Don't ask me where these questions are coming from but just go with me on this... lol

What do you find sexy in a person?  Is it the way they carry themselves? The way the make love? The way they kiss and leave you breathless? Does the way he/she dances against you in a club make you want to tear their clothes off right there on the dance floor?  Is it the way he licks his lips before he kisses you and you can see that lustful look in his eye? Maybe it's his sexy lips or his thick muscular legs... What about when he/she puts their hand in the small of your neck to grab you and place that first anticipated, ever so passionate kiss you have wanted since you saw them?

Maybe it's the first time you are introduced to the fine and sexy way of drinking a good Scotch. Being the delicate flower that I am I was told to put a little sprite in it at first... Listening to a true Southern man speak and they way that they truly worship  a woman... How about when you get lost in thier conversation and you get dizzy from the way they speak and what they are saying. There ain't much more sexy than that...


For me, it's so much more and all of these combined... Sex appeal comes in all kinds of different ways but I tell you, sexual anticipation makes me wet writing this... poor fella tomorrow doesn't know what he is in for! lol

As always, think naughty thoughts,

B




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Hmm!  What do I find sexy?  This opens up a lot of doors.

First, it depends on the man. Generally, I find quiet men, yet with good personalities, a turn-on. However, he must be able to naturally carry on a conversation and be diverse.

I get caught up in the moment when he gives me a slight smile after I've said something I deem to be intelligent, and it seems like he's the only one in the room that fully appreciates what I've just said. I adore well-articulated men but those who are humble about it. I like it when my dream lover becomes reality -- in the flesh -- and reaches for my face, gently, with both hands, and pulls me tenderly toward his lips, pulls away a little to gaze deeply into my eyes again, then kisses me slowly and softly, then more passionate as the kiss lingers. Passion is using all the senses: hearing his sexy voice, looking at his face and seeing mine mirrored back at me, touching his entire body so softly that it makes him get goose bumps all over, and smelling his wonderful cologne that mixes with his unusual and natural scent -- so animalistic but so tranquil and beautiful.
After a full-body massage, I love taking my tongue and slowly and softly licking the entire body in small swirls, starting from the lower back and up near his arm pits. Then, when he thinks I've given up, I'll lick down his arms and slightly blow on them as I do this. By the time I'm done, I've licked his entire backside. Need I say more about the front side?  I'll even graze his cheeks with mine as if I were cuddling a Teddy bear and let my soft hair massage his body -- in particular, his massive protrusion growing from my caressing.

I could go on, but I'm getting too horny just thinking about it. I've never been with a woman before, but I bet if she were hot and she liked me, I'd probably treat her great.

Hugs & kisses,
Ciara

....well, when I am in a night club(as a civilianess): the way he moves on a dance floor! Rythm is a must for me lol Also, he must have a nice round butt (butt fetish here), so I can run my hands up and down on it, all night. Then comes his face: full lips, beautiful eyes (puppy dog eyes are a major turn on to me), and I love a guy with a long nose to a slighlty oversized nose (reminds me of my ex boyfriend's french nose..meow), and short, neatly kept, black hair...meowza Now, this doesn't mean that I am not attracted to other types of men, but listed above, is what really gets me going..

Mel

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Yes, yes, and yes to everything you brought up. At one time or another i've found everyone of those things sexy in a woman. And the great thing is it varies from lady to lady, time to time, and mood to mood.

Sometimes it's something as simple as a smile, or perhaps the way she wears her hair. Or maybe it's her voice or her neck, maybe the way a certain pair of earrings looks on her. Other times it's the way she talks during a conversation or the way she may sip a drink sitting at a bar. But it's almost always something small and it seems like it's almost always something different from lady to lady.

The funny thing that i notice as get older though is that what i find sexy in a lady is less and less about the total physical appearance(wow, she's got a great body, i'd sure like to f*#k her). It's become much more...........hummmm....i don't know the right word......focused maybe? Anyway, it seems that the general way a woman looks has taken a back seat to these small details (for lack of a better word) that i find in a lady that really rings my bells.

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I agree on all points but want to expound here..
I absolutely have a thing with noses. Those centered, long, appendages, well..

I can remember a night out, at a bar, drinking martini's to no end. My girlfriend knew the bartender so it didn't take long before we were getting really 'friendly'!!! As my friendliness became more apparent I asked for a little more show of affacetion to dazzle my senses. Right there at the bar she reached under her skirt to give me a taste of honey. The painful look that followed, was because I needed more.

Again she reached up her skirt again, rolled her fingers off her hips, and seductively danced her thongs to her knees. With the marinade of several martini's, she placed the thongs on the bar for me to inhale!!! It was heaven.

