How much of a tip should be given if the regular fee is $450??



How much is considered a fair enough amount - 20, 25, 30 or 50?? Are these numbers too low?? Would a provider look down at a client if they gave them one of the amounts above?

$450 puts her in a class where she shouldn't even accept tips, to undignified. Just kiddin'

Unless she works for an agency, tipping should not be considered obligatory. The fee should cover everything and any decent provider should not "look down" on any guy who doesn't tip (especially in that price category). Tipping should be based on performance and whether you feel it is warranted.

If you are a tipper, the best rule of thumb is good service=20%. This pretty much works for whomever you are tipping...waiter, hairstylist, the guy detailing your car...

If the girl is charging 450, then giving her anything less then a fifty will seem tacky. I know I sound like a greedy$$brat, but I am just being honest!

If you only had an extra 20-30 dollars, then a much better idea would be to stop at the grocery store on your way there and pick up a bouquet of flowers, some white wine and/or some fruit juice, and a snack (the fruit that is already cut up is good, or some cheese & crackers). This will leave a much better and longer lasting impression then throwing down a $20, but could be done for the same price

I state on my site that tipping is not necessary and does not get one any extras.  However any tip that is left at the end is always appreciated, even if it's just 10 bucks or a bouquet of flowers as an extra  To me it's a gesture to say an extra thank you, you are appreciated~

Its so rare that I have been tipped that I can count it on one hand. I always think its cool when I do get tipped but I have by now given up on the hopes of that happening on a regular basis. LOL. My donation is higher than some, so I am just happy to get paid. One client gave me 2 shiny gold dollar coins with the Indian lady on the front, I loved that. Personally I hoard 2 dollar bills at the bank, and like to give these when I tip people.

I tip for food 15%, and my tattoo work 20%. I drag my own bagas to my room and don't valet. I just have to think of paying Sallie Mae back and it motivates me to do my own schlepping  

Do you tip your lawyer or accountant?  You are buying a service from a businessman.  Same deal here.

You tip people who are working for other people to motivate them to treat you well since their employeer is paying them a low wage.

The girls are charging you $450 for their services.  Their wages are ample.  They are self employed.

If you tip them you are a fool or you are trying to impress a woman who has not told you her true name.

Get real.

so pay what is asked.

At least they still make house calls...

Do I at least get a booiiinnngggg on that Doc?

Btw...I could use a few days in the Riviera.

Cheers!


BTW...don't normally post this much...took a few days off to monitor and assist on some much needed home improvements and I'm ready to to MARS...lol

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I have been given gifts more than tips and appreciate the thought and time spent in selecting something special. I do realize not everyone has the time or extra funds and would never require nor expect it either.
~CarleeofArizona

Personally, I think it is wrong for a lady to 'expect' a tip or for  a gent to think that he 'must' tip the lady.  Prices can be so high that a tip commensurate with the service or based on the fee paid would be enough to pay for another hour, etc.

In my little world, I don't view this as being 'bout the benjamins.  When I see a lady I try to bring her a thoughtful gift as a way to say "thank you for spending time with me."  It may be a gift card to one of her favorite stores, something sexy from VS, or maybe even something I crafted myself (I work with stained glass).  These "little things" are practical and allow the lady to smile and think of you when she looks at or uses the item in the future.

Then again, I'm just a lil ole country boy from NH trying to find my way in the world so what the hell do I know?!

*wink*

I love that! I want to do a calender with swim suits hand crafted by artisans. I have one being made in hemp, and another in leather. Can you do one in stained glass and chainmail? Lets talk.
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you don't work for an agency. Actually, I rarely get tipped now that I'm an independent and seldom tipped even when I worked for an agency. The fee should cover everything, but it's always nice to be thrown a little extra sometimes if the client feels comfortable with it, although I certainly don't expect it. I think it's sweet when the gentleman asks ahead of time what you'd like to drink, etc. That is a nice gesture in itself and very appreciated.

Left out an h-  are you going cockney before me bleedin eyes?

I don't tip. Why?  because they are making on average 6 times what I make or more.  Sorry at those prices I think expecting a tip is over the top. Because I can barely afford the regular rates. It has nothng to do with being cheap. You don't tip a Dr, you don't tip a lawyer.  At those prices top level service is expected, as long as you treat them respectfully.

only 15% for food service?  Cringe.

