With my birthday coming up I'm going to take my "date" out to dinner. My question is how to work in the "play". A little before and more after? All before? All after? Another question, are providers usually a little flexible with time on a date like this? I don't want to rush the fine dining experience nor do I want to be rushing at the end. Was thinking a 4 hour date (we usually do 3 hours). Is that enough or should I play it safe and do 5 or more. Thoughts from the masses.....

with the understanding that there will be at least two one hour play times - one before and one after the dinner, which is expected to last about two hours.

It's not unusual for reasons of transportation or slowness at the restaurant for that two hours to get stretched out by an hour or more, and I've never had any problems with the gal offering the full one hour afterwards, and sometimes a bit more if things go well.

There's one thing to be said for having a play time after the meal which is that I tend to eat much more lightly, to the benefit of my health and attempts to preserve my boyish figure.

Ask the provider in question, because many ladies do things differently. I can tell you I don't play, eat, come back and play again. That is too much running around, getting dressed, undressed, dressed again, and simply wastes a lot of time you could actually be spending having fun, but other ladies don't seem to mind that.

Lengthen the date ! Enjoy some play time before. The dining will be better and you will have dessert to look forward to !

a girl that will fuck and suck me before and after dinner...

I haven't done overnights or dinner dates in a while, but when I used to do them in the past, I would typically watch my food intake. I don't want to see that food twice.. Also, since I don't drink anymore, alcohol for me is out of question, but if you drink, its probably a good idea not to get drunk during dinner...

to worry about the sex again after, it is not exactly my idea of a good time. I make sure my client is good and satisfied sexually, and then we can BOTH relax at dinner without having to worry about what we should or should not eat or drink. After I eat, I am ready for a damn nap.

i have adopted London's rule..play..eat..see ya..works out every time..i am never horny after a good meal and a few drinks..i doubt if she is either..once your sexual appetite and other appetites are appeased..why come back for seconds?..avarice is very unbecoming..

we will share meal preparations & leave everything in readiness...  adjourn for play time...  return for our shared meal before I depart.

Would you pay some damn hooker to eat?

Lonely men need dinner companions too.  Especially, when they're pretty and don't give you any shit.

LMAO London!
  As for me, I'm with Julie! Though I have often gone to dinner with my companion otc and am always happy to pick up the tab for a nice dinner and drinks. Of course I only make the offer if we have established some affinity for one another. If so, I'll make the suggestion and am never offended should she decline for whatever reason. :>)
                                                           Regards.....RR

"boyish figure". Adorable.
Hmm, an hour of play, eat, then play? I have not heard of this setup. But it seems like it works for you. I would prefer to eat first, then play...but the "eating light" thing would be a must. But eating after seems odd to me. I usually need a killer nap after sex (I work myself up a lot, and I'm a squirmer, so afterwards I'm tiiiiiiiiired). How can I nap if we must then dine?

It seems to me like the responses imply that everyone has their own way of doing it.
What would YOU like to do?
I would say dinner at the end sounds most casual to me. Everyone is bathed in the afterglow of sex, ravenously hungry after burning all those calories. If you're doing an outcall, maybe even order room service and eat in be?

Food is the miracle drug? Or is sex the miracle drug? or was it the combination?

Both make me incredibly drowsy.

I'm really enjoying the "dinner after" idea. But sex tends to make me look like...a wild woman. Hair is mussed, pupils dilated, make-up not as neat. If we were to go out to dinner again, wouldn't I have to completely remake myself?

*Imagines walking into Le Cheval, and the hostess pointing to a sign that says "look a hot mess, no service"*

I still prefer wear yourself and your client out, THEN drink, eat, relax, and go to freaking bed alone lol. Hey...I am from New Orleans girl...give me some slack ha ha.

If you have any dicey stomach problems and are concerned with them arising after eating, take Immodium before the meal.

Eat first play after, play first eat after, eat in between, play before and after. No matter the combination it's always been about 4 hours, consisting of 2 in room hours and 2 public hours.
Another popular option (but one that I haven't done) is to spend the whole time in the room and use room service for dinner.

I agree with discussing what you want with your provider. Make sure you book enough time for what you want. I personally don't book 2 hours and stay for 4. I had a gentleman complain about this at one time. My time is precious and I do have a life like the rest of us. I plan on being with you the entire time we agree on and I will never be in a rush.

I'm pretty easy going, we can play before, after or both as long as our time allows.

Because it's my money and I can do what I want with it.  Besides, who are you to know my fetishes?

I really enjoy dinner dates. I love eating out and experiencing new dining places. When I first started in this business I would not go out with clients. I was new, and honestly was uncomfortable if I did not know the person. Now I love it and am always thrilled when I get dinner date requests. I am very comfortable meeting new clients and I can carry a conversation well.

For a first time meeting I would suggest 3 or 4 hours. I have a regulars and we will spend the entire evening together because we get along wonderfully and can talk for hours at the dinner table. Throw in a lovely bottle of wine and great, varied conversation and I am a happy girl.

I do not have a set list with how the night unfolds. I usually let my client choose if he prefers to play first or after our meal.  In my experience it does appear that dinner first and play later is the more popular choice. Especially if my client and I are meeting for the first time.

 Enjoy your dinner date!!!

let the lady know beforehand that you might want to extend to five hours, so she's prepared.

dinner before or after play, rules rules rules! Why ask us? Just do what feels right for you. Just know that if you play beforehand and she sweats out her makeup, there's no one else to blame but you when you're at dinner and she looks crazy

Kind of late to reading this thread but damn, that sounds like a delightful dinner look to me, especially knowing I got to help make you up like that. I have always done dinner first, then play. Next time, I am definitely think really nice hotel with 5 star room service. Now, I just need a date!

Girls don't like to sit in nice places looking as though they have just been shagged I'd go for the 5 and do it afterwards. A lot of girls unless they are working for an agentthat is,  wont be that much of a robot about the time if you have spent all that money with her.