My list of the most important to me:

No unprotected FS, BBBJ is OK

No ass play of any kind

No Pain of any kind, including choking, spanking, either receiving or giving

No nipple biting, gentle sucking/kissing/licking is OK

No fake O's, if it is not going to happen that's fine, just relax and enjoy

Be clean, and freshly showered

No up-selling, its a guaranteed no repeat

Be yourself, no need to put on an act


The pain part is very important, I will not cause you pain or discomfort of any kind, and I expect the same.

Be respectfull and HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!  Explosure and let your body and mind go......

Many of my limits are on the soft side (Drama and Bareback being notable hard limits, among others). This lifestyle certainly has a business component, but it's also an affair of the heart. I find that sex, while exhilarating, just isn't as intimate as, say, receiving a partner's cum, trusting your partner when tied up (though I have no problem doing the tying on an initial tryst ), or the sheer act of playing out a fantasy long held by a partner or myself. Longer term relationships tend to suit my polyamorist heart and mindset, and the rule of thumb here is the longer and more involved the relationship-compensated or not-the freakier I get.

...Then again, I'm a woman and predisposed to my moods...some catch me on the right day and get mauled coming in the door.

Here is the list of my boundaries.

No DFK
No anal play of any kind. No DATO, prostate massages, anal sex, strap on play fingering of the anas, or the like.
No BBFS ever
No upselling
Be clean and presentable
Respect my time, be on time
A BJ of some kind is required if you want repeat visits.
No false pictures or ads
I dislike fake "O's", if it isn't going to happen I understand.
No drama or asking for extra money for this or that. I have helped some ladies out but none of them asked except for one and her world was literary caving.
Sessions ends on time, platonic off the clock time is fine but no sexual play off the clock ever. I have an agreement with my wife and I will honor it. Friendship is welcomed but nothing more. No drama.
No more the one appointment every two months, for no longer then two hours as per agreement with wife. Don't ask for more.

I know this are strange boundaries but they work for me.

No furniture in my ass, and don't laugh at my car.  Also, my poems are epic, you don't care if I'm broke and never imply I'm needy.  There, that's a start.

Just to ad a few...

Mine..
Don't walk in the door arrogant and bossy..( If you want to lead, I am all about that
but there is a time and a place)
Ditch the gum before you walk in the door
Wash your parts! Even if you feel clean. DO IT ANYWAY!
Talk dirty to me once in the bedroom. ( I love it)
Don't expect me to read your mind.

Yours should be.
Expect me to check your reference
If I am not what you expected or you have neeeds SPEAK UP
If She upsells or ask for a loan etc. Run like hell and tell others. DOn't look back
If she has a dirty home. She will have a dirty temple! ( her body)

I can't stand to have my nipples sucked or bitten.  I'd also prefer the lady keep her mouth off of the boys but it doesn't bother me as much as the nipples.

Just my 2 pesos.

I don't like even the question snuck up on me. If you want a PSE experience let a lady know well ahead of time so she can be prepared.

I don't have too many boundaries ...LOL ...but here are a few that I feel are important:
*Excellent Hygiene
*No BBFS
*No Drama
*No Upsells
*Trying to creating a fantasy is cool, but if you're not a good actress please just be yourself (and that includes faking "Os").  Some of us guys understand that ladies may not always be able to "O" during our sessions and that's okay.
*I'm very open to new sexual experiences, as long as it delivers pleasure, not pain, so don't be afraid to suggest new things or even surprise me with something new and exciting ...LOL.

Ether it was so fake it was stupid or I felt like scum after for cheating even with permission to do so. It wasn't worth it and I did not enjoy it. My boundaries work for me. I like my reality, and my rules keeps thinks real for me.

Also believe it or not my sessions are far from mechanical. There is lots of joking around, taking, sharing, fucking and cuddling. Just no kissing. I have formed real friendships with a few ladies as they realize I am not looking for a GF just a good fuck and maybe a friend if she is game.

I got my "GFE" at home and don't need or want it in the hobby. As I said, I know my boundaries are strange as most guys on this board only go for the GFE and that is what I try to avoid.

I love the individuality of women and I can't get that from a robot, but I can within my rules. I love women as people not actresses. I love their touch, their smell, their laugh and their smile. I love women in all shapes, sizes, ages, and races as each is different. Robots are just not as varied or fun.

No, I don't like mechanical sex so you can keep your robot and I will stick to my rules and screw real women. Thank you.

Here are a few of mine not touched on...

