I thought I was at the poultry barn at the State Fair for a moment. With all that is going on in the world, this seems like an awful lot of words in response to the post.
As described on the web “ Mansplaining is when a man explains something to a woman in a condescending, overconfident, and often inaccurate manner, based on the assumption that she has less knowledge on the topic. It is not merely a man explaining something, but the act of doing so in a patronizing way, which can be unintentional. The term arose from societal gender bias and can occur across different social dynamics, though it most often refers to a man explaining something to a woman”
Someone has taken great offense to me using this word in a past thread calling my language “incendiary” OMG the horror. Insert giggles and shits.
"Incendiary" describes something designed to cause fire, such as an incendiary device or incendiary ammunition, or something that is inflammatory, meaning it provokes strong emotions or violent reactions, like incendiary remarks or speeches. The word can be used as both an adjective and a noun, with its origins in Latin meaning "to set fire to”
We all have our passions I’d like to know what has worked out for you in the past?
Do these words hurt you? If so why?
Have a great week everyone
Xxx
The Sexy Swinger
And no, “mansplaining” as used in the context of the other thread here was not “incendiary” at all.
In that thread, which you chose to bring back up today for some reason, you shared your definition of the term “unicorn.” That’s completely fair as it’s a vague term used in many different contexts, and you explained your interpretation of it. So far, so good.
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However, when Hehits responded with a different take by giving a broader definition of the word, you immediately accused him of “mansplaining.” His comment had absolutely nothing to do with gender, and he was not attacking you at all...he simply disagreed.
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Rather than engaging with his point on its own merits, you dismissed it solely because he is a man, turning the discussion into misandry instead of addressing the actual substance of his disagreement.
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As you may or may not know, I push back on misogyny MANY times here, and in that same spirit, I also call out misandrist language when I see it, as I have done before and as I will do in the future, if it is warranted.
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Thanks for allowing me to address this in greater detail. Enjoy your week as well!
when you giggle, please do not shit.
I am NOT into scat play. 
I used to take offense to the term hooker. Now I realize it’s a compliment. The ability to hook a man at anytime & anyplace is the true Art of seduction. I’ve never been a street walker, so hooker no longer grinds my gears.
I think the basic rule is we are all here for shits & giggles. 🤭 This is supposed to be a fun hobby & community, but unfortunately the nit picking it ridiculous. Nothing hurts me. Resilient.
Keep posting. 💋
Literally, no one accused you of that in this thread.
“you shared your definition of the term “unicorn.”“
As I stated it was not my definition!
Are you challenged?
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Elle
Of course he did. Very typical of him to deny it.
No it is not incendiary. I think the word has been overused and overapplied to the point that it has started to lose its original meaning. The word is applied whenever a man simply expresses an opinion or has a disagreement, and it just seems like it is used to shut down a conversation. I think it is annoying sometimes, but not insulting or rude.
I'm fairly sure most of us know what mansplaining is. I would never deny it's a thing. Plenty of men are jerks, talk down to women, discredit them, and what have you. There is certainly a place and time where it applies. There are also times where I have seen women use it anytime they don't agree with or like what a man says. There should be no point where it is used simply because we disagree. Disagreeing should be fine and healthy. Dialogue should be okay.
I do understand that sometimes we misunderstand meaning in text. It's nearly impossible to always know someone's tone (in the absence of a voice) when the message is in written form. But Robert is correct. I commented with complete respect for you and your viewpoint. I was engaging by sharing my viewpoint and seeking to open up dialogie with you. Manspalining is not an endeering thing to be called. In fact, it's offensive.
And, I will explain why, for me, it's offensive. I have the utmost respect for women. I value their opinions. I value their rights, and believe they should be treated as equal partners in every way. There are numerous things where I openly share that I think women are better at then men. Women mature faster, and often further, then men. Women tend to be more emotionally intelligent. Women tend to be more caring. I'm sure there is more, and like many things these are never hard and fast opinions, as I also believe there are always exceptions. The point here is when I so strongly believe in women, and one suggests I am talking down to her because she is a woman, it does bother me.
In the end, we all want to be heard and understood. In that moment, I did not.
P.S. - I won't be surprised if some of the board trolls come here and tell lies about me just to get under my skin. Trolls, and you know who you are, it won't work. I will continue to ignore you because you don't exist to me.
