The other day at the office, my partner was served with divorce papers. These papers stated that he was thrown out of his own house; and, that his wife would soon be asking a Family Court judge for a monthly stipend that could float a small third-world country. Called his bank; joint account empty as a snare drum. Called his lawyer and gave HIM a retainer fee large enough to buy a mid-size Mercedes.
  That night, sitting in a reasonably nice hotel, brandy snifter in hand, though I can't remember where I heard it, the following thought came to mind:
  O.J. has three things that just about every man would love to have:
      a) a Heisman Trophy;
      b) a $250,000/yr pension; and
      c) a dead ex-wife.

Other then the lawyers who get paid, there are no winners in divorce. Everyone looses.

Nice rant.

When you tally up all the incidentals, my divorce cost me a little more than $75,000, to say nothing of the residuals I pay in the form of "her share" in my military retirement.  This from a guy who was, at the time, making just about $35,000 a year.  When you factor in the child support that was initially 40% of my net income, it's easy to understand why nine years later, I'm still paying off that debt, and even easier to understand why I might be angry.  It was SHE, after all, who was unfaithful, and not me.

I carry all of that, and more, and yes, I am still pissed off.

But I have never, ever suggested that I'd be better off if my ex-wife were dead.

There is no honor is such thoughts.

You forget to mention one other thing that SOME men might want to do to their ex-wife (or even current wife) that O.J. did...and thats kill them and get away with it.

Guz

I have no experience remotely similar, so I thank you for saying this for me.

What's with this "dead ex wives"  lol also from an earlier post a "wife on a milk carton"  Is it just me or does anyone else looking for the right woman to marry and live happy ever after lol.......i guess not :P
sham

After 11years of divorce, I'm beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel.  Credit half way back to normal, still renting, civilans only interest is the bottom line.  You want to go out and they want to know what's in the bank and how much your worth.  Surprised that she haden't maxed the credit cards out as in my case.  Providers are more honest so I prefer there company.

I know you're joking but OJ's an abusive bully shithead who got away with murder and deserves to be in jail for the rest of his life.  I guess we'll all have to be satisfied with him being a social pariah who is treated with the disgust and contempt he's earned.  Don't forget, he didn't just kill his ex-wife.  He also murdered Ron Goldman and deprived his kids of growing up with their mother.

You do realize that they're all completely insane, don't you?  I admit it, they scare the hell out of me.  Be afraid, be very afraid!

So much resentment caused by the hardening of our hearts and the exploitation of divorce law. So sad; It really wasn't meant to be this way.

I to was married and the same happened to me, She was unfaithful
and I got kicked out of my house, ect. 60.000 in paid out in
legal fees ect. but I do have a litte bit more of a happy ending.
I Got custody of my children, ( my daughter was only 8 yrs old
at the time) I got my house back, and I got her out of my life.
She got pregnat by the other guy during the time she was married
to me! Well it still cost me in emotional pain and lost money
and as always it was the lawywers who walked away with $$$$$
with smiles on there faces and needless to say everyone else
had tears and pain. But hey there is light at the end of the
tunnel. I just paid my way out of debt this last year and I now
have clean credit! and I have a newly found girlfriend?
and if I ever say I DO again, you can be certain that there
will be a prenup singed sealed and delivered to my safe deposit
box. But I still feel your pain as I go out everyday I get
angry that I still did no wrong and got bilked out of hard earned
cash and a emotional roller coaster ride because some unstable
litte wench seen some green grass on the other side of the fence!

... and I find it astounding and even sickening that someone would invoke his name as someone to be "admired" even if it was in jest.
Perhaps you could add "d) got away with murder twice" to that list.

I have never gone through divorce but I know others who have experienced the trauma and bitterness of divorce. I'm sure there are a lot of nightmare stories out there where one party or the other has suffered greatly and in a disproportionate way with respect to their own culpability. Often times it can be the one who has the "best" lawyer that "wins". I am astounded at how little people really know about each other when they decide to take that walk down the aisle. Is it any wonder that the divorce rate in this country still hovers at the 50%- 60% range?

There is far too much violence in our society and perhaps that violence is far too often  directed at the physically weaker, namely women and children. That violence doesn't have to culminate in death for it to potentially have a lifelong impact on the victim of that violence. Rape comes to mind. How many men outside the prison system do you know who have experienced the brutality of rape?

Before you think I am someone who takes a very slanted, even one sided stance on the issue of divorce let me remind you of the Betty Broderick case here in San Diego. She was the wife of a successful attorney. They went through a bitter divorce. He ended up marrying a woman who worked in his law office. There may or may not have been an issue of infidelity. In the end his ex, Betty, broke into his home one morning and shot him and his new wife dead as they lay in bed. I have no more respect for Betty Broderick than I do for O.J. Wishing one's ex dead or having a direct hand in that is indefensible. O.J. I am convinced had a direct hand in two murders. No one else with any credible motive has ever been brought forth as being responsible for those murders.

Despite the anger, bitterness, and often lack of fairness in divorce joking about it in this way is just wrong on the face of it. As MasterYoda2 said there is nothing honorable in how this was presented.



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Netmichelle, I would never make you sign a pre-nup

you can have my entire $75 bank account anytime you want  I mean it from the bottom of my heart.

all boys from the age of 12 (or younger) should be required by law to listen to the Tom Leykis show every god damned day.  And, these divorce laws are the way they are BECAUSE WE ALLOW IT.

74 packages of Top Ramen, which gets me through another month. I'll take it.