There are times when tipping is appropriate especially if someone has gone out of their way for you.  (Driven a long way, brought special surprises, organized something special for you) You know intuitevely when those times are. We aren't insensitive to how much you pay us for our time and know that it is generally a lot of money.  Having said that, an extra $20. still means a lot to me and I would be thrilled with receiving it.  That's a tank of gas.

Had to reply to netmichelle as my atf has a bag full of the "gold coins with the indian on it" (Sacajewea).

I almost always tip any kind of service provider, waitress, maid, guy who washes my car, escort, etc.  Two reasons:

1) As a token of my esteem for the effort they put into meeting or exceeding my expectations.  (note: no tip for underachievers. The more effort and exceptional the service the more tip.

2) As an investment in the future if I'm planning on coming back.

When netMichelle says she can count on one hand the number of tips she's received. I believe her, in fact I bet she can remember exactly how many times and by whom. I used to be a professional chef (a good one too - but it a hhaarrdd way to make a living)and notes of appreciation sent to the kitchen were rare enough much less anything else.  It has been over 10 years since I did that and I can still remember every tip that was sent back to me and my staff and who by.  I can guarantee you one thing, while we always busted our butts for our customers, when that person came in for their next meal we found a way to kick it up a notch. Not that we slacked off for other people, but they got things like, the best cut of meat in the cooler, bigger portions, preparations we didn't normally offer to other customers, complimentary dessert courses.

Oh Yeah!  One more reason.  Maybe the most important one.  Generosity is fun, all the more so because of its apparent rarity

As to how much for $450 ...Silly Me would probably do 50 but might even kick it up to an extra 100 (that would be 22%) if I got something significant (like lots of extra time or a service normally considered off limits) just to make sure she knew I noticed and to make sure I got the same next time.

$450 is high but its also for 90mins. Also provider is driving some distance to an area she's never been to before and also wearing something I requested....SO like Silly_Me, I am considering the same amount to tip her. Generally, if it had been incall, I wouldn't tip her.

LilyJune, you made a great point! Thanks!

Tipping your waitress, hairstylist or car detailer is different. They are not usually getting $450 an hour for their service, more likely closer to minimum wage. I don't tip my lawyer 20% (not even a buck) and I think any provider that sets this kind of expectation is being greedy. I do agree with your suggestion of flowers or wine. I often bring a gift or some token of appreciation but I never apply the 20% "rule" to this kind of service. It is already at a level that shouldn't have a tipping expectation.

Well I feel if she is an INDY, no tipping required really

If she works for an AGENCY, YES TIP AWAY

MOST agencies take 50%-70% of the fee, leaving not much for the provider

BUT then again
INDYS like tips too, perhaps flowers, extended visits

PEACE

DiscreetJade

I just like to Tip the, TIP of my DICK!

I agree...yoiks.  Sorry, Michelle...don't mean to gang up, but 20% is a more appropriate tip for an average food service person, since they rely heavily on tips for their income.  

Most restaurants add a 15% gratuity for large parties, but when you think about it....they're working just that much harder when there's more of you to serve...so I'd still kick in another 5% if the service was merely average.

For a server who does an exceptional job or has become a "regular" I'd tip 30% or more.

Yoda

I worked for tips for a while, and I know that routine all too well.  You echoed many food service employees feelings.

My tips tend to be all over the place.  If the service is bad, I will pointedly tip under 15% to get their attention.  I have tipped one cent several times.  If the service is great, and it is a low bill, I will tip as high as 100%.  I judge my tips by a number of factors and I am sure you all don't want me to go into describing them all at length :P, but it is just good to tip with perspective as to the individual situation.  
I have always tipped my providers.  It is the ultimate service they perform.

I agree, I generally won't tip an independant with money, I will bring them a nice gift. I design jewelry as a hobby, and it gives me someone to give it away to, and they seem to appreciate it. I'll also bring wine, snacks cheese, the whole works with lots of candles.

and likely will never tip.  I also never, ever try to negotiate a provider down.  I presume the provider has set a price that is fair and reasonable to her and I go with that.  I've paid donations from $$ to 12 x $ and in every case, when the provider told me the amount I either said yes or no thanks and moved on.  Between TER, the provider's pics and my instincts, I trust that the price is right when quoted and I go with that.