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CcityBby 2076 reads
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Just wondering why Ladies always post no black men?  Its all races of women not just white women.  I really wonder why they do it?  Last I checked money is green and women are in it for money.  There are plenty of ladies that missed out because of this.  Ladies any thoughts?

CincinnatiGuy 2 Reviews 668 reads
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Look...  for the 1,000,001 time: it's her body.

Is that so difficult?

Jeez!

perfectstorm 19 Reviews 688 reads
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Dr Who revived 651 reads
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"Led all NBA black players in fucking hookers during their career"

OK perfectstorm...

Posted By: perfectstorm
And probably 20 times in the last year!
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perfectstorm 19 Reviews 653 reads
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Wilt Chamberlain?
I'll take Ohio posters for 800.

Dr Who revived 627 reads
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"us"

Posted By: perfectstorm
Wilt Chamberlain?  
 I'll take Ohio posters for 800.

perfectstorm 19 Reviews 552 reads
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Serpi?
For a bonus correct answer, who is Capricorn?

:D

Dr Who revived 644 reads
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Double jeopardy is coming up shortly...and perfectstorm has 1,664,800 while yesterday's champ jinni has 1,777,952.  And Udo is still at a negative 200.
 

Posted By: perfectstorm
Serpi?  
 For a bonus correct answer, who is Capricorn?  
   
 :D

TSsometimes 424 reads
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Posted By: CcityBby
Just wondering why Ladies always post no black men?  Its all races of women not just white women.  I really wonder why they do it?  Last I checked money is green and women are in it for money.  There are plenty of ladies that missed out because of this.  Ladies any thoughts?

AlfredReader 17 Reviews 611 reads
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11 / 37

Yes, it is all races of women.

The most common explaination is some form of this:  some, mostly young, black men have developed a reputation for being thugs, and the good black men, the majority I am sure, get painted with the same brush.

Is it fair?  No.  But who have run into that, or know women who have, can feel that way.

The respectful black men often CAN see those women, but it's a tougher screening and convincing process.

CaitlynKennedy See my TER Reviews 626 reads
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12 / 37

on comments from others over the years...  

But the typical feeling is, that 90 percent of the providers who blatantly  say "no blacks"

are pimped providers.  

 
I actually know a pimp (albeit atypical and super sweet) and he told me he also has a rule for his girls of no black guys...  

and he is Hispanic lol!

hotplants 563 reads
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13 / 37

Hey, every provider has the option (in fact the right) to entertain who they choose, or who they choose not to. No argument there.  

But this topic repeats itself (over and over). Thing is, I have yet to ever see a single provider offer any reasonably justifiable reason why ALL black men are persona non grata. From an outside perspective it seems a bit like the status quo dictates that all [non]-black guys are....what?  good? behave themselves? Always? ( I doubt that)

But black guys....

Why should respectful black men have to go through a tougher screening and convincing process?  

There is no good answer to that one. All of the endless rationalization on this subject is pretty transparent

Udo 566 reads
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I work in southern Louisiana quite a bit and see this requirement quite often from the providers. In the Deep South, many women were brought up by their parents to "stay with their own kind." Simple answer in the south.

The answer in the north is more complex. I have heard from many providers in the north that they dislike many young black hobbyists since they claim these men want to be "very rough" in bed since these young guys are somewhat angry that they must pay a woman for sex. In short. these guys want to "get their money's worth" if paying a woman to have sex with them.

The other part is more complex and there seems to be a lack of respect for black men as socially responsible. My former coworker, a middle class black woman, will never date another black man after being married to a man that was not socially responsible and fathered kids to multiple women during their marriage.

In her opinion, many black men just spend all of their money on their nice clothes and a nice car while not having a dime in the bank for money for a decent house or money to support the kids they already fathered. In her opinion, the fancy clothes and nice cars leads these men to fathering even more kids they will not support.

She said it was a viscous cycle that lead to her having zero respect for black men.

CaitlynKennedy See my TER Reviews 536 reads
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clients I have seen have been respectful, generous, not overly rough if I said I did not like it. Not angry...  

But I can tell A LOT about any person after emailing and talking on the phone...  

Many of the ones you are describing @udo can be spotted right away by their speech, grammar, and writing skills

AlfredReader 17 Reviews 624 reads
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You are using the same one size fits every situation you condemn.  Racism is basing things on stories, hear-say of others, etc., without personal experience.

If a woman personally has had bad experiences with a number of black men who were thugs it is not racist for her to be more cautious about the next one.  To check more carefully before seeing him in a very vulnerable situation.

