Your point is well taken. I think that most all of the guys on these boards do treat them well and don't need to be told, but unfortunately there are a few who don't. Yes, it may be trite and a cliche, but anything that might help us keep a good one certainly doesn't hurt any of us. Perhaps I should have posted earlier when that original thread went up but I didn't think it was that big of a deal at the time. But you're right Sully, some hobbiests may need to be reminded about good manners from time to time. None of these ladies we love should ever have to feel afraid of any of us. JMHO
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Most of the guys on TER really love women and enjoy their company whether they be escorts, MP girls or the women we meet in daily life.  They make our dreary existence a little brighter and we just plain like being with them- they're the strawberry on our shortcake, so to speak.  

But as we all know, there are a few sick dogs out there that we pass everyday on the street, or in the office, and we have no idea of the hostility they harbor toward women.  They can be OK in other aspects of life and then turn into the sort of abusers we've heard about recently; capable of violence
and inflicting pain on innocent women.  

It's been suggested by some that these recent postings are "publicity stunts" for lack of a better word (I've considered the possibility myself).  But I don't think that's the case.  I also don't think it's a coincidence that the providers experience an above average rate of exposure to this small percentage of guys because these people use escorts as the primary outlet to act out their hostile and perverted feelings toward women.  It's not new either, anyone remember about Jack the Ripper?

I'm not a shrink, but I think everyone realizes that sex can be like alcohol in that it reveals the true hidden nature of a person.  We've all had friends who were otherwise decent guys, but turned into complete assholes when drinking.  Similarly, sexual intimacy can either reveal great kindness and affection toward women, or hidden rage and hostility.  Women, all women, have experienced both types of men.  Unfortunately, escorts by the nature of their work will see more of both the good and bad also, and are placed in harms way more often as a result.  It's also probably no coicidence that this guy traveled 3000 miles to see HB, to a city where he's unknown in order to perpetrate his violence.

I think the only thing the women can do to protect themselves in this regard is to