It's very hard to write and put in words what I find truely sexy... I know it when I see it. But here's a very feeble attempt. Again, this is strictly my taste... I'm not generalizing for anyone else.

First, the basic assumptions: fit/athletic build, medium to long hair, 5'2" to 5'10", around my age (mid 20's to early 40's), cute face (the girl next door look).

Physical and/or lust at first site category: (1) Adorably cute face, (2) her mid-section (I luv a flat belly + belly piercing), (3) a tight butt (those low-rider jeans that show off her slim hips and butt drive me crazy), (4) her eyes and her smile (she looks into your soul and smiles at you), (5) natural looking breasts (I'm not big into huge/fake boobs), (6) The way she moves (gracefull, confident and sexy, but not a show-off or a tease).

Intangibles... okay she's made it past the initial attraction, what drives me wild after we meet: (1) The way she looks and smiles at me (I can read what she's thinking by her eyes), (2) The way she kisses (impossible to describe, but a sexy and passionate kiss will arouse the animal in me), (3) Her intelligence (will come across in her conversation and the way she picks her words). A well spoken lady is extremely sexy to me, (4) Her voice (the inflections at the right moment), (5) If her sexual desires are a good match with mine (that is, she's very open, adventurous, bi).

What doesn't turn me on? Girls that look butch, super strong accents, drugs, drunks, boobs that are way out of proportion, overweight or too skinny, inarticulate speaking, leathery skin, obnoxious or stuck-up personalities.

Good question, besides the things you mention it really goes into what I've said all along; everyone is sexy in some way or another. You just gotta find it is all. More often than not though people get hung up on the way someone looks and never takes the time to delve a little deeper into their psychi to see what's inside. Hence my decade plus of virtual solitude and relationship deprivation, I feel mostly in part on account of my obesity.

With that being said, what is sexy to me ... pretty much anything with two tits, a hole and a heartbeat. And not necessarilly in that order

Jimbo

Tall, short, thin, round, black, white, yellow, brown, blonde, brunette, redhead, busty, flat-chested, ravishing, plain, well-dressed, undressed - all can be simply irresistible.  

What does she have to say, how does her mind work, can we make a connection, does she have some PERSONALITY?  

That's what's sexy to me.

Confidence manifests itself a lot of different ways, but the one that I find most sexy is a quiet, relaxed confidence, complete with various levels of non-verbal communication.

Ciara, you should give up this life and start writing romance novels. You did a job on me just writing about what you find sexy in a man !!

lol I cannot wait to meet you, Sedona!!!!

You are such a breath of fresh air on this board I value your opinions.

Mel

For ME .....

I find nothing sexier than coming home to find her standing there naked, in heels, with a bottle of booze in one hand and a winning lottery ticket in the other!

you come home and the SO says, "I have to go out for the day. I put some beer in the fridge and made some things to eat. Why don't you have some of the guys over to watch football and, let me give you a bbjtc before I leave".

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Thanks, Oxygen.

Wow! How did you guess? Actually, I am a freelance writer and graphic artists during the day.

Hugs,
Ciara

LOL

That was great, Megapig! Although my description was more intimate, let's just break it down like you did. Nothing is sexier than sheer nakedness in heels, with a great bottle of (well, whatever you like to drink) and a ticket to heaven, baby! No more worries, no cares, can do anything because you have enough money to do it: be it helping family, traveling (my personal favorite), splurging on a housecleaner and a massage every day (another personal favorite that I cannot indulge in right now). You hit the hammer on the head, baby! After those incredible things, it's pretty hard not to be happy and find your mate sexy.

Hugs,
Ciara

What's between the ears is most important.  She could look look like Britney Spears or Pamela Anderson and not do it for me if she is a ditz (OK, she can ACT like a ditz after we have a good conversation and that fantasy might work....) but I need someone to connect with intellectually first.

That will get the ball rolling for me.  Having legs like a showgirl or the face of an angel will ACCELERATE things further.....

Things I find sexy:

1. A warm smile.
2. flaming passion in her eyes.
3. the feeling of shivers from that first touch.
4. that soft spot just inside her hip bone.
5. Two kinds of kisses:
     a. soft, first kisses with eyes locked.
     b. Hard, when the feeling is like electricity
6. The sight of a thong framed behind, while getting a bj
7. a soft whisper in my ear telling me that she wants me.
8. DATY until she passes out from exhaustion.
9. The intoxicating smell of womankind
10. My name shouted over and over at the top of her lungs

WOW I could keep going, but ....