If I get ill a number of times after eating a piece of spoined chicken, I will probably take more convincing and checking up on the chef before eating the next piece of chicken.

elusive1two 418 reads
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oldted 16 Reviews 569 reads
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I swear you guys complain more than the Jewish hobbyists...

Ok, have I offended everyone now?

Good.
Posted By: CcityBby
Just wondering why Ladies always post no black men?  Its all races of women not just white women.  I really wonder why they do it?  Last I checked money is green and women are in it for money.  There are plenty of ladies that missed out because of this.  Ladies any thoughts?

wrps07 654 reads
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The ones who complain have an assumption that all black men have long dicks. You will see them post that if they have a cervix lower than average. They will focus on oral and try to get you to nutt before the main event. Now if business is bad they will take that "no black men" off the ad so they can make ends meet. I saw that with one of the providers I reviewed. I noticed along with someone else who saw her that she would not let us put or dick deep in her pussy. She has a low cervix.  

I don't consider having a long or big dick. Some will say that but I don't. Now other ladies they will push that ass back so I can go deep in their pussy, it almost like I did not go deep enough, lol.

elusive1two 446 reads
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elusive1two 633 reads
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In 2010, black men accounted for 70% (14,700) of the estimated 20,900 new HIV infections among all adult and adolescent blacks. The estimated rate of new HIV infection for black men (103.6/100,000 population) was seven times as high as that of white men, twice as high as that of Latino men, and nearly three times as high as among black women.  
 
 In 2011, the estimated number of diagnoses of HIV infection in the United States was as follows:  
 
Race or Ethnicity  
 
Estimated Number of Diagnoses of HIV Infection, 2011  
 
American Indian/Alaska Native 212  
Asian 982  
Black/African American  23,168  
Hispanic/Latinoa 10,159  
Native Hawaiian/Other Pacific Islander  78  
White  13,846  
Multiple Races  82

elusive1two 649 reads
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when you compare the % of people to the # of HIV infections its a big deal.

13.1 % of the population is black. but they have 70% of the HIV.

its not Racism, pimps, or thugs.

In 2011 US Census Bureau estimated 43,884,130 African Americans in the United States meaning that 14.1% of the total American population of 311.5 Million is Black. This includes those who identify as ‘Black Only’ and as ‘Black in combination with another race’. The ‘Black Only’ category totaled 40.7 million African Americans or 13.1% of the total U.S population. White persons, percent, 2011 (a)  78.1%    Black persons, percent definition and source info Black persons, percent, 2011 (a)  13.1%  

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SinsOfTheFlesh See my TER Reviews 572 reads
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When just as many black and hispanic providers indicate that black men are not welcome, it is pretty stupid to call it racism.

Founded or unfounded, fair or not fair, black men have a very bad reputation in this hobby.

So you think a woman should disregard the reputation black men have earned in the hope that the guy who just contacted her doesn't live up to the stereotype - only to discover too late that she is alone in a room with a man twice her size who does in fact fit the stereotype to the letter?

This hobby is not all sunshine and daisies. I am tired of reading these threads who bash women for painting with a broad brush when the stakes are her life and safety. Her right to be safe trumps your politically correct delusions.

SinsOfTheFlesh See my TER Reviews 700 reads
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Well it seems to me you kind of answered at least part of the question with your last statement.

"Last I checked money is green and women are in it for money.  There are plenty of ladies that missed out because of this.  Ladies any thoughts?"

In acknowledging the fact that women who do not see blacks are giving up money they could be making, and combining that the with the obvious fact that we ARE in fact in this business to make money, it seems reasonable to conclude that women must have valid reasons for passing up the opportunity to make money.

Just don't hold your breath waiting on women to line up here to share those reasons. This debate never ends well, and time and again women who step to the plate to explain their reasons invariably get slapped around as racists and other such ad hominem attacks.

PS. My PM's are open :)

inicky46 61 Reviews 539 reads
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And such selectivity is not restricted to black men.  For example, many Korean providers will not see fellow Koreans because their community is fairly tight-knit and they fear being seen by someone they know who will share their secret with others.  And what about providers who will not see men under a certain age because of their immaturity, unpredictability and poor behavior?  Age-ism?  Sure.  But she's within her rights to be secure and comfortable.  The world is not always a nice place, but better to be safe than sorry.

Here_to_help 548 reads
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There are plenty of men who won't see women of color, brunettes, Asians, BBW, etc. It doesn't make them bad men, its just their preference. The same rules apply here. Providers can pick and choose whomever they want to spend their time with. End of story

Panthera12 466 reads
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I take back all those bad things I said about you over the years. Well, not all of them, lol.

Truly, you were missed.

LovetoDaty 7 Reviews 571 reads
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If you are a white hobbyist and you only date white providers does that make you a racist? Or let's say for every 9 white providers you see, must you then date a lady of color? or a latina? or an asian lady?

