Hello,

I was wondering if it is common for a provider to constantly ask you to come over or to offer free sessions in exchange for paying bills? I started seeing a provider who, while very skilled in the bedroom, has virtually no life management skills.

I have told her I will contact her when I'm ready to see her, but it seems like everytime she gets in over her head, she contacts me. I feel sorry for her, but I don't like that this provider/hobbiest line is getting blurred.

Is it normal for Providers to do this?

I would seem to me that she is playing you for a sap by doing this, and you should cut things off abruptly if you don't want to get in over your head any further.

That's why she is using you...you're apparently as inept at "life management skills" as she is.

You are an easy mark...she is going to suck you dry (and not in a good way).

As mrfisher said nicely...lose her NOW!

Actually it seems to be not as uncommon as you would think. For some reason many women with very few fixed bills and very high earning power  who who work as sexual providers seem to have no "life management" skills and are constantly broke.

Yes, it can blur the provider/hobbyist lines, but only if you let it. One way to look at it is an informal SD/SB relationship. To ensure the "posture power" remains on your side, remember you had the right to say no, and excercise that right when called for. "When called for" means anytime you damned well feel like it. lol

dispenses benjamins instead of $20's.

I don't know, it seems to be P4P in the end, what difference does it make what the money is used for? He can always say no.

This is what gives the biz a bad name. And you've happened to hit on one of my favorite topics so I will get on my high horse and pontificate from that precarious perch...

Why, coincidentally just today a dear gentleman friend in the hobby disclosed to me that some of his other lady friends have tried to hit him up for loans or pleas to help with debt, etc. Good lord, how tewibly tewibly tacky. Yes, bad money management abounds, but HERE"S THE DEAL: That's not why we are paid the big bucks. We are paid to be a break from all of that. A tropical vacation, condensed down into a date. Awesome work, if you can get it.

Mind you, there are all kinds of guys, but the kind I like are the ones who aren't looking for a love relationship beyond the few hours we spend together, and who really want a connection that is not STICKY. I keep my stuff - my dramas, family issues, dead car problems, what have you - out of his head. That is what I am paid for. I am the fantasy, the one who has no bitch hidden waiting to bite. No sticky fingers into his wallet. My fee should cover my needs, right?  

It's beautiful, clean, sweet, genuine and refreshing. Yes, it's a fantasy, duh! But when I keep my drama out of the equation (yes, of course I have drama in my life), it gives me a break from all of that too.

Harrumpf. I should teach a class on how to be gracious as a courtesan.

OK, that's it. I'm done now.

Back to hearts and flowers as I skip down the yellow brick road...

Some of you guys are really a bit...um...unforgiving.

Just saying.

I'll never forgive MYSELF if I don't trek across to the other side of this country to meet you!

we have a client who tried to offer us an old laptop for an appointment. do we really need to post that we do not accept used electronics for appoiontments?

Have you discussed with providers their money management?

I am also a financial professional, and yes on ocassion I am asked for my opinion on such matters.

Not to mention the fact that I have been involved in P4P for well over thirty years.

Any other questions?

I have been intentionally leaving you alone to give you a chance to make up for your "bad beginning" in this board, but don't push it. Going toe to toe with me will only make you look foolish, and believe or not, I really have no desire to punish you further for mistakes you have made in the past. So please, do us both a favor and 'quit while you are behind" lol

If it were me I'd stop seeing her and block her number!!!  I've been there and if u lend her money it's finanical assistance which could be promotion..I'm not sure but DON'T DO IT!!!

Peter

It's worth the trek...

I bet she wont.

I did cut it off and block her number... too clingy and too many personal issues. Have had a few sessions with other providers since her and haven't had the same problems.

Still getting the feel for hobbying... probably should have posted this topic on the newbie board.