How does trust work in this world?

This isn't a forum where trust really works well. We never meet each other apart from clients/escorts. People shill, lie, misrepresent themselves all of the time. And of course, none of us are using our real names (or even our real TER handles sometimes).

It's that simple. It's hard to get and harder to keep.

t's common knowledge among highly successful people ... that one of the quickest ways to gain someone's trust is to ASK THEM TO DO YOU A FAVOR.

Now you know that the person who told you you were full of shit probably doesn't like you. So you probably wouldn't trust that person in the future. Or you will trust him/her/it/them/us/me/whoever to not treat you very nicely. That's another kind of trust. If the cookie jar is left on the bottom shelf you can trust a kid to snatch a cookie.

If you can fake that, you've got it made

And you should not take such offense to it as if you do this long enough being either a guy or girl someone will have blown it for the rest.

How does trust work here? Same as anywhere else. You don't demand it. You earn it.

I am not seeking a soulmate to share my deepest secrets.

Based on your posts and reviews, I would not conclude that you are a person with bad intentions, but that has very little currency with me. Discretion and respect for boundaries are important. There are plenty of guys that trespass emotionally beyond the provider's politely outlined comfort zone because they are  emboldened by their benevolent intentions.  

and would expect the same in return.

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Damn autocorrect.

...why are you keeping company with people who doubt you? There are plenty of people out there who can spot a good person..I'm sure you're one of them. it's very liberating to cut off relationships that cause you more stress than happiness. They don't believe you or in you? Screw em'

Doveryai, no proveryai.” (Trust, but verify)  
That's this ho's motto.

We've come to trust in this industry.  

except for my best friend, and my now-deceased parents. That's it.

Very few people with any sense at all start off trusting anyone, the longer you know someone (without them fucking it up of course) the more you trust them. For a guy with as short a history as you have here, especially one like you who has not yet mastered the art of discretion, it's quite understandable that the trust factor regarding you would be rather low at this point.

Remember the last guy who came on here "demanding' respect? Things didn't go so well for him here, so badly I don't think it's even allowed to mention him by name.

boy i think the op is probably too sensitive.  nothing about this endeavor is to be taken at face value.  it's all about fun.  leave your emotions at home.  i know it's hard but that's the only way to navigate through these waters without getting hurt.

eofm!!

"hope for the best, expect the worst."

All within the context of the realm in which we willingly play.  

The harder you look for it, the less of it you are going to get.

"Enough vodka will solve all problems"

“Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.”  
          - William Shakespeare

...I follow that advice too.

I choose to give 100% trust from the beginning, allowing them the ability to smash me into little pieces.

It doesn't "work", in my opinion its a pretty universal thing here. And that is key.  

The more someone begs me to trust them, the less and less I trust them.

do you think there are times when building rapport too quickly can lead to mistrust? I have had that happen when there's too much impersonal sharing (email vs live.) that can be misconstrued as,prying as opposed to interest. Swear to god ...lol