Just like dating in the real world everyone has a preference with who they would like to be "intimate" with. It is completely different from other social situations, like who you live next door to; or who work with, etc. that is discrimination/racism - but not with initmate situations like this hobby

AZFrank 596 reads
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If blacks and Jews reversed their stereotypes, people would be saying things like this:

"Look at that black guy in the '83 Cadillac with the hip hop music turned up all the way.  Judging by his gold teeth, he must be really good with money.  Maybe I should ask him for some financial advice."

and of course:
"Look at that Jewish accountant in the Mercedes over there, I bet he is always angry, I bet he never had a real job in his entire life, and he probably has at least 12 children too with at least 5 different women. Maybe I can ask him if I can score some reefer."

haha.

EasyTimes 7 Reviews 570 reads
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back when I was in school.  But asking the same question over and over again because you don't like the answer or are hoping for a different one IS stupid.  Face it folks... There is no definitive answer to this!  Personal preference, dick size, pimps, misinformed, overall bad rap, discrimination, whatever, there are as many possibilities as there are ladies who post this.  It is only racist if that is what YOU want to make it.  It is really no different than "men over 35 only" or "no men over 50", and yes I have actually seen that one, and have also seen "I love white boys".  So what!  Some only see men, i.e. no other women or couples.  The fact is everyone has preferences.  Men like certain types of women, women like certain types of men.  What you like may not be the same as what I like.  It is what makes life interesting.  If you are old and someone doesn't like old guys, then find someone who does.  Same if you are black.  There is always a choice, unless you are stupid, then you may be SOL!

Give it up already!  You are never going to find an answer that you like, if you are asking that type of question.  I will say this however, one other possible answer is copy-cat ads.  Mostly where you see these types of disclaimers is in BP type ads, and tell me how many of those are original!  Probably a large percent of ladies who put this in an ad don't have a clue, they are doing so just because other ladies are.

AlexandraMilw See my TER Reviews 382 reads
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As Hotplants said (I also agree with your post), there is no reason that ALL are in the same grouping. There is good and bad in every group.  

I also agree with LovetoDaty and Inicky46. It is her body and she has a right to do what she wants. No different then when you guys make your selection on who you do or don't want to see.

Yes I do believe it is racist to state that on your website, whether it is meant to be racist or not. However I completely understand why gals put "No (insert race)". If you got 100 rude calls coming from one race and only 1 or 2 were worth the time to meet... it becomes a matter of the gal not wanting to waste her time on the high percentage of time wasters. Putting up the disclaimer saves the gal a lot of time/headaches. There is some gals who have a "no" policy that are still willing to meet respectful, kind gentlemen of that race. I hate racism, however given this type of play, I feel we (all) have a right to chose who we want to see for any reason of our choosing. Pretty sure if us ladies were forced to see people we didn't want to, it wouldn't be freedom of choice. I will not bash a lady on what she chooses to do with her body. We are not required to see every single person that wants to see us.

I chose not to put "No (insert race)" because I am willing to meet good people and I would feel guilty refusing to  meet a good guy based on race. At the same time, in my experiences of who has contacted me, the VAST majority are not ones I will meet. Great black guys are out there, they just never call me lol. I can count on one hand how many I have met in many, many years. Isn't that sad! I prefer my "no idiot" rule, works great! No, I will not make an exception to the nice idiots lol.  

CcityBby... all money is not good money. There comes a point where if a gal is not enjoying herself (in any kind of situation), who the fuck cares about the money? Money must outweigh the headaches involved or it is a no go.

I am NOT saying when a gal puts that on her website she is racist. In general any "No (race)', no matter where put (ie housing, jobs etc), it is racist. There is too many unknowns of why a gal chooses to put it up and no one can assume why. It isn't anyone's business but her own. When body comes into play, it is far more complicated than black and white perception of the matter.

-- Modified on 3/30/2013 1:33:05 PM

sweetnicole1 See my TER Reviews 466 reads
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thats crazy!

There are men of all sizes colors personalities who I dont want to see.
Why is it so hard for you to understand this is a business of choice.

Its not like McDonalds Walmart or any other business its all about personal choices.

You have no right to tell anyone paid or not that they have to fuck the black guy or the short guy or the smelly guy.

its none of your business.

And if you are that guy thats being excluded heres your lesson...

Money doesnt buy you everything
AND
You cant always get what you want.

just move on there are a million choices plus out there forget about it and move on.  cry baby!!!

Chauncey Gardner 451 reads
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glowerlord 7 Reviews 505 reads
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\There cocks are big, they're rough and sadistic.

Just passin' on what she said.

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