Purely hypothetical question. I almost never discuss the hobby with any friends. But I am curious if folks would be more partaking if they knew how it actually worked? Or is it one of those things where their mind is made up first and the reasoning comes second?
I post a lot on reddit and seems people don't hobby for the following reasons: 1) It's illegal 2) All sex workers are trafficked or addicts 3) STD risk 4) Mechanical sex no more exciting than jerking off Basically people's opinion is based on some Hollywood movie from the 90s. If you could explain how it really works, would they partake? Again, purely hypothetical discussion...
I had the street-walker stereotype in my head and thought that was universal (mechanical sex, "get it over with" mentality, etc). I accidently discovered Backpage one day and that led me to TER. Once I paid for VIP and could read the full reviews I couldn't believe it and had to give it a try "just once" to see if the reviews were right and just to say I did it.
Well, that was 7 years ago and needless to say I've had more than just one experience. I would never discuss this with regular friends. Not sure they'd understand. I have made a few friends here on TER and we share a lot of info about the local scene. I have no interest in "recruiting" anyone else into this lifestyle.
They asked if I could set them up. There was a beautiful lady. Very nice. They both saw her and were blown away. They had no idea that there were ladies like that available. She charged 300 BTW. 2015
I don't think its a misconception thing. I just think some people are turned off by the idea of paying for sex for various reasons.
I have a few friends who see or have seen escorts. We all know what we doibut we rarely talk about it or anything like that. We never share pointers or recommended anyone to each other. We just kind of admitted we did it, talked about it for a bit and moved on. That was it. We rarely make it a topic of conversation. We kind of recognize that it is a private part of our life and that we should be discreet about it.
My two closest friends (one of them past tense) were people in which I thought that I could confide. I wrongly assumed that they would honor the Man Code.
I confided in one of them. He told his SO. Hence, the 'past tense'. I one mentioned to the other that I'd visited a couple of strip clubs. He told his SO. Were still friends. I just don't discuss my hobby activities with him. So, no. I don't tell my friends. As mentioned above. I have bad ones.
First, that they'd get caught and end up divorced, and second, they don't know how to go about it. Also some men do regard their marriage vows very highly, and wish to maintain a high ethical standard. And let's not forget the poor souls who just can't afford it in the first place.
Of course there seem to be a. small selection of men that get all the tail they want by just casting a glance at some hot gal. Hate them! 8o) Finally, there are men who are just plain uninterested in sex, for whatever reason. As far as discussing it with those not in our world, I'll leave you with a line (paraphrased) from a play called A view from the Bridge by Arthur Miller: It's easier to get a million dollars back from someone than one word. And no truer words were ever spoken.
hobbying with or meet in person are friends I made on this site, or another one I was active on prior to 2015. Anyone else is a security risk. I'm single, so no risk there, but my profession would be affected if it was common knowledge, because I'm still working. Once I retire, I don't care who knows. It's not going to slow me down. Lol
I'm pretty sure that explaining how negative stereotypes are false does not work to change them. Think of skin color, gender, accent, introversion, on and on; well and frequently explained, not at all removed.
Actually it's not false..........It does help to an extent. When a person (Hobbyist or Provider) explains how this business works (The good & bad), then yes other people will consider whether or not to come into this type of business.
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