Well, their loss is our gain. Screw 'em if they can't take a joke(no pun intended....well, ok, maybe alittle).

No way

Please behave in general everyone

Lass,

I hope this did not come as a shock to you.  I read your recent posts there & many in the past on TER, none of which seemed out of line to me.  Both TBD & TER have their detractors as well as supporters, & on an individual basis each perhaps for valid personal reasons whatever they might be.  But justified or not, each person is entitled to feel as they may.  It's unfortunate that so many feel the need to attach blind allegiance to one & trash the other.

And I would hope anyone reading this doesn't feel that's what I'm doing in this case, nor does this have anything to do with the Dave/Amy situation...it's a statement of my general observation & opinion.

I was apparently kicked off TBD myself long ago when I was at the time making use of both sites.  I was never given a reason...just suddenly personna no grata there.  But I  can assume there were two reasons: (1) I had posted something positive about TER..which never made their board BTW.  (2) The site apparently had a number of cliques & I had the audacity to retailate when one of their favorites attacked me..defintitely not something I take kindly to, nor will I ever regardless of who it is.  

I hadn't even been back to that site until the recent soap opera saga began, & did so only for a little enlightenment about what was being said.  Should I ever feel that I've been treated by TER the way I was by TBD, I'd be out of here so fast I couldn't be timed on a stopwatch..& that goes for anywhere I'm at, be it a site of this nature of some other setting.  There are few things I demand of others, but respect is defintely one of them...life is too short to live without it.  We all had lives before the internet, & we'll all have lives if it implodes.  

No site is perfect...not TBD & not TER.  TBD has their favorite people in certain instances & I assume the same may well be true of TER.    

I have visted TBD a couple of times.  I found it to be very cliquish and negative.  I prefer TER which has a more postive atmosphere.  Although not perfect I think they have good intentions.

I don't like the idea of moderating or banning board members because of their unpopular views.  Then again, I am not an operator or moderator of a discussion board.

Just in life, there are good and bad in most human affairs.  Unfortunately, it is extremely hard for one to take criticisms.  Even though I take pride in my more low key approach to attacks come my way, I still couldn't resist to respond constantly in most cases.

Drama can be fascinating and addictive to watch from the sideline.  However, there are more wonderful things in life to spend one's time with.

Since you have already eased out of this hobby, no sure it is worth your while to get all muddled up.

If only I could control my emotions at times and follow the advice surfaced in my mind.  Nonetheless, I have made peace with myself years ago about how I am.  Hopefully, others won't suffer too much from my nosiness and occasional rumbling.

Take care.

How things have gotten. I remember the good old days when Staff or the Message Board moderators did exaclty that...moderated. As long as the debates didn't get out of hand and the posters refrained from racial slurs or became degrading or offensive, you could voice your opinion and even show your distaste on how things were being run without the risk of being censored or banned ( GND was always there with a helpful word or to explain why something was done a certain way).

We providers are often accused of being thin skinned and need to realize that certain things, however distasteful, simply come with the business we are in. I think this holds true for anyone, including review message board owners/moderators who decide to become enterprising in this industry, whatever the aspect.

Like any club that pays dues ie. membership costs, if you are trying to attract a certain type of member ( click?), perhaps there should be a certain criteria to screen whom you allow access. This will ensure that the views the owner values are the same views that his/her patrons will hold. I am not sure how this would happen, but it will be a lot easier in the maintenance of the board ( ie. censoring or keeping a vigilant eye on those posters who may not post favorably to the board's criteria).

I am not saying this is the right way to run a message board, but by the looks of things with both TER and TBD, this is how things are already. Why do it half assed?

Hopefully things will start working themselves out.

Kym xoxox

The interesting thing, Lass, it that we posted EVERY post on "THE" thread below.   Even the negative ones I believe brought value.  

No post was deleted.
No Users Banned.

Interesting, no?

-- Staff

Take a bunch of women whose temperament for the most part would be best suited to working outdoors, give them a website, and voila! they become a high class courtesan. No muss, no fuss, who needs class and breeding? Just add greenbacks and stir.

I will try to say this with a straight face, but I simply cannot walk into the pimpathon aka TBD without feeling a little dirty afterwards. I just feel like I'm at Gage and Figueroa all over again.