It's not like you are in a relationship with your ATF.  Any provider in her right mind knows that variety is the spice of life.  If they are going to get angry and jealous over it drop 'em.

Initially I couldn't find anyone worth seeing. All-the-while I saw visiting trim. When I finally did see a local see turned out to be one of the worst adventures i'd had. Pictures ten yrs old and all she did was quiz me on who and why I saw who wasn't a local. In fact she spent a lot of time villifying one girl in particular.

I have no obligation to anyone who isn't mi familia

Anyone who doesn't understand that P4P is about VARIETY as much as anything probably shouldn't be engaged in the hobby-on either side.

My ATF wants to hear the stories every time I tell her I saw a new girl.

But giving in to guilt is a waste of energy and completely non-productive. Live as you want to live. These ladies will be fine, they can get business if they know what they're doing, if not, it's not your job to worry about that

would make ME feel guilty, in a way. It's like a gift I can never return.

Most of my regular clients like variety, but make dates with me in between their new adventures. Or, some travel a lot, but book with me when they're in my area. That's what I'm most comfortable with, because in that sense, we're equal. We see each other and have a great time, but it's just one of many encounters for both of us...

Knowing that a guy will ONLY see me might make me a little cautious because I'm really not prepared to deal w/any emotional intimacy, in 90% of cases. There are a few who I know only see me, but they're not the clingy sort - they are just infrequent hobbyists, and since they found someone they're comfortable with, they see no reason to fix what ain't broke. That's cool. But I don't want anybody to point-blank refuse to see someone else because of some misplaced sense of loyalty to me (or even worse, because they're fixated on me). Am I then supposed to pretend I have no other clients? Or will I be obligated to show some sort of corresponding loyalty to them (Kinda like someone giving you a b-day gift you didn't want or expect, and then you have to go out and buy one for them)?

I usually stay with one Provider. Not that I'd feel Guilty of seeing another one, it's just I like to see a Provider that I know and that she knows exactly what I want. By seeing a new Provider, I'd have to find one that would do what I want. Each of my previous Providers did do what I want, but looking for one is a PITA to find.