Just wondering what typically makes up a 4 hr date. I've seen a local provider for 3 2 hr dates and was setting up a fourth and she mentioned getting dinner or drinks before off the clock (2hrs or so). I'm just wondering how it works... Like a civvy date or ? I like the idea of dinner and drinks with her but dont want it to distract from the session, i.e. being really drunk or in a food coma. Any thoughts?
         Thank you

If I clicked with the lady (and you must because you're a repeat customer), I'd jump at such a chance. Social time, either on the clock or off, can go a long way to growing the passion. Casual conversation over a leisurely dinner strengthens the connection, and that in my experience leads to incredible fireworks later. Just don't overdo the food or alcohol where you're incapacitated.

I have done  multiple 4 hour dates.  It really depends on the guy/gal.  I really enjoy coffee or drinks and an appetizer or light meal before our more intimate time together, however I have also been known too have a full dinner but take the majority of it with us for some munchies after our intimate time together.  Just depends on how you feel personally when you have eaten.

I have also done by the guys request on a 4 hour date made the meal myself and I have also had a meal catered so we could enjoy dinner/wine in a more intimate setting.  It can make for a much more sensual encounter

xoxoxo
GingerLynn

The whole idea behind a four-hour session is to make it a real date.  Most women will tell you that a four-hour session isn't four consecutive 60-minute sessions pasted together.  Most will tell you that they expect dinner, a show, and then sex.

If you are gonna be non-functional after dinner, then turn it into a show, or eat very lightly (avoid French food and steaks, for example).

And if you have digestive issues, then take some immodium or avoid the ethnic places.  

A great woman to spend time with and a great dinner are two of the joys in my life. It really kind of depends on how hungry you are. I have played first, then gone to a nice dinner (and sometimes played again afterwards) and I have played after dinner. My preference is to play first and eat afterwards. I come in the door like a blitzing linebacker, get after it, hit the showers then go eat! And most often, we play again afterwards!

Whatever you do, keep dinner light and keep your wits!

Love them!

I have a pair of vibrating panties that I love to put on for the dinner dates!  

Playing before hand, having a nice leisure dinner while in the middle of it,
I hand him the REMOTE CONTROL to the panties and tease the fun out of him!

First you must see if there is a friendship. for the ladies that like to blow and go, this will bore them,
but for the provider who likes the long date (see if they offer multiple hours) it can be
a fun and memorable date that will burn a hole in your memories for a lifetime.

Talk to them before hand.  Get to know the person and see what you have in common, Multiple hours or
days fly by when you are having fun!

Charlotte

Dinner or drinks is A PART of the session! Every heard of delayed gratification?  Amazing

It can be as simple as meeting for drinks beforehand, starting that sweet buildup over flirty conversation, knowing looks, and mischievous smiles - then retreating in for some quality time together. It be dinner, drinks, or whatever other idea you might think would be fun for a date (time permitting).

There are some companions that have set ratio of private and public time, and then there are others (like me) that loves to go with the flow. It is always a good idea to know exactly how the companion's dinner date package is set up.

Really, just have fun with it!

This is NOT real...it is P4P.  She isn't your friend...your girlfriend...or anything but a fuck buddy for cash!!

If your gal pal is suggesting that you two have dinner and then ONLY pay for a 2 hour fuckathon...fine.   Don't be a putz and get sucked into the 4 hour nonsense.  And even the two hour date in many cases is not something you need to pay for here.

Paying for a hooker to be your friend is just not a necessary evil here.  Go see your gal pal...fuck her for the hour..pay her for the hour.

And if she wants to join you for dinner...no issue.  DON'T pay for it.

Unless you simply don't have any real pals that are happy to join you for a dinner on your dime.  And if that is the case...get some.  Work on finding real friends.

Believe me pal...this is such a fake world you're playing in...don't fall into paying for a hooker to be your pal.  It is just not real!!

Me & the ATF average 6-8 hours so....

Dinner, or we stay in and cook....

Keep it lean, a crudite is always nice, fresh fruit....