Don't ask me my 'real' name or where I really live or where I hang out oin my free time.  If I want to tell you theses things, I will.  My private life is private -- respect goes both ways here.

Don't ask if I have a boyfriend or husband.  Again, if I want to tell you I will.  And don't invite us out together for a drink or dinner (it has happened) -- that's just weird!

Don't ask if I've ever been arrested, what I think of the Craig's List killer, am I afraid of getting murdered or raped on the job, etc. -- total mood killer!

If I offer you a mint, for the love of God, TAKE IT!

MY BIGGEST NO-NO:

Do not ask me to do a photo shoot for your 'personal collection' ...unless you're ready to pay professionla model rates, $10,000+ a day including the expense of my photographer and agent.  There are so many scumbags out here that will low ball you on wanting photos to jerk off to. Personally, I have never done them and never will -- they will end up on the internet and be sold for money (and you won't see a dime).  

I've had a rash of guys ask me for photos recently thinking they can pay my hourly rate (and almost all of them have seem porn stars providers that charge $1500+ for photos, but they think they can have my fine ass on film for $350).  It's rude, obnoxious, and there's no excuse for it -- I am an enterprising young woman so no way will I possibly sacrafice my privacy for the rest of my life for a few hundred bucks now.  Some self-entitled guys even show up at yoru place with a camera.  That is not acceptable unless a lady has made an agreement with you prior to the date.  And it's never acceptable with me, FYI.

Other than that, jsut be nice and play nice... oh, and have fun!

Stay sexxxy,  
Alex

Interesting question, by the way!

HAHA GOOD. Though I must say it isn't a good spanking unless you feel it a little bit the next day

Turn off your cell if you can. If you absolutely have to answer your phone, let me know in advance and be polite about it! Take your personal business out of earshot.

I'm not hobbying, but when I did hobby, you could say my boundaries were adaptive to the person and situation and more reflected my hobbying style.

The only really no-compromise boundaries I have had with providers are things like "no bareback." Health and safety stuff. And, really, it can hardly be said that is a boundary when dealing with intelligent and self-respecting women for whom such things are a given anyway.

Everything else was fluid based upon the nature of the women and the nature of our interaction. When you are dealing with worthwhile and admirable women that you see repeatedly rather than strangers, you really don't need to draw a whole bunch of arbitrary lines in the sand.

And, frankly, I'm a rational person. I don't need a rule that says "Thou shalt not stalk and call arbitrary women at 3am." Its just not something I'd do. I'd treat a woman with respect and the way I'd want to be treated if the roles were reversed -- so no special rule is needed regarding payment, etc. because it is all subsumed under that.

Nothing on this thread that hobbyists didn't know.  Re-hashing the same old same old. Empirical evidence shows that, those who say "No-Drama" are the biggest drama queens in existence. Those who no BBFS are the frequent seekers of the same.

Boundary = figurative a limit of a subject or sphere of activity

Some are porous like US and Mexico.

Violent like, between Pakistan and Afghanistan, Israel and Palestine

Deterministic like south pole = nothing can live there without artificial protection

Moral of the story is; boundary is established between the parties by mutual consent. There are no hard fast rules. What all of you have (providers and hobbyists) have described is personal preference which, is liable to change depending on conditions like the wind and the rain, just like some people becoming vegans. No super duper revelations here besides trying to create some drama hoping, someone is going say somethings you don't agree with so, you can pounce collectively.

Bring up something like, "do you like your ass bitten or your toes sucked during fucking?"

Agreement w/ the WIFE!  How did you pull that one off?!
The: NO DFK, Anal, DATO - are those for std concerns?
Do you take BBBJ?  If so how do you draw the line b/w those?

"Always ask about Greek"
- I agree, but do you still ask, if it was not mentioned in ad, review, etc.?
There is a good provider I've seen a couplea times & what to broach the Greek subject.  But not sure how to go about it.

...well said...

It isn't about STD's and I love a good BBBJ. I hobby with permission from my wife. Despite that I still want to save something special for my wife so I I do not DFK providers that I pay anymore. Plus it felt to much like cheating and I didn't enjoy it because of that.

As far as anal play ether giving or receiving, it is a bit more personal, lets just say such play brings up painful memories and I do not enjoy it. Plus giving DATO is far to risky for me as there are a whole list of disease's not just STD's you can get from it.

I always outline my no-no acts upfront. I then ask what THEY like. I might then ask "are you into kissing?What's your favorite position?" so I can get a better idea what is good for them and what isn't.