my SO has a close friend who is recently divorced and she told me that she regularly used to check her husband's cellphone's recently called list and also would check his e-mails when he wasn't home.  dude got busted.  Gotta be smart ladies and gents.

racy, seductive emails from me!

Oh babyyyyy... Im gonna miss those verbs and adjectives. Anddddd... OMG, when you hit that spacebar, it just launches me.
(snicker )

Thank God you're single. I'm gonna send you a PM full of exclamations!

Wait, first let me get naked...bring it on baby :P

It's the guy's own fault. Both problems are so simple to overcome that a twelve year old could figure them out:

Some people think that because they have a cell phone, land line phones cease to exist. If it's a local number, make your call on a regular phone, then dial the weather to prevent redial from dialing the provider's number. If it's long distance, go to 7-11 and invest in a $5.00 throwaway phone card. It's a lot cheaper than a divorce lawyer.

2. For emails of a sensitive nature, set up a free, web based account with Yahoo, Hotmail or many others. Your spouse wouldn't even know the account exists, since it resides on the Web rather than on your hard drive.

A little common sense goes a long way.

Rule number 1 seperate email account, at work, not accesed from home. Rule number 2 erase recent calls on cell phone before going home or before wife gets home. Rule number 3 have cell phone bill sent to and paid at work. Rule number 4 Be VERY VERY CAREFUL. Sorry about your friend.