... when you're in pain, do you like to be touched? To receive pleasure? Or is it more difficult to relate to pleasure then? Or do you like swift, sure sex, but not intimacy - cuz intimacy is too close to the spot?  Faye Desiree

but seriously though, I prefer pleasure to ease my pain when I'm hurting.  Or just to forget whatever that is so painful even if for an hour.  Intimacy would require opening ourselves up and sometimes we feel insecure in opening up to total strangers.  just my 2 cents....

For me if I am hurt sex is very hard. I prefer light touching and intimacy. Actually it's easier to open up with a provider if she is someone that I have already seen before. I remember this nice provider, I saw her the first two times and we had two great sessions. The third time I was hurt and in a bad mood, so we talked for two hours with just some mutual touching and no release. At the end of the two hours she said:"this was an expensive talk", and se told me she felt I should pay her less. But I insisted to pay the regular donation, it wasn't her fault that I felt down and not in the mood. She also called me the next day asking if I was feeling better, a real jewel.

The healing power of soft intimate touch is mind boggling. When I'm lonely, emotionally thrashed or in physical pain, a little touch goes a long way.

I like to have wild angry sex when I am hurting. That and bottle after bottle of cheap wiskey. These are the things that comfort me.

eom

this is another way in which we're totally different from women. When we get a headache- sex is the best cure! Physical pain or emotional pain- WE'RE READY!

eom

i usually hurt when i feel beaten down by life so i do either two things.
1) fight back (what ever is beating me down)

but at a certain point you just want to surrender so i...
2) surrender to a nice woman, who will take over and comfort me