P.S.S. - ElleVegas, I don't think you are a troll and you do exist to me. For you, my hope is we can realize there was a misunderstanding and move past this.
You have managed to offend the two most prominent board simps here. They both take themselves WAY too seriously. They are both closet misogynists. That's why they project and call everyone else misogynists. If you give BBBJ's and swallow semen, then you have more in common with the second one. He's the one in tune with female emotions as he explains in detail in this post. Lol
It is often extremely overused and overplayed.
Like 420 said, it is used to shut down conversations when the speaker is male... and in an ironic twist it's kind of used in a sexist way against a male speaker in a conversation. When there's disagreement.
In context of the thread, I wouldn't say you (ie, the OP) used it in an incindiary way. No, you used it in a very banal, cliche way that is outlined above. Because every customer has their own definition of what a unicorn is. The term is for the customer to decide, not the seller.
Mansplaining assumes the man is condescending because it's a woman and because it's a woman, she must has little knowledge of the topic. So, it's a very sexist construct where man treats a woman like an idioy because he thinks she is stupid or lacking knowledge. Because she is a woman.
In this case it's nothing of the sort. It's really a seller/buyer question and is of the same magnitude as a question of a house buyer of what makes a good house to them.
Unlike houses, the seller doesn't buy sex and doesn't have a dick... so yes the seller has no knowledge as to what makes someone a unicorn in their mind. No matter how good you are with the customers you won't be able to tell anyone what their definition of a unicorn is. Because it's buyer specific. There's no a catch it all definition.
Anyway, "incindiary" is Robert being a bit dramatic. It's just stupid and low brow to use that card. Just like the cards of misogyny, etc, it's so much easier to use a card like that and dismiss all validity of a persons claim by saying "you just hate me because Im (fill in the blank your gender, race, etc)". Same here with mansplaining. We aren't telling you how to do math or how far your tampon needs to go in (both would/could be sexist) We are telling you what our definition of a unicorn is, according to our values ideals and preferences.
Respecting a clients preferences and tastes is like the most important thing in a seller client relationship. Maybe secomd most important behind honesty.
Now... since we're doing dictionary definitions, can we do "self-promotional posts" next?
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If you’re going to call someone stupid or lowbrow, you should probably learn how to spell the word you're trying to use as a weapon against them. That kind of irony is hall of fame worthy even for you. lol.
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Now, as for the term “incendiary,” ....yes I used it deliberately, and I stand by it. Bigoted language is by definition incendiary as it is inflammatory, provocative, and intended to stir up hostility or resentment. That’s not just an opinion... that’s its literal meaning.
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As for “mansplaining,” of course the word isn’t inherently incendiary as it’s context dependent, like most charged language. But in this case, she used it in a way that didn’t even match the definition SHE PROVIDED. There was no condescension, no sexism, no belittling, etc i.e. NONE of the criteria that would make the term appropriate so that is what made it sexist.
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If a man had actually been dismissive, sexist, or talked down to her, I would have had her back in a second and I would have called him out on it directly and harshly. And anyone being honest about me knows that, as I do that routinely here.
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Let’s just be honest about what happened here...Elle got bizarrely triggered over an entirely innocuous post from Hehits, and instead of responding to his actual points, she took a cheap shot at his gender. In her view, he was wrong because he’s a man...nothing more, nothing less. That is gender bias, and I’ll call out that kind of bigotry just as I call out the misogynistic nonsense that floats around here almost every day.
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As for this topic ....it’s been beaten so thoroughly that if the horse had nine lives like a cat, it would be on its tenth death by now. lol. Seriously, time to move on peeps. I just did.
Thanks for the correction. I didn't call anyone stupid or lowbrow. I don't really do personal attacks.
I called what they did as stupid and lowbrow.
Im also not using that word as a weapon here. But yes I did misspell it. Unlike some other people I don't use chat gpt to dress up my writing and sometimes mistakes fall through the cracks. It do be like that.
Also if you thought were beating a dead horse, then there's no reason to reply to my post. I expressed my opinion for the first time in this thread and I have the right to do so.
OOOOooooohhh, to be "called out, harshly" by buttsniffer bobby, lol.
