suggest that she try one thing or another when giving me a BJ, things that I like. I'll bet that next time she's much better at it.

The best sex I've ever had hands-down was with my ex. That's because: a)she's really good at it and; b)we got to know what each other liked.  

Third  session with this latest lady won't be for several weeks. I can't wait

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chipjeep282 reads

did not go very well. I thought for sure we were gonna be 'one and done'. We talked through the boards and email for about a year before we met again. After meeting again, I found out that she was one of the most amazing women I had ever met!

We saw each other many times (all extended dates) for the next 2 years or so before she had to retire. Guys who only do 'one & dones' just don't know what they are missing!

I don't recommend going 'exclusive' with a lady though. Falling for a provider rarely ends well!

 

Posted By: donbecker54
Thank you. That makes me feel a bit more normal. ;) I knew there's guys who like a different girl every time. I prefer quality over quantity. ;) (I went through thousands of provider ads in my part of the country before deciding to contact this latest lady; I'm particular about everything).  
   
 The first time neither of us knew what the other liked. By the second time, she was comfortable enough to tell me what she didn't like as well as did like, and I was comfortable enough to say "could you please do this?".  
   
 She's said that she likes DATY, and she seemed to enjoy what I was giving her the second session. Some moves got better reactions than others. Next time I'll know better.  
   
 I was comfortable enough to suggest that she try one thing or another when giving me a BJ, things that I like. I'll bet that next time she's much better at it.  
   
 The best sex I've ever had hands-down was with my ex. That's because: a)she's really good at it and; b)we got to know what each other liked.  
   
 Third  session with this latest lady won't be for several weeks. I can't wait.  
   
 

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earthshined239 reads

at the 3rd or 4th date.  

Something always happens and I/she realize the bloom is off the rose, so to speak.

just happened last week. it was our 4th date. while it wasnt a terrible time we just didn' get in sync. she seemed preoccupied and I noticed so I was sort of uncomfortable.

I wish I knew what it was...
 

Posted By: EstellaAyrs
I think more should be like you and they would probably experience more rewarding sessions. Sometimes I wonder why men out there don't see that - while variety is fun and exciting, seeing a new girl every time guarantees that you will never enjoy the pleasures of seeing someone you've been able to get to a comfortable report with.  
 I think usually the 3 or 4th session with someone are the best because you have a sense of the other person, shouldn't be too nervous anymore, and you can accurately decide at that point if that person is a good partner for you by knowing how they do past the first time they see someone.  
 There are providers out there who basically only want to see first-time clients and they stick to that, but they typically have a bit of a routine they use with most people and then they go down hill the more times you see them, so you do need to know how to pick out the right ones. Look for ladies that say they want to have a genuine connection with who they see and that chemistry matters to them and you will probably find a lady your speed.  
 In conclusion,  I have thought many times how sad it is that I only maybe had one shot to impress someone, and that they missed out because maybe they thought I was too shy because I didn't jump them at the door. I just don't roll that way, seems ridiculous and I don't know any girls who would do that in the real world the first time they meet someone. I would prefer things to seem more natural.  
   
Posted By: donbecker54
I was never good at one-night stands when I was young, and only did them when I was drunk. I've always needed to spend a little time with a woman to get comfortable.  
     
  I'm not surprised that the same goes for time spent with a provider.  I've been nervous at the first sessions, and it hasn't been a great experience. This past weekend was the first time I saw a provider for a second session, and things went much better. I was more relaxed, knew her a little better (to the extent that she lets herself be known), had a better feel for what she says she likes, and she knew better what I liked.  
     
  I expect the next session to be even better, all things being equal.  
     
  I'm just wondering how many providers have clients like me. Are just a few like that, or is it more than a few who need multiple sessions to get comfortable with you?

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justanillusion354 reads

I am always a tad nervous when I first meet a new client. Some guys are great right out of the gate and others need to be settled in. Subsequent visits do get better for the most part when we get "to know each other" a little better.

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MagicMedic364 reads

I remember my first "date". I was wound up tighter than a coon dog trying to pass a peach seed.  If you have ever seen it you know what I mean.

I'm a pretty confident guy, but I was nervous.  She recognized that, got me couple of shots and 2 hours later I was driving in the wrong direction to go home.

I think being nervous is part of the excitement on both sides.

Good post though, it made me remember a really great night.

MM

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London Rayne327 reads

A guy has plenty of time to get comfortable, and if that does not work...I just get his ass drunk lol. I honestly don't know how anyone can just flip that switch and get comfy in a damn hour...all my hourly dates usually went to 90 min. because of that very reason. I could tell the guy was nervous, shy, etc. and could not perform, so I usually ended up trying to play shrink for 30 min. before we could even start getting to the action.  

OTOH, guys who have been around the hobby a while know the drill. They have a plan, know exactly how they want the date to flow, and it really takes the guess work out of it on our ends.

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donbecker54316 reads

"...all my hourly dates usually went to 90 min. because of that very reason."

I booked two hours with this lady the first time to allow for the nervousness to settle down, give some time for talk, and the rest for play. The second time I booked three hours, and near the end of that I asked if she could go for four, but she had somewhere to be.  Next time.

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GaGambler251 reads

I don't know about the rest of the guys, but I can go from zero to sixty in about one second flat if the lady is hot. I don't mind a bit of chit chat, but it's certainly not necessary to get my motor running, but I may not be the norm.

And actually even though I have been around the hobby for decades I don't really "know the drill" every session, and every lady is different, If I knew exactly how a session was going to go before I got there this would be a very boring hobby to me.

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martythewall260 reads

I repeat if it is amazing or I think it can be.  I am still nervous as hell the first meeting.  I have no problem getting going once I know I am not going to jail or the hospital.  Max repeats are 5 times but then I see a younger crowd, and they tend to drift away.  Current Fav might have a few more visits. but the whole point for me is variety.

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Nolklylu298 reads

Can absolutely be disastrous if you don't have a plan. As soon as you walk in the door you have to sense if there is sufficient comfort to get the action going. I usually hesitate for just a moment to see if the lady has a plan ( or starts disrobing LOL) and I if don't get that vibe, I begin to direct the date. The challenge (from a time perspective) is when the lady decides she needs to get to know you . . . And the clock ticks away. That is why I try not not do 1 hour dates. We are both much more relaxed about the visit.

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onyx_percula269 reads

I am the same way, rarely really comfortable on a first session.

For me having a longer date doesn't really cut it. I my case I need time after the session to process it, replay it if you will. I often am focused on the moment and being a man miss too much of the subtle shit women put out there in what to them is crystal clear signals and we are oblivious to, lol. I suspect that many hobbyists are like me in that regard.

I have been booking two hour sessions, but the more I think about it the more I think I would rather book an hour for the first session, then if warranted book further sessions for 2+ hours. Make the first date a test drive, see if she if a possible fit or not.

I have wondered if when a hobbyist becomes a regular if it because the event is so good or that they build a rappour with the companion rather he realizes it or not. Men get turned on by subtle things too, as well as the glaringly obvious like T&A&P. It takes time for any women to figure us out.

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