I was considering seeing a lady until I read on her site that there was a higher rate for first appointment, and then subsequent visits were at the normal rate. The first visit rate was $50 more than the rate for follow-up visits.

Can someone please explain to me why this may be the case. I could sort of understand if the lady said for first visits you had to book maybe an extended session. I've seen some lady's say the first visit has to be an hour and a half session and that was typically because she may need the extra time to be comfortable with a new person and that person with the lady. I'm not saying I totally buy into that think either because if you are professional and the guy knows what the typical do's and don't are, there should be no need for that, but I can sort of see it from a comfort level perspective.

What I can not understand is insisting that the first visit be for more money but not extra time as well. Am I missing something? Lady's I know it is a big "no no" for a guy to question a lady's rate but do you think I would be totally off base and insult the lady in question by asking why the higher rate but not extra time for 1st visits?

Perhaps the cancelation/no show ratio is higher re: first timers. This might explain the reason for higher rate for 1st timers.

Simple issue.  She is probably spending at least one hour extra making sure you aren't some cop ready to bust her.  Once she knows who you are she can melt into your arms... until then, you are just some ass hole who can bust her... she has to make sure who you are...  this is a big threat... and if you have ever been arrested, as I have, you will understand.

So, pay the 50 and be happy,

M

if she wants to charge a higher rate, you as the client are perfectly justified to explore that -- with her.

the explanation you get from her will be the one you really have to deal with. and the fact that you're discussing something with her allows you to sound her out on a "relationship" issue, and how she handles your questions will tell you how she handles herself.

the fact that you're talking to her means you accept your responsibility to find out everything you need to know to make the right choice, and she will probably appreciate that.

why the ladies do what we do.  Usually comes from having been BURNT and simply finding what works best to buffer it rather than take revenge and being an ROB.  I'd call it taking the Higher Road.  Yes, and I agree, ask her, but keep an open mind; try not to do it in an angry way.  I am certain she comes NOT from a place to alienate new clients, so much as to make herself more SECURE; the extra tension that goes into seeing a new client.  But of course some ladies give discounts for new clients. A different viewpoint to someone with different sensitivities, but different things work for different people.  

Personally, I give the lesser price to a REPEAT client.  By putting up with me, they've earned it, lol.  In my case, I ALSO make the extra effort to GIVE more to repeat clients, i.e., see them  on shorter notice, give extra time, give special extras, work with them on the rates, etc.  

xoxoxo

FF




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Regulars are, for many of us, our bread and butter. Not the one time gent who shows up and we never hear from again, but the gentlemen we can count on once a month/week/every two weeks, whatever!!! This pricing structure *encourages* regular clientele... it encourages you to come back, because the price, once you attain *regular* status, is lower.

And as someone else pointed out, with a first time client we do have to spend additional time screening you. Once we *know* you are ok, appointments are easier to make on both of us, last minute is no problem or worry, you can call, etc, etc, etc.

Don't be so resentful... I think it's just good business!

Hugs*
Nicole

Ladies do what they can to encourage repeat visits. Perhaps she's not communicating it in the right way.

She should be saying, "Pay the regular rate on your first visit and save $50 on your future visits."

Riker, thank you for repeating, you now have a discount eom

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It takes some extra effort for a provider to secure and prepare fpor a new client, and 50 doesn't sound excessive to me.  If her reviews are legit and good, and you are REALLY interested in her, then pay the 50 and make a new friend tha just might rock your world.  I have done this in the past without reservation.

excuse me for being ignorant but shouldn't a lady screen all clients at al times. I thought most providers kept screened info until the "date" and then disposed of it afterward. At least that is what many tell me. So wouldn't they screen every time. Case in point, I know one lady who had a, lets say, very difficult time she told me about with one of her so called regular clients. She wants to take legal action but doesn't have any of his info handy because he was a regular and she felt he was okay.

I would think that a provider would have at least some way of gauging whether or not she'll let someone see her.  It's perfectly reasonable, and I for one have no problem with the screening processes I have gone through with providers.  I never had any abussive experience.

There are a few girls out there that will actually meet a potential client, off the books or at a very reduced rate, for maybe half an hour so to size each other up in person, levelling the playing field so to speak.  I have never had that experience, but I would love to have the opportunity to do so.  In person like that you get to screen each other.

I know that there are providers out there that will say that they're too busy to do something like that, and I'm sure some of them are, but, alas, the world is not perfect, so I for one have no real problem with a legitimate screening process.  I would think less of a provider who didn't care about her own safety.

I imagine that some providers throw away all your screening information after your date, some keep all of your screening information and some just keep your name and phone number in case you call again or they want to call you.  I don't even bother to ask a lady if she keeps my information.  I just try to be pragmatic about it and assume that the lady has kept all of it regardless of any statements to the contrary.

I wasn't being resentful. Just curious. I didn't think my tone was resentful.

If you're speaking of a Raleigh provider.

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