could be her SO ... now that would be funny

obviously in a situation where the 2 people have already met. was just wondering how common this was? send filthy texts about the things we are gonna do to each other to get a sense of a build up for the next time.  i just started doing this with one particular lady, and i gotta say it is pretty damn fun, at least on my end. she plays along. she doesn't work very often, and i did ask her if she minded before hand if i ask to see if she is working in a couple weeks, and it progressed to sexting, cause i know for some girls it would probably be an annoyance to text without a business purpose, even though i guess ours are business focused as i will book the first day she works again



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"Ladies have better things to do than sexting with you."

If she had better things to do, why  would she sext him back?
Maybe neither one of them had the middle school  experience of exchanging erotic notes, before they met under the bleachers.
Those  who missed normal childhood, sometimes try to relive what they missed. Example . A young civvie woman  attracted to men two or three times her age..Chances are, her dad left when she was a child.
If no $$$ was discussed, anticipatory, sexual flirting over time,"might" help with your defense????.

Did she initiate it? If the answer is no then I'm guessing it is probably either a minor annoyance or a huge pain in the ass to her.  She is tolerating it because you are a paying customer but what you are doing is intruding on her non-provider life.

I put this sort of thing in the same category as guys who stay after their time is up.  Just because the lady doesn't ask you to leave does not mean that she is not annoyed that you are still there.  The fear of losing business or a bad review is real to these ladies and it causes many to bite their tongue and put up with stuff that annoys them to no end.
The fact is many ladies go out of their way NOT to offend a paying customer even if it inconveniences them.

It would be nice if every client acted likewise.

I'm not a mind reader. It's always possible that your lady is fine with this but conversations I have had with providers over the years lead me to think otherwise.  

lol... that would be hilarious! no way i'll know hmmm, would that make me gay? lol

It's the only way to know if she truly wants to do so as opposed to just being polite.

I have several ladies that I either text or speak to on a rather regular basis, only a couple of them are close enough friends that I have no qualms about calling them "just to chat". The others I always give them an out to end the conversation gracefully without having to "be a bitch" if they have other things to do. It's rude to just assume a professional person of any trade really wants to chat all day with you, especially in this business.

that reminds me of when i used to exchange naughty texts with an old gal-pal from highschool. until, of course, i requested a nude pic (not the first) and her SO read it! oops! i haven't talked to her since.

Ladies have better thnings to do than sexting with you.

when i was bored or not busy.  Its pure marketing on escort's part.  Don't for minute think that when she is texting "ohhhh i wanna get my lips on your $%## so badly" she actually is in her bed rubbing one out.

Chances are, she is standing in line in DMV and bored as hell ... and the only reason she is sending the texts is because she just saw pair of shoes she wants on her i phone.

And its best case scenario ..

You're way over-thinking this! What don't you get about P4P?

That is a very plausible and likely scenario.

I never texted any of my SO's clients but I often responded to her e-mails for her. It was easier to do from the blackberry I had at the time than it was from her phone. Wish I had a dollar for every e-mail I typed begining with "Hey sweetie"... just sayin.

My phone was buzzing while in church.when I got  out I read the text and got instant wood.every red light we text back and forth.I telll ya it was the hottest thing.

its not everyday, not even every week. just every once in a while when i ask if she plans on working or is gonna be in my area for an outcall. so always focus of the biz part, and then we text a few more during that exchange with a sexual tone. i did ask her when i met her if it would be ok if i text her every now and then to see if she can meet up, she said cool. but i by no means contact her every week, that would be a waste of time and kinda creepy in my book.

Exactly! Its just good marketing on her part. I mean its made it to where i wanna see her next time she is around. Little effort on her and my part, and bam, she's got a regular who she Pretends to have a good time with.i was just curious if this was common since this its the first time I tried it.Probably easier for a girl to do who doesn't work 24/7, like this particular girl who rarely works.

I have one provider whose preferred communication is texting and after our first time together, she began texting me regularly to inform me of her travel schedule and it later morphed into occasional sexting, always initiated by her. As another post mentioned, if she initiates it, that is the key...