Have you ever given your ATF a raise?

WTF is she making minimum wage?  

It is up to you to do whatever you like with you money and nobody in here should critize you for that but don't be surprise if some of these people who post in here will jump all over you and even disrespect you...

Technically, you gave her a tip. If you pay your lawyer more than what the they charge then it's not like you gave your lawyer a raise. Only she can decide if her rates will change as a result of your subtle advice for her to raise her rates.  

A tip is a one time thing you give somebody. I plan on giving her more for every visit we have so yes it is a raise for her to see me.  

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And I beg to differ (of course).  

That I should just pay her what I was paying before I decided to give her extra. I feel that she deserve more then what I was paying her. That is total up to me if I want to up her rate to see me I will. If you want to call it a tip then so be it. I prefer to call it a raise due to the fact she is awesome girl.

Alright, I'll let this one go (biting lip)

Treat her with respect. That is one of the reason she continues to see me.

but of course lol (ayayayay)

What every one else thinks?

Generous and likely a good way to keep the sessions increasingly fun. No girl should expect a raise early on (unless there is a request for more time or menu), but if you are seeing someone for years, term renegotiation can be awkward. Money shows appreciation and works better for some of us than any lubricant.

It's seem like I am the only one to decide that my ATF is worth more to me then her normal rate. The main question is, have anybody given a raise to there ATF because you thought that her time was worth more to you?

guys like you make the world a better place

We all just ho's.  Take a deep breath an chill.

A topic right up his wheel house. I expect him to jack this up like a pinata....Yo JD!!

I am using the term raise because I am thinking as a working relationship. I pay her to come to visit me once a month. So I employ her for her services as a provider. She goes over and beyond on what I expect from her. I decided that she needed a raise and gave her one.

is the best way of allowing your actions.........to reinforce your words (hopefully you have told her how much you appreciate your time together).

every time they unzip my pants!

who cares what anyone thinks is right.

i've given my atf a tip.  i've given my other atf a non-sexual christmas present for her enjoyment only (ie, not lingerie, etc).

I love horses. And technically...oh well I'll just keep that a secret for now lol

when you do give her the raise, do you ask for permission first?

I have often done this with really exceptional massage therapist, and a couple of times when buying art. I hate seeing people undervalue themselves, and their craft.

Crowing about it on the board makes him a douche bag.

You make a good point.  It's a little like a provider posting a thread asking "Is it wrong that I like to offer discounts? I just feel a guy should pay a little less because some have complained that my body is too perfect and my service too addictive."  Lol

You went in to a pretty lengthy explanation there about how you're supposedly not falling for your provider?

if the raise/tip...........is actually based upon the client feeling the provider is normally underpaid.  I believe the additional stipend is an expression of appreciation for the rapport/connection that is established between two people.

It's not something that can be put into an easy algorithm.

She has earned it.

At this so-called university...I'd like to be a guest speaker.  

Treat others how you would like to be treated in return.  If you have been with 30+ other ladies you see value in the service she provides.

we only allow guest speakers who have made 6 or fewer handle changes in last 18 months

how in the hell can you run a university Jack? You've had quite a run yourself my dear sir.  

Thank you for calling me a douchebag and you are a clown who wear a suit to impress a hooker and they tell you how nice you look and take your money,what a clown!!!

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If you feel like she deserves more and you're in the financial position to give it, why not? I don't think it's much more complicated than looking at it as a nice gesture. Fist bump to you.

This is so confusing... And now again you took your website down and changed you city?  Well enjoy Atlanta and check out Phipps Plaza and all of Buckhead.