It's nice not feeling pressed for time, then things can just develop rather nicely...

We've known each other for years so it's basically a clock free date....

I'm very indulged.

and fuck, eat her pussy, make out, etc, for 4 hours.
I'm there for sex, dinner and drinks i can do on a civee date.

I'm not thinking she's my girl friend, I was more curious about just how a longer date would work out. I don't mind talking to her and the anticipation of later might be fun. I'm only paying for a 2hr session regardless so there isn't much downside right?

Is that she may want to push you in a direction that includes:

loans
one time rent payments
help with her medical bills

And then she'll also think that now she may be able to "fool" you into the 4 hour (paid) date.

The gals are masters of illusion.  Go and see David Blaine for an illusion show.  Stick to fucking the hookers.

Don't get sucked into the faux GFE...she doesn't give a rats ass about you...and never will.  But test that comment...see how often she'll have dinner with you without any payment.

Sometimes it is off the clock and sometimes on.

If there is going to be a longer date and a return to the bedroom, eat very light:  fish, soup, salad - that kind of thing.  If you think that won't hold you over, then have something to eat 3-4 hours before the date so you aren't famished.

For heaven's sake, no Mexican food.

As for booze, know you limit and stay well below it.  One glass of wine for me, for example.

Many gals are quite charming raconteurs, so why not enjoy all the delights that they offer.

If the poor man was taking me out to dine first well I can eat my weight in food. It would cost him triple the "intimate" time.

Therefore I don't do dinner dates...just the slap and tickle time and then out the door. I then go and eat with my fat  friends at a buffet, more yummy for the tummy that way.

Plus I don't want people to stare at us..I mean what must they think seeing me with a man...and god forbid I run into my friends..what the hell am I going to say to them...he's my Dad?

would intrude on your dinner with Tom Cruise.

And not to worry...he's gay too!

hey...maybe some guys would like to have dinner/drinks before going BCD's? Doesn't mean he's paying her to be his friend. Maybe he just enjoys the time. Dinner and anticipation can be very erotic.

And,  the 2 hr date is not something he need to pay for? Why would that be wrong? Because YOU can get your nut in less than two hrs (15 mins?)? Hell, who can't? I can rub one out in about 2 minutes if I want to.  But I have never scheduled anything less than 2 hrs. I enjoy lingering and taking my time. I even enjoy conversation. Gasp!

Why do you care what anyone else does anyway? It's not your time or money.

Damn . . . blunt but insightful. I just set up a four hour date with dinner. Was not fantasizing that is was anything but a professional business relationship, did not consider it a "friend" in the truest sense.

After seeing it from your perspective . . . I'm feeling kinda stupid.

Thanks for sharing a candid insight. I will keep in mind going forward.

Sure...let's take our time...but HIS (or in your case HER) money to listen to you kvetch about your life.

No thanks...I've got plenty of pals to hang with to talk sports, politics and hookers with.

I don't (and NO guys should) drop a nickel on a hooker for dinner or drinks.  Except of course those that don't have any real friends...then sure, pay for a gal to pretend to actually give a shit about you.  

Pathetic!

Let me know when you'd like to pay ME to listen to ME babble about my life.  Then we've got something  LOL

And I care about this only to warn others not to get fooled.  YOU care so you can buy some food and pay your rent.  Deal with it!

Hey...I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt here that you actually can get paid for pretending to be a hooker.

I've done a few 4 hr. dates involving 2 different scenarios.  Occasionally, some providers run a 4 hr lunch or dinner special at a lower rate.  Typically, we play before, head out for a light lunch/dinner, then back to our room for "dessert".

With my ATF(s), we've often spent the entire 4 hrs. having a sex marathon.  Well, we do take a break in between to refuel, usually a light snack, e.g. wine, cheese/crackers, then it's back to the action. LOL!

But I tend to try to choose ladies I'd like to have dinner with in any event.  My only cautions are that it be really clear that the diviner part is eitherOTC  or not, and to nether eat nor drink too much.

