Why don't women inform their sisters, daughters, nieces, friends, etc to make sure to please their husbands sexually, because if you don't he will find the pleasure elsewhere?  

Things of this world have not changed in thousands of years, yet the SAME OL' problem of "I've got the love and marriage now so I don't need to give you the sex that you had previously" continues to go on uncorrected.  Do women not learn from the past?  Is the information not disiminated through experience and teachings?  

Is the reason because their husbands don't please them sexually so why should they have sex.

Whether it is the husband or the wife, when one person in the marriage feels "entitled" to sex, it gets in the way of a mutually respectful relationship.

A relationship cannot thrive without respect.

Both sides are certainly part of the answer.  Let me add that it's an open question whether, as a species, we're built for momagomy.  

Instead of repeating myself, I'll refer anyone interested to my comments in the thread above.

Is "Things I Learned While Sleeping With Your Husband".

It should be enlightening for all involved.

not acceptable...try again.

this is not the case at all times.  trust me...it's not the case where i live.  my wife never had orgasms prior to me and she can testify that 90+% of the time she has very real, very intense orgasms.  

i am talking about the women who have sex like a maniac prior to marriage, then drop off significantly after the "I Dos".

working on it.

Sedona

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I'm sure most of the them feel they ARE pleasing their husbands sexually..
Most of my men friends, as well as clients, are very happy in their marriages or relationships. The sex is there, and is about normal; or great. They just don't want the same 'meal' in the same 'restaurant' every time...they like the buffet.

Sedona

-- Modified on 6/5/2003 4:29:14 PM

How many guys still treat their wives like they did before the knot was tied?  It is a two way street. I have concluded that my S.O. has lost interest because she shows none and never initiates anything.  But it could very well be that I no longer generate what I generated before for her.  Or maybe she has found someone else.  I doubt she has become a hobbyist, but hell, anything is possible...

Its all about selfishness, and lack of respect!!!!! if he doesn,t care enough to make sure she has an orgasm and enjoys herself then why would she want to. Also if there are kids in the picture, both are to tired, it just takes to much energy and effort.