Bigoted language in today's world is not incendiary, half the population under 30 are snowflakes and are routinely offended multiple times per day by innocuous conversation. A person could be considered a bigot at present time for having routinely normal beliefs such as men can't have babies, a pussy is not a front hole and a bussy is just another made up word that's been created by the side that are finally getting their asses kicked in the culture war. These things are what normal people believe and about 30% of the country are fucking sheep that have been told to point their fingers and scream "BIGOT" when they hear them.
Walking into a Biloxi Waffle House at 2 AM and reading off your top 10 reasons Jefferson Davis should be on our currency and that MLK was a closet homosexual would be incendiary.
I like how you're telling everyone else to move on after writing about dozen paragraphs on this topic. Then you continued to post in the thread after you told us all to move on. Bravo sir! A masterclass! 10/10 no notes!
I thought I was at the poultry barn at the State Fair for a moment. With all that is going on in the world, this seems like an awful lot of words in response to the post.
Yet again I'm browsing a thread and wondering wtf was the person creating it thinking?
2 weeks ago Elle got.pur attention discussing a potential sex party in Florida. Then went dark on it. Now is coming across as a stuck up pain in the ass. Depending on details I was down for flying out for the party. Not now.
If netnoy isn't showing up, just cancel everything. lol
What do you have to gain at this point? That is my real question. Do you need to be right or do you need to make connections? You aren't going to get both here.
I get some folks are very antagonistic. But you are just doubling down on it causing friction. I thought you were on here to get clients/friends/etc. If so, you are not going about it the right way.
I asked some legit questions about your party in FL. Got no response. I just assumed you were either planning or decided it wasn't worth it. Now with this thread, I'm really wondering what you are trying to gain.
It was in the original thread you created in General Discussion. But I understand, comments get missed.
My questions were:
When?
Where exactly? Ideally close to a major airport for those of us who would fly out there.
How much?
Male to Female Ratio?
Condoms provided?
Everyone tested and tests verified?
Which women will be there and the ratio obviously affects cost. Which will decide who can afford to go and who cannot.
Sent you a pm you didn't answer it or here. So I'm guess this was a waste of time
She said send her an email. Yes, you are wasting time if you are not able to follow directions. Good grief.
Wtf are you coming at me? I asked her to respond so others could also see. If she's going to advertise an event and not answer questions, I am wasting time.
Wee you really even serious about it? It’s clear that it’s a matter she wishes to discuss privately while you want to discuss it publicly. Maybe you should just agree to disagree?
Why advertise publicly? She put it out there and didn't answer questions or say contact me here.....
Yes, mildly interested. Mostly because the odds of it being something worth flying across the country for us slim. But high enough to go e a shot at it being good enough
Buddy, stop trying to act like a round head. Every whore that posts anything on this board is advertising. She clearly said to you if you are *that* interested send her an email. No one is attacking you, stop acting like a pink puddle.
Idk why you decided to jump on me here. But it's not doing you any favors.
should be aware by now that providers in general will not discuss specifics with potential customers they have not yet seen, and even when they know them, they will only discuss details with you by private communication. Her request for a private discussion was reasonable. but your request for her to share the information publicly on a fuck board was not. Even a group event where some people are paying is still illegal in most places and not something most providers want to share details of until you become a trusted member of the group.
You should also be aware that not all providers who post here have TER PM capability unless they have signed on for it. She specified contact by email through her website, but you said you PM'd her, but it's possible she doesn't have TER PM. It's also possible that she felt you weren't a serious enough prospective customer for her to spend the time schooling you on what you don't know. Just a few observations and deductions from reading this exchange.
Now that's a reasonable response. Not an attack like WM.
You've been attacking and piling on Elle Vegas for like a week now in multiple threads. However a very gentle clap back has you crying about being "attacked." Wipe away your crocodile tears, put on your big boy pants and give it a rest. If you play in the pig pen you're gonna get dirty. Don't dish it out if you can't take it.
Not really. I said. Hey I asked questions and you never responded so that is sus.
I also said that if Robert is mad at you it's a bad sign. So withdrawing from this may be the best option.
I didn't attack her on here. Everything I said was meant amto diffuse this a bit. Wasn't till WM decided to chime in that I got annoyed. CDL of all people was tame in his reply.
In your first message in this thread you referred to her as a "stuck up pain in the ass." I'll quote it for you below. Oh sure buddy, that's you trying to defuse the situation. You started in with her out of nowhere. Stop acting like a victim.
Yet again I'm browsing a thread and wondering wtf was the person creating it thinking?