C'mon. Pay attention. I'm on the paying side of the equation darlin'....lol...

I'm not sure what you think you're warning this OP about----doesn't sound like anyone is trying to fool him. A provider offered to spend some time with him OTC before going BCD's. Great. What problem do you have with that?

And, as I said, I really can't imagine myself scheduling anything less than 2 hrs....I like to linger and take my time. And talk. That's my thing. Nothing there for you to worry about.  

jesus. Take a freakin breath.

Mine are typically drinks, dinner, listening to live music (usually jazz), then back to the boudoir for a real Girlfriend Experience passionate session.   I feel more intensely passionate after spending time out - making it a real date.

Madison

...there is nothing wrong with doing a four hour dinner date if that is what you want to do. It's always different strokes for different strokes here. The message about don't be confused on what's really going on here is a valid one but it's your life, time, and money do with it what you will.

If you decide now that it's not something you want to do, fine, but don't give it up just because someone else said it's not for them.

I mean, there would be no feelings mistaken, no I love the provider, no dinner dates with wasted money getting to know the lady, just lay down the money, and get your business done and leave. I mean it is all bullshit right, no-one really gives a crap. Hell I'm as gay as a three dollar bill, and I need more time to add to my girlish figure. All this GFE shit just cuts into my eating time.

Don't feel stupid, just call and cancel and ask for an hour appointment and don't forget to tell her you don't want to waste money watching her eat. She'll be thrilled but she'll get over it. Tell her lesbianrepellent set you straight...shit I have a hard time even saying that word.

I am a big boy. I spend my money as I wish.

I would never see someone bcd that I would not be proud to have on my arm at my side in public. I often find that "mind fucking" over dinner or some other event is incredibly stimulating. The way I see it, I am paying for the experience. I enjoy the hunt, not just the kill. Savy?

If you want to just hire someone to fuck, hell, knock yourself out. I'm not critical of that one bit. I also bet you and I don't see the same type of providers. I don't use them and throw them away. After they see me, they are my "friends" per se. Maybe I become one of their "preferred" clients.

Just a few thoughts; you do what works for you. But remember, their time is money.  

Go for it! Yes, 4 hour dates are like real dates typically. With my old friends back in Cali, I would average overnights or a couple of days, usually 4 hours was a first date. Multiple hour dates are my favorite because it does feel like real seduction for both of us. There is nothing like the mental eroticism of flirtation during a nice meal. Talk about involving all of your hungers and desires! Yum. (Unfortunately I can no longer do multiple day dates due to my day job.)

I prefer to dine first- I arrive perfectly dressed and groomed for a fine dining experience, and don't want to show up at the restaurant with that "I've just blown someone" look... you know, a lady in the restaurant... But opting for room-service dessert and coffee can lead to lots of fun afterwards= (Edited to add- after the "main event". lol!)

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You pick on someone your own size size there Mary, like me, come on big fella show mama what you're made of.

Take a peek below, there I am two tons of fun oh and I don't do those stogies anymore.

Hey I look hot in a dress and heels and the guys don't know the difference.

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I'm afraid that I'm not sure of, that thing there is no cure for...bumpbumbumpbumpbumpbump.....lol...

Isn't that what life is made of?
Though it worries me to say
I've never felt this way....

I'm sorry, I'm not going to pay a lady a hefty hourly rate, to eat with her. Now........

If she wants to join me for dinner after we "play" I'd be more than happy to treat her to dinner at a nice restaurant. But no way am I paying her by the hour to eat.

That's my view on it, I'm sure some agree, and some don't. Neither is wrong or right, it's whatever you're ok with doing.

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How will I ever leave my wife and marry the escort then??? We have to start with a long date then move on to overnights, then babies and marriage.

Too bad they didn't read and understand the question before spouting off.

The OP said he does 2 hour dates and "she mentioned getting dinner or drinks before 'OFF THE CLOCK'".
Helloooooo? McFly?
So he's NOT talking about paying her to eat. That means lots of responses that had nothing to do with his question. Thanks for sharing and wasting space. lol.

