she is open to you deciding on the activites of the session rather than she being the one to decide, which I think is how most guys like it anyways.

To me it signals that the provider will let me put them in restraints and fuck them.

I have an upcoming appointment with a provider who says she has a submissive side. I would say that in a a typical playdate of mine the provider is already mildly submissive (kneeling BBJ, slight tugging of her hair, etc.), hence my desire for clarification. I would certainly like to broaden my experience by playing into my upcoming partner's submissive sensibility. Any suggestions on how I should interpret when a provider specifically says she has a submissive side? Does it mean more dominant speak? More firm handling?

It mans u can drag her around the room by the hair!!!  lol
Come on man, ya don't know what submissive means??
Google it!!

in my experience, when a person describes themselves as having a submissive "side," they are typically referring to erotic encounters in which they sometimes are aroused by temporarily taking on a passive or subservient role. note the key words: "sometimes," "aroused," "temporarily," and "role." this is not to be confused with a person who actually identifies as submissive, those for whom it is not a role nor an erotic pleasure but simply an innate personality trait which manifests in some manner in all aspects of their lives.

Submission can cover a huge range of activities, from mild spankings to verbal humiliation to play-rape scenes to golden showers to anything in between. Many women like to be spanked so try that.Start lightly and read her cues. If you spank her and she tries to get away, stop. If she arches her ass in the air and says spank me harder, go for it. I'd ask her what she likes because some like different things and some do NOT like things others like.

Let THAT roll around in your noddle for awhile...!

She is probably most aroused when the man takes control and is more dominant sexually.  It doesnt necessarily mean she wants to be spanked or tied up-- maybe she just wants rougher sex or to be on her knees when she gives you oral sex.  And c*m on her body/face etc.  You know, normal stuff.

I have to agree with lilli.  I will further go on to say that maybe you should ask the provider.  As submissive is different things to different people and submissive play spans a wide range of activities.  Some like it all from mild to wild while others do not.  Good luck and have fun!

Your typical playdate could be exactly what she means by submissive..

I find that with a weaker minded gentleman I tend to be dominant.. I don't do it consciously it just happens.. but with a strong alpha male.. I will fall into a submissive role..

You need to ask her what submissive means to her..

My suggestion is.. start with your typical playdate activities and see how it goes from there.

This is a game of trust and sick and it sounds, a bit of a gift to you. It's not every day a girls says.. "Have your way with me. It turns me on"

I caution you. Submissive means different things to different people. if you give her a good hard spanking she may not find that so fun...

Thanks for the informative discussion, it gave some valuable directions to extend beyond my typical playdate.  

Light spanking was appreciated, and interestingly, she asked for a more agressive missionary position wanting me to put more of my weight on her. I decided to pin one or both of her arms up over her head (lying on her back) with one of my free hands while groping with the other. She liked this too and submissively asked, "am I pleasing you?"

She liked being told what to do, especially when I told her what was going to happen next while still keeping her busy with the current activity. I think the comment about the temporary expression of submission was a good direction for this session. During our break time between rounds she wasn't a submissive conversationalist. And based on what she shared with me from personal stories, she doesn't seem to be submissive in other contexts. I was much more at ease having a conversation about non-sexual topics without having to remain in "dominant mode." This contrast also made her sudden submissiveness during sex even hotter because it felt like I was getting access to a very private aspect of her.

I was glad that I didn't have to ask her what she wanted me to do to make her feel more submissive. The act of asking could have defeated or at least detracted from the original intent for me to dominate. My main purpose for asking on this board was to navigate a way to be more dominant without unexpectedly crossing one of her thresholds, and things turned out well. Now, the mystery of where those thresholds lie for this provider lures me to see her again for more exploration.

I thank the providers' responses; their comments on the board are always very enlightening to me.