For many people, sex is a kind of analgesic.  It's numbing and soothing.  It's a catch-all; all emotional needs get bundled together and labeled "sex".  The need to feel good about yourself, to feel desirable, to feel lovable and loved, to be comforted and close, to stroked and touched and held, all get lumped together and satisfied by "having sex".  

Having sex may work in the moment but it will not have any lasting effect on bolstering your self-esteem or calming your anxieties.  Becoming a healthier person psychologically is the best way to do this.

Let me put this to you:
If sex feeds our needs to feel good about ourselves, desirable, lovable and loved, comforted and close, stroked and touched and held... shouldn't we be doing this more often?
Sounds like therapy to me!

I once heard that "work" was what we men do to keep us busy in between rounds of sex. It works for me!

JERK OFF!...You peeked!

Cheers!

The sole purpose of sex is to populate the world. Each and every time you are driven to have this thing called "sex", you are actually psychologically attempting to overpopulate the world to leave your mark.

Hence, all sex is derived from a fear of death and a desire to secure immortality in a finite world.

LOL




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In most terrestrial species, copulation takes place either on the ground, on a tree limb, or on some other perch. Some aquatic birds (phalaropes, ducks) copulate primarily in the water. Among the most spectacular sights North American bird enthusiasts can see is a mating flight of White-throated Swifts. A group may come swooping down a canyon at high speed, shortly after dawn, with pairs tumbling together as they copulate in midair.

" Sex without love is a meaningless experience"
                                   Diane Keaton's character
  " but as maningless experiences go; Its one of the best"
                                   Woody Allen's-character

    I believe the movie was Love & death but I could be wrong.

   FR

My psychological self is as good as it's gonna get for the moment. But i do agree with the other things you mentioned.

Thus the term GFE?

I mean, you're right. All the things you mentioned are the things that i'm looking for when i'm with someone. I'm just not looking for them on anything more then a temporary basis. So yes, "sex" gives me all that i am seeking and at the same time, thru the grace of the ladys here i get to leave with no strings attached after.

Sex is the favorite avenue in our search for acceptance.

Nope Love and Death

First off, if sex is numbing you need more lube!

I think it's mostly you lumping these emotions into "having sex." When I'm with a provider sex is far from my mind, being loved or made to feel desirable, stroking and being touched far outweigh intercourse anyday. I'm sure most hobbyists would agree it's the emotional state, whether it be illusion or not, is what we cherish most.

Also, being with a provider does have a lasting effect, has bolstered my self-esteem as well as calmed my anxieties far more than I had anticipated. I will be forever grateful to the ladies I have seen and the ladies I will see in the future for bringing me out of my sexually repressed cocoon. I'm a better person for seeing them, and am on my way to becoming a better lover as well.

Being with the providers I have been with will benefit me and any partner I'm with in the future ... if that isn't psychologically healthier then what the hell is??

Maybe you'll have more knowledge when you're a teacher rather than a student.

Jimbo

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The best teachers are students.