To actually address the question asked:
It's not exactly like a civvy date, because you aren't dating. She either likes you and thinks it would be nice to spend some time together.....or is trying to set you up to be a regular.....or maybe a mix of both.
Don't sweat it. If you like her company just go out together and do something other than fuck (shocking....I know).

If you don't want it to distract from the session, that's really up to you.
Don't want to be "really drunk"? Then don't spend 2 hours drinking like a fish. Pace yourself.
Don't want to be in a "food coma"? Then don't eat anything heavy. Have something light during the first hour...let it settle for the second hour....then go do your regular 2 hour session.

It's really not that complicated. If you've had 3 2 hour sessions you obviously like her company. You're fortunate that it was her idea to hang out off the clock, so she likes your company.
It's just a moment in time. Simply enjoy it and don't over-think it.
Easy.

You've seen my photos, do you think I give a fuck what you think? I have an IQ of 70, so you can't get much dumber but at least I know that...you don't know how much of an asshole you are. But that's okay, I still get paid and you still have to pay.

Just start being a real man like BIB and lesbianrepleelent. They seem to know what to do and how to treat the ladies. I think all you guys on here should listen up and follow them. Then there would be no confusion...the ladies will be treated like crap and in turn treat you like crap. All crappy business, all round.

And they fall for you every time right? Wow you outsmarted a bunch of hookers. You must be so proud of yourself...all puffed up and gloating. Now that's a real man, hiding behind an alias and telling us all how he fools the hookers.

You my man are the benchmark all men should aspire to. Keep up the good work. You truly are a man among men!!!

I do dinner and/or drinks off the clock with a couple of my long-time regular ladies.  One likes to meet before the sex and the other prefers to go out afterwards.  Either way works for me.  I'm not much of a drinker and nether are the ladies I see.  A glass of wine or a cocktail is about it.  I will say that I would not recommend a big heavy meal just before sex.

I'm surprised when I read stories of OTC time.i never get the impression that a lady wants that.i suppose the longer you've been in it the more likely it would happen eventually.

i have to admit, I do get a chuckle when I read " I prefer multi hour appointments" on a providers website. lol

financially, it's a great deal.

we CHOOSE to.

BIB and LesRep really wanted to see the goods so who was I to deny them.

might give you a run for your money. You know we could go grab a drink and chat about women....maybe bullshit a bit, you know how that goes...

I love my chubby chaser dudes, do feel bad for the one I nearly suffocated last week but he's fine now. I got tipped for that session.


Since you are following me and I am following you, I guess that makes us both post addicts. So to a fellow addict, one post at a time...lol

Are you trying to convince us or yourself? It's okay we know you're a man, a big, big, big, massive manly man...all hairy testoserone smell.

I did not have to pay one lady to be with me...can you say that? And you forgot modest and good looking in your little bio.

I get laid without spending a dime. As old and fat and ugly as I am, I still get pussy for free and the men still pay. So, what's your point?

There are men who have to, believe me. You might choose to, BIB possibly has to. And even on here there are men who have freely admitted that they HAVE to pay for the women they desire. There is no shame in that.

I thank the universe that there are men out there that love plus, plus, plus size ladies. And I am equally thrilled that there are women out there that have a thing for big gals like myself...I just don't have to/choose to pay.

what they want is....OUR money!!

I have no other board, I like this one... This one is fun!!!  You who has an alias ...really did you poop your brains out this morning there love?  I am not trying to fool anyone, what's the big deal, I have fun under this handle, you have your handle so you can get laid and this one so you can be an asshole. I at least showed a pic of myself.  Now when you decide to tell all the escorts who you really are (get laid handle and asshole handle) when you book, I will link my reviews and website. Until then it looks you have something to hide.

And hotplants is a woman..a yummy, sweet smelling, delicious woman.

Same with me. I agree; however, I think we're both an anomaly, not to mention in a very small minority out here in hobbyland... The cold, cruel, heartless inhumane cynics seem to rule here.