Last weekend I had a meeting with a smoking hot with great reviews provider.  things got pretty steamy and when I asked for the party hat she said that normally the guys bring their own, wtf???  Anyway, she said that I looked clean and can do her without it.  Hmmmm, my big head won over the small one and got the protection at the hotel.  After that, she mentioned that next time we can have dinner off the clock and then play.  She also showed me some personal pictures with friends, etc.  After the meeting I send her a note thanking her for the time and she replied asking me when we will get together again for dinner.  At this moment I don't even know if I should see her again, due to the BBFS offer.  Any thoughts?

Why not see her again? Just don't do the BBFS unless she proves she's clean with a recent test. Sounds like maybe she likes you a little more than just a client, consider yourself lucky.

First, guys never bring their own. A good provider wouldn't trust them. After that 3 possibilities present themselves immediately.

First, it was love at first sight on her part and you are her soul mate (how I despise that term). How to proceed on that basis is your decision. She crossed many borders with you and seems to want a relationship. If you are like me part of the cost of this hobby is to insure that you do not have a relationship. If you are in this for a girlfriend (or she is in this to find her guy) then you are in very, very dangerous waters.

Second, you're not her soul mate and she is in the wrong profession since she doesn't know the risks involved in unprotected sex and can't distinguish between sex and love. Not good.

Third, she's an idiot or drugged out person no longer capable of making smart decisions.

I'm not sure this is helpful or consoling but I've been around the block many times...

That's gross. She didn't have them because she doesn't use them. That's so scary that I wouldn't want to see her. In a committed relationship with recent tests (like someone else said, maybe) but in that situation? She's asking for a death sentence.

I go with silverlo and #1 when I read it.. I immediately thought psycho.

-- Modified on 12/3/2007 11:37:07 PM

On another board, the ladies said that 2% of the guys ask for BBFS, and 55% of the guys anonymously admitted to having BBFS with a lady (half of them with more than one lady). - Note: Poll was not scientific.

In your case, she seems a little too forward. My first thought: Someone looking for child support.

I've had bad experiences with ladies who are too forward. The problem comes in when you don't want to see her any more. They can become stalkers. For that reason, I recommend avoidance.

Wow this is kind of scary thing.

1. Is she new or something? Simply uneducated to know what kind of problems she can expose herself too?

2. BBFS is a scary thing from a provider hell from a regular civie it just as scary.

3. Bring your own condoms always have a backup make sure it is not so old that wallet has a permanent ring stamped on it.

4. If you like her and she likes you it is up to you as to what you want to do with her. For some reason men and even women forget that we are all human with feelings and emotions, maybe she felt a spark for you.

5. Lastly make sure she is not stalker, gold digger type, or looks like she maybe trouble for you in the future.

Good luck with it.. the easiest thing to do honestly is to walk away.

$he i$ after $omething.  Figure out what it i$.  Cau$e if you don't it could be very bad new$ for you!

$eriously I face that when dabling in the world of exotic dancer$ more frequently than in the escort world.  but this one sounds like she is working for a higher payoff....

or - she is just a nut case.... in either case... very very dangerous.

'First, guys never bring their own. A good provider wouldn't trust them....'

Simply not an exclusive fact.  This has been discussed many times on these discussion boards.
Larger endowed dudes frequently bring their own condoms because many providers do not have properly fitting hats for them and many providers have chimed in and said these guys should do so.  Some other guys also bring backups just in case the lady runs out and does not have one.  And some guys have indicated that they bring their own just in case the lady chooses condoms manufactured by Goodyear.

Of course some ladies will not allow a guy to use his own due to concerns about trust as well as issues such as allergies or sensitivity to certain lubricants, latex, etc.

So while I agree with you that the lady should supply the jackets and that likely represents 90% of most encounters, it is far from the truth to indicate that hobbyists and providers do not at times use the condom supplied by the gent.          



-- Modified on 12/4/2007 8:34:18 AM

don't read into it too much, this chick was diggin you, so go for it raw dog the bitch, then pull it out and give her a nice facial, then you'll know if its true love!

She was hitting on you man. But to fuck someone bare back on the first encounter is risky. In my younger days I played Russian Roulette with my dick, but lived to tell about it. Good thing you used the big head instead of the little head. She has more of an interest in you than just business so how do you fell about that. Nothing wrong with a friends with benefits relationship.

Since the provider had many good reviews and she
is smoking hot why not see her again? If you do
see her off the clock ask her about the no-cover
in a nice way. Maybe you are onto something really good here. At least check it out, can't
hurt.

Do you want to see her?

BBFS is a hobby no no, but I question what it has to do with seeing her socially. My guess is if you are posting this here... you both are better off not...

but I will give you the benefit of the doubt... if you want to see her... do it. There is no guarentee of sex and if you do... you have every right to get tested and ask her to do the same...

I mean come on... unless she started that very day, she is savvy enough to understand the source of concern, for her safety and yours.

So if you like her and can handle her profession... then take her out. You can NEVER have too many friends.

keep your eyes open and be honest... demand the same from her and it might be ok... heck there is no guarentee in the civvie world either.

maybe she has aleady contracted the worst possible disease, so she is not gambling with her life but rather with YOURS ...

I've been in the hobby for five years and had seem a good amount of providers including several pornstars and for some reason while we were touching and kissing things got so steamy that I started to think this is no fake.  Even she whispered that she was very horny.  Then, when I proceeded to ask about protection she said that I was bigger than average and normally guys bring their own protection.  At this moment I thought well this is probably an excuse because she got scared (I guess).  However, to my surprise she told me you can do it without it bacause I should be clean.  This happened after some questions about me.  I told her that I can get some protection from the hotel, but for some reason, she continued to kiss me and insisted for a while to do it without any protection.  I got the protection anyway and the rest is history.  Then, while we were chatting she mentioned that sometime we can get together for dinner (off the clock) and then doit it again (I guess on the clock).  Even while she was dressing to leave, she kissed me several times.  About the girl she is centerfold material and has several good reviews here.  The thing that worries me is the issue about the protection.  That situation really caught me off guard and I don't know what to think about the whole situation.  Also about her she said that she has no children and lives with a girlfriend.  Under normal circumstances I love to see her again but at this moment it could be dangerous.  I have to assume that this is not an isolated situation.

-- Modified on 12/5/2007 6:48:10 AM

I met a gent who stated he sees porn stars who offer BBFS with a recent AIM test (3 week window apparently).  This is in his words, I am not implying porn stars off BBFS.

He showed this recent AIM test to me and explained how he was going to see a porn star in a week asking if I'd offer him BBFS as well.  I declined;

This test didn't include results for several STD's I'd like to avoid. (Syphilis, Hepatitis and Herpes 1&2)

Who says he didn't just catch something from another escort he'd visited 2 days before we'd met?

At the time she was horny, you had a big dick and men with large units usually DO bring their own protection (just in case)

She needs to get help considering she wanted you inside her without a rubber after you offered to get some downtstairs.  

Also, don't assume she'll be horny the next time you see her.  JMO

On the one hand she sounds like a newbie provider. On the other hand she sounds like a provider looking for a little more. Maybe she's the kind of person that gets attached quickly or maybe she's just a lonely girl.  

Whatever the case maybe I'd be really careful with this one, she might have a case of "feelings" in a unhealthy way-considering the nature the hobby.  I might not ride that wave.