What's the best way to suprise a really hot provider on your first meeting ?   Any suggestions ?

Gift pages have been bashed on this site, and like anything, they can be abused,  but do exist for a reason. There is a need. Enough clients ask these questions, so some of us providers list the things that would really help you get specific instead of stabbing about and having to flounder, getting general guesses, or personal preferences from others who dont actually know that provider's specific desires.  

There have been numerous threads where the gent is asking your same question.  I dont know how to link you to them, but you can start by clicking on "find message" at the bottom of the page, and then do a search by subject.  i did a search and called it "Gifts for Providers" and came up with a thread which incidentally had a couple of posts bashing providers for having a wish list or gifts page.  Of course, like I said some of the negative references made were because of bad experiences or by men who are just bitchy about the fact that we charge $ for attention, and that we have no right to suggest anything further, but in fact should lower our prices, blah blah blah.

I will tell you why some of us have those pages on our websites.  Because of the frequency of this question.  Sometimes a man wants to bring a gift but is embarrassed to ask us, so if he goes on our website, there it is. One first time client, while booking an appt, asked me my favorite perfume (I did not have a gifts page up then, but he liked to do that for the ladies).  Another first time client asked me if I would like something from my gifts suggestion page, or try something new?  I went for the adventure, and he gave me a perfume that was probably twice the price of what I normally use...unfortunately I really didnt like it until I cut it with one of my other colognes.  Now I love it.  

Dear Unbounded, quite frankly we providers generally, (I HATE the word generally, it seems so, well, GENERIC, and that is not what you are trying to do!), are so delighted that you are even that thoughtful!!!  You sound like a gem!  If you like this provider that much though, why not plan to book her again, after you have a more specific idea, and that way if the session bombs, you are not disappointed that you have put so much thought, time and feeling into buying a gift?  In the meantime,  gift certificates, and tips are ALWAYS appreciated, and usually surefire.  Some women are allergic to flowers, of course, and many of us dont want to have to worry about the aftereffects of chocolates, although I dont see how you can go wrong with a gesture of a 4 piece box of Godiva. If she is watching her weight, or allergic to chocolate, she will still not feel burdened by having to figure out what to do with the chocolate while trying to feign appreciation of your having spent $50 on a large box.  (A four piecer runs about $12 and gets the message across!)  

I have found gifts of music to be very powerful, and usually indicative of the fact that a man wants to see me again, because he knows I will think of him when I play that music.  Smart, very smart.. Best to get music she likes and will play, though, so a gift like that is generally better on a second date, unless you do ask her up front what type music...

Giving you an example. Personally the music I dislike is bluegrass.  And I am fairly educated in music, noting similarities between bluegrass and certain chinese healing music, which I highly respect and even use.  And even appreciating the fact that bluegrass has been added to university studies shortly after 911 when our American patriotism was very high, STILL, with the added prestige of bluegrass, my personal taste will not allow me to play the  bluegrass cd that the wonderful man bought for me!

A final suggestion to make your gift giving easier.  Choose a venue.  Choose music, choose perfume.  Choose a gift certificate.  Then ask her. What kind, which, from where. But be specific. By her response you will also find out if she appreciates your thoughtfulness, and if you still want to be with her.  

(Tip:  If $$ is a consideration, then stay away from the perfume offer unless you are ready to fork out $40 - $150.)

Big Kiss to you, and Good Luck.

Do let us know, as this question DOES come up a lot.



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I think something creative and personal would put a smile on anyone's face.

Here are some suggestions:

i.  If you have a rapport with the provide, and she is visiting you -- nothing beats a good home cooked dinner.  Perhaps, you can arrange an extended session where the two of can cook ... and I will leave the dessert to your imagination.

ii.  Music:  I have an eclectic collection of over 300 CD's.  For someone special, I burn a custom CD -- a compilation of some of the best songs catering to there specific musical taste.

iii.  A bottle of wine, fine chocolates, flowers from your flower garden, etc  ...

iv.  You could get naughty -- Lingerie from Victoria Secrets...

Just some food for thought


-- Modified on 6/13/2002 12:00:06 PM

This is what I got her since she's only 24 yrs old.

1.  A Gund white teddy bear

2.  A Bloomingdale's gift card - $ 100.00

3. A Tiffany's Heart shape key chain

I always try to find enough out about a new provider that I go with a good book.  (Hardcover.  Paperbacks would be hypocritical since I can't read 'em.  They make me claustrophobic.)

It is not easy sussing out what someone would like when setting up an appointment, but when it has worked it has been really appreciated.  Books are central to my life, and if I give someone something that they would like, and that, hopefully, not previously known about, then it is not only a gift per se, it is giving something of myself.  For me it is the most personal gift there is.

"A room without books is like a body without a soul"  Amazon.com, who can hardly claim to be objective, but who are essentially correct.

what I meant in my previous post about choosing a venue.  Books is something you know and like.  So yes, you are giving a gift you identify with.

On my gifts page I list certain types of books ...  and I agree - the hardcovers last longer, furthermore because they are more permanent are likely to take up a predominant place in my room (I'll be less perceived as cheesy by visitors who dont see a bunch of dog-eared paperbacks representative my offering of a library. And though I do have them, I know that I am less likely to display dog-eared paperback books!!!)


Now socrates, tell me, Am I the only one who feels this way, or isnt it maddening when guests use books and magazine for coasters, especially when there are coasters PLAINLY IN SIGHT?!!

Am I picky or what?  For tbe love of books!

Name of next thread...the care and feeding of gifts, lol!

-- Modified on 6/14/2002 6:49:59 AM

CP,

No you're not picky. The only thing worse that using a book as a coaster is breaking the book's spine

I buy my favorite authors in HC. Those books are never loaned out. I don't fold back the corner of pages; any piece of paper will work as a book mark When I get done reading a book, it looks like it hasn't been read! How's that for picky?

thirsty

It's not dumb, it's deep.

The other issue with trade paperbacks is how easily the spine breaks.  (Hence the claustrophobia.)

I'd really rather someone be moved by a book than take the same care of it that I would.

When you connect via a book, you connect instantly on far more levels than with conversation.  (Great as conversation can be.)

Go down on her right after she opens the door.