Twenty years ago, bdsm is kinky, now it is main stream. BBBJ was once kinky, then it was CIM, which progresses to swallow. Foot fetish, Greek are still kink for some, RIM  is no longer unusual but not common. Then there is GS , BS or refer to as FT, FTT.  I consider FTT totally out there. So what you folks consider kinky? When some provider advertise themselves as kinky, what exactly do they mean? Or when they called themselves open minded which is even more confusing.  

Can someone enlighten me?

This seems a lot more kinky than anything I have done, or am likely to do.  Maybe you should be telling US what's kinky.  

Your instinct is correct i.e. we will NEVER agree what is kink and what is not. Some girls think me swatting them on the ass lightly with a flogger is wildly kinky, as they may have never done it before, while others think that is vanilla as vanilla gets.

 
One persons "open mind" about BBBJ is them demanding you give them fair warning BEFORE you jizz as no cum will EVER get into their mouth, while other "open minded" women will slowly, and very willingly, take it all in, savor it, show it to you, then swallow.

 
So I can't give you definitions on these things as these terms are just so vague. "Kink" or "BDSM" or whatever term you want to use, is such a wide and varied part of p4p that it needs TONS of more communication beforehand than a standard GFE type date, for example.

 
All of that communication is desperately needed due directly to the fact that so many have so many differing opinions on what "kink" is, and what it is not.  

 
The critical thing is you HAVE to be on the same page as your partner, as it is imperative that you two agree on the definitions, and not be concerned with how anybody else defines it.

Sex is such a personal thing, that it defies one size fits all definitions.

As an example, one gal who I met ages ago was extremely vanilla in terms of what I could and couldn't do.  She wouldn't even allow COB.   Then one day I arrived and found her a little woozy.   She explained that she had to down a six-pack of beer for her last client who wanted a golden shower.   I didn't even know what that meant, so she had to explain it to me.

I was the vanilla one now, and felt a bit repelled by the thought of being urinated on, but over the course of the next week I began to think about it and the next time we me I had my first golden shower with her.

Sex can be like that proverbial box of chocolates; you never know what your going to get.

No. Par for the course . I would have gone back if she is more feminine. Anyone Can recommend a feminine TS who is submissive.

... that "sexy' is like using a feather or two, but 'kinky' is using the whole chicken. (haha)

Sorry folks.... but I need some explanation on abbreviations (Guess I’m a lil’ vanilla, perhaps “whitebread”! LOL)

GS?  
BS?
FT?
FTT?...... pretty certain two of those are NOT bullshit, nor a unit of measure.

THX!

a girl with a dick to be more feminine seems like an oxymoron.  Lol

 
There used to be some trannies that posted regularly on this board, but I can' remember their names.  All that comes to mind right now is s few GG's that I wish had been more feminine.  Lol

What makes one guy puke, will make another guy fall in love.

I think you have to get into bodily functions, hard hitting/whipping, serious foot play, or unusual amounts of leather and/or latex before it get kinky.  Porn and the hobby are so out there now, the threshold of kink is way higher.  Like I wouldn’t even consider handcuffs, tying, whipping, etc kink anymore.  One of the big factors is, is or can sex occur during the act, that makes a big difference. Like whipping or slapping during sex not kinky, whipping or slapping without sex is kinky.  If the act is more a replacement for sex, rather than just adding to the act, then it’s kinky.

THX means "thanks."    I won't address the others because you might be going to lunch soon.  Lol

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Good one, CDL! I knew some wise-ass was waiting! Speaking of wise-asses... where the hell is “Jake from Allstate”?  

As for kinky...... I’m on the mild side myself. If it leaves a mark, too rough for me! And the only bodily fluids that need to be exchanged are spit, cum and PJ!

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LMAO! Alright, got another wise guy back!

Old joke. Using a feather is kinky. Using the whole chicken is perverted.  

So, I don't remember if I reviewed it or not but I had a date one afternoon with two wonderful ladies. They blindfolded me, put a leash on me and laid me down and beat me with light floggers and spanked my ass with a paddle that had a heart shaped hole in the middle. It was fun, listening to them laugh and having a good time on my dime...

I say if you're with someone and you both dig each other, why not experiment?  

What some people think is weird can be totally fine with others.  

It's a personal preference as far as I'm concerned and if other people have a problem with it that's their fucking problem.