Alright, so here's the situation - in a hotel that i frequent often, looking to have a guest - gentleman in me says wait for her outside or somewhere public & walk her in... or, be cold and give her the room number and meet her there...

what would you want (provider) or do (hobbyist)?

Let's assume it is an area where i can go discreetly to meet...

What a sweetie you are!  Getting funny looks from hotel staff and security is kind've an occupational hazard I guess, but if it could be avoided by meeting someone in the lobby or even the hotel bar or something would be great - especially places with a lot of security where you have to call up or check in as a visitor.

-Anya

I've never given this any thought from the comfort for the provider point of view...and I consider myself rather caring.  

A few times I have waited outside of my room with ice bucket in hand to see what arrived.  When the lady was as I had planned I greated her outside the room door as though I had just stepped out for a moment to get ice.  Once, in a nice Tampa hotel near the airport, when I saw a totally different gal than was in the pic I just walked on by the room and on down to the elevator.  I waited there until I saw her come down and then saw her conversing with three men in their thirties waring casual attire.  I didn't return to my room until the next morning and changed hotels.

If you are a gentleman, you'd meet her downstairs somewhere in public and escort her to the room.  I learned that some time back in Vegas where you need a room key after a certain hour to get onto the elevator banks.  And since then, I have found it to be a proper course of action, showing your "gentlemanly" side.  Many times I'll ask if she could meet a bit early so that we could have a drink beforehand.  This gives you, and her, the opportunity to get to know each other a bit, which usually makes for a better "date".

On one occasion I actually did ask a provider to leave based on this meeting, as I felt that I wasn't going to enjoy myself later.  I paid her for her time at the bar and we parted company.  

-- Modified on 12/26/2002 10:25:08 AM

I hear you dude. I've been in several instances where the girl showed up looking nothing like her photos or worse a complete ugly fat woman that's passed her prime long ago. My bitch with all this is that 99% of the time when you cancel she will want the full amount anyway. Even if she asks for $100, I don't think it should be up to me to pay for a B&S. Not even $20 for cab fare because they are scam artists.

Many of you wil say just don't pay her, but what usually happens is she will call her agency and complain until they insist you get on the phone with them and start encouraging you to cough up the dough or else... I've heard everything from her driver will be back to beat the money out of you to she's going to tell the cops I assaulted or tried to rape her.

Remember this is the sex business and like it or not, acknowledge it or not, there are some pretty shaded characters that get involved. Don't make the mistake of thinking TER can protect you from everything that is wrong with this hobby.

I see this frequently in NOSC reviews, ie. meeting in the lounge.  Thanks to the question, I better understand the logic, and it is a nice intro.  It's classy that NOSC doesn't include it in the total session time.  

I frequently walk the girl out to her car, which seems to be appreciated, especially after dark.  Walking her in is a nice touch as well!  Thanks for enlightening us.

-- Modified on 12/27/2002 5:46:38 AM

sounds like could have been cops

This is a win/win situation.  Not only do you get to spend some extra time (and I always try to compensate my "date" for this time), but the usual awkward beginnings of your first time together  dissipates while vertical, not horizontal.  It makes horizontal, IMHO, a much better experience.

My MO is usually to ask her where she'd like to meet. Really makes no difference to me, so why not make it easier for her?

That is why I didn't return to the room until the next day.  I had no desire to find out just who they were first hand, but curious as hell none the less.  

My thoughts were cops because of their dress, and that is why I mentioned it, but I also considered that they could have been part of a set-up to roll me.  When out of town you can feel very vulnerable.  It was shortly after that the TBD trouble strted appearing on the net and I saw that Tampa was a hot spot, so...?

Sorry, but being a gentleman is not worth the risk of being seen in her company. Married guys would have a hard enough time explaining their presence in a hotel, let alone with an attractive woman.