2 weeks ago Elle got.pur attention discussing a potential sex party in Florida. Then went dark on it. Now is coming across as a stuck up pain in the ass. Depending on details I was down for flying out for the party. Not now.
Stop being a snowflake. This is what Scarlett said to you initially
She said send her an email. Yes, you are wasting time if you are not able to follow directions. Good grief.
Then because you double downed on your inability to read instructions (send a private email), then she says
Buddy, stop trying to act like a round head. Every whore that posts anything on this board is advertising. She clearly said to you if you are *that* interested send her an email. No one is attacking you, stop acting like a pink puddle.
Or you can tell us what your real problem is, which is that women are telling you what to do and calling you out, and of course you can't stand a woman making the rules and smarter than you.
Not sure why you feel like jumping on a bandwagon here. Really showing that you're a real winner in life there buddy.
Anyway, her and I did speak in pm and I explained why I thought it was strange she dropped off a conversation she started. She explained that she would prefer to discuss the rest over email.
She's in my city and I had considered seeing her. Now definately not.
So the story and lies continue.
Cause I’ve been in your town for quite some time and I don’t believe that I am the criteria that you search for and vice versa. Not all communications and interactions lead to a relation through TER. I’m not for everyone that’s for sure and I’m elated about that. I wouldn’t want to waste time with judgmental peeps when I’ve got so many great ones that do wish to spend time with me. My reviews don’t lie.
I hope you can find peace in “the let them theory”
Not everything is for you, about you and people will talk….
Let them….
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Elle
I would clear your screening easily. I have never had an issue screening. And I have never had any ladies complain about my treatment of them during a session. My list of who I am interested in seeing is long, so not sure if/when I would have gotten to you anyway. I was not always in LA, so for good reason you were not on my radar years ago. And TBH, I did not see your ads or recent reviews until the past year. And, I'm what you call an about once a month guy. I'm seeing maybe 12 ladies a year. So it's not like I'm running through all of the good options in LA quickly.
Assuming by you is what got us here. And, here you are making more assumptions. I even tried in the original thread and again here of sharing that I would like to move on and that calling it a misunderstanding is okay. But you are obviously convinced that you fully understood me and that you are right. But hey, you do you. I'm fine moving on. Maybe try it too and how about not starting a thrid thread related to your effort to justify your behavior.
You and I were on to her from the start with her male hatred. Dopes like 420 still Simping for her is laughable. I am sure him and his ilk are happy for siding with her now that she is on full meltdown man hating mode. Oh well...we cant say we didnt warn them.
Even by the lower standards we reserve for you. She mocked you soundly, and all you have in return is a half-assed attack. Next time, you should ask for your balls back from whoever has them before you post a comeback. Just sayin.'
Elle,
When Robert is not on your side that is a bad sign. He generally is the one trying to get everyone to chill out. I really recommend you take a step back. Really a good idea to quit while you are behind. Or, as you posted in response to me wondering why my questions about the sex party were not answered, a casual apology. It will go over a long way with the folks on here. No need to provoke folks.
Here's Robert complaining that someone else is out-simping him. Not surprised that Bobby is in full melt-down mode and turns to fellow simp, Heshits, for a reach-around. Lol
Am guessing you are getting more advertising here from about three or four posters whose main interest is soliciting responses and creating controversy then saying anything intelligent.
Be yourself and proper.
Or the could reply in anger and continue to bump your thread to the top of the page!
...the term is legit depending on context. For example, the perfect example of "mansplaining" was Todd Akin many years back who presumed to know more about rape and how a woman deals with it than an actual woman!
Another term is "whitesplaining," when an upper-middle class or higher white person presumes to know the plight of communities that are not of their demographic better than the people that live there and live it everyday, and usually offer advice like "oh quite whining and just do this!"
Now some posters here rationally to issue with her use of mansplaining. Hehitshewins, for example, respectfully noted the difference of opinion:
… For you, my hope is we can realize there was a misunderstanding and move past this.
There is a true story about a guy meeting a woman at a cocktail party. In a failed attempt to show intellectual prowess, our hero started mansplaining a new book to her.
Out of the corner of his eye he noticed someone making hand signals. When this person finally interrupted Mr. Knowledge's monologue they told him "The woman you are talking with is the author!"
The mansplainer's face, reportedly, was ashen.