Well, this appears to be the week for self improvement – lol.  We know most guys eat better and workout to stay in shape for hobbying.  I am curious if you also read books, watch videos, or make a sincere effort to learn how to become a better lover for the hobby.  As I have been married for a long time (15+ years) I will honestly admit that I have not added any new tools to my love making game in a long time.  It’s high time that I did (and others may be interested as well).

So here is my question:  Guys, do you make an effort to learn new sexual techniques?  If so, please share which ones you have found to be most effective.  Ladies, when you experience something new (or really great) do share or instruct your more receptive clients who are interested in becoming better lovers?

and incorporate the best into my repetoire.

No new techniques but learning what ladies like, what some like more than others and what some don't like at all is a never ending process.

I really love to give oral but I never realized how into it some ladies are until I was with a particular provider a few years ago...I was "south of the border" with a particular Brazilian lady  that I was seeing for the first time when she wrapped her leg around my head and pulled me in closer to her pussy and started grinding my face.  I knew she was into it and that got me more into it than I had ever been.

Some girls like a finger in the ass while you eat them, some don't.  Some like fingers in general and some don't.  Some like you to move around down there but most like you to find the "spot" and stick with it.

What I quickly learned is that the gals I'm with who love oral also tend to orgasm and orgasm often. Getting and receiving oral is the best part of the the experience for me and it's something that is pretty much non-existent at home.

I've got nothing against books or videos but I'm a big fan of hands on learning.  It's always worked best for me.

Use the standard answer. I found it on the internet. Did you like it?
-J

LOL

I could barely type that with a straight face!!!

Of course I try and learn from every experience I have in life good or bad.

You take the Good, You take the Bad, You take them both and there you have....sorry.

I always try to incorporate moves that work into my go-to rotation.  Some are universal, and some are lady specific.

It is the most fun trial and error you will ever have if you find the right lady, and I have been lucky enough to find several ladies that loved to experiment as much as I do.

Any ladies out there that would like to schedule some lab time with a willing and teachable partner should feel free to PM me at any time.

Your sister!  

ba-doom

Since every lady is different, the learning capabilities are endless, if you just pay attention to them. And don't limit your learning to love making. Learn what you can about foreplay and arousal, including different techniques of sensual massage. Thai and Shiatsu both have different techniques with lots of gentle touch that will bring wonderful results. There are countless books on both, and lessons are available almost anywhere you live. My son teaches several styles of Asian massage, and has taught me a lot.

As I have been married for a long time (15+ years) I will honestly admit that I have not added any new tools to my love making game in a long time.  It’s high time that I did (and others may be interested as well).
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Pitiful.  High time indeed!  I'm sure your wife might have appreciated this kind of effort some years ago before the sex life atrophied. Now I know that some providers here will applaud your desire to please them, but since you're the customer that's their job.  Your main job is to show up, be clean and respectful and pay your donation.  Anything else is icing on the cake.

DD - of course you’re right.  I have stated exactly your advice on previous posts myself about not placing pressure on the situation, showing respect, being clean, being on time, and pay with complaining, etc.

However, it was not the intention of this thread.  I wanted to know if guys actually did research outside of a session and if so what techniques were most effective (by that I mean brought more pleasure them and the provider).  By no means did I mean it was a requirement or did I want to make this sound like work.  I just thought some in TER community may have use self-improvement in the areas better sex and improved lover making which we could all benefit from as I believe we all have some room for improvement (some more than others - lol).

As for not applying new techniques at home for a lengthy time I agree with you there as well.  Although strangely enough for me hobbying has made my home life better (both in the bedroom and overall).  I know some may believe I’m in a state of denial, but I am thankful for moving in a positive direction on the home front.

Well reading this post sure got me all worked up, fingers inside, yummy.  Between the tongue and fingers and your ass up in the air, orgasm city!!!!


I have to admit I would want to learn roleplay.  I have never done that and sure would like to. Anyone in Florida or visiting care to teach me???

Bella

Has it occurred to you that perhaps some of us may want to improve our techniques and put a little more effort into our home situation as well as the hobby? Just a thought.

I don't normally endorse anyone or anything, but David Shade has a book called Masterful Lover.  

Let's just say before my SO read this book, I never squirted......

A download copy is still available I believe as well as the hard copy.  

Kari~~

Thanks karizza!  Yes, we can all benefit from a few specifics.

I'd gladly do it if she'd go along with it.  You rush to judgment by assuming that this sort of effort would have helped in any way, shape, or form.

Hopefully you won't hurt anything when you fall off your high horse.

But Karizza, when are you writing YOUR book?

Once in a while I will thumb through a magazine at a newstand.  I prefer to let the ladies show me the way.

Right after I see YOU a few more times.....

just like you, BG.....nothing like getting out and PRACTICING....

If I try something and like it, then *of course* I want to do it again... and will gladly share the experience!

I must say that I've encountered quite a few new techniques that I'm pretty sure I would never have come across if it weren't for this hobby of mine Maybe the same could be said for some of the gentlemen I've spent time with...

As far as outside the hobby, I'll admit that I watch a lot of porn, lol. I know most of the stuff is done mostly for the voyeuristic effect of it (voyeurism is it's own reward anyway!) and not really so much for the pleasure of those involved, but occasionally I see something that I can't *wait* to try.

Maxine