The provider is most likely going to want to talk to your friend to validate she's OK with this.  Not saying that every provider is going to take this step, but you should be prepared for the request.

All parties involved should be aware of the arrangement. If your FWB had any qualms about seen a professional, then you may lose her if she finds out that you hid something from her, on the other hand she may feel flattered that you are willing to spend money to satisfy her desires, and the ultimate benefit would be if she is willing to split the cost. Who knows, you may end up with a long term hobbying partner,and that would be a sweet deal!

Sex worker going to make hobbyist happy and get paid.

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Why not let your friend with benefits pick a friend of hers? That's what I'm doing. If she is a sexual freak you can be sure she has friends who are game for this and that saves you money. Why pay a pro when you don't have to?

Worse possible outcome your friend finds out you pay for sex what's to stop her from charging you going forward? That minor detail might change the entire dynamic of the relationship with your fuck buddy.

The poster who mentioned your fuck buddy might pay for 1/2 the cost is a pipe dream which most likely will not be happening. I don't know any women who would go for this and I know a ton of women.  
 

Posted By: some-guy

 
 My question refers to a situation where a John requests a 3some with his provider and a "100% civie" friend of his.  
   
 Like let's assume that I have a lady "friend with benefits," and she wants to do a 3some real bad. Totally heterosexual but also digs girls and has been with them before. But she mostly fucks dudes. And wants real bad to check 3some off her list.  
   
 Now let's assume I contact the provider to get her availability.  
   
 Then I contact the "friend" again and I give her a date that we can play with my "other bisexual friend." She is totally game for it; totally stoked for it in fact. It's a match!! We have our 3some all set to go.  
   
 Finally the question: Does the civie friend need to know that the provider is a professional?  Is that something that just absolutely has to be disclosed? Right now, she's perfectly fine with whomever I want to join, so long as she's pretty and hot. She trusts my judgement and knows the kind of girls I like to fuck. She never gave any sort of explicit directive that she can't be a pro.  
   
 Thoughts?  
 

for a 3some is that the women like each other and are really BI. Surprises can really be a disaster.

Your friend has a right to make her own decision as to whether she wants to accept the risks (real and/or perceived) in consorting with a provider. She also has a right to make her own moral judgments as to whether to play with a provider

Def NOT cool. If she's that close of a friend, just tell her.  

And +1 to what LoJack said.

She is 100% accurate with her comments and nothing to add.

DO NOT tell your friend that you're involving a provider...the fact that you're willing to pay for it (and know exactly where and how to look for it) may not sit well with her at all and her whole perception of you may change drastically.....you may never hear from her again and I hope that you don't have any mutual friends that she may tell....

 
Best advice I've seen so far:  LET HER PICK THE OTHER PERSON....that guarantees that she'll be comfortable..from a girl's point of view, threesomes work best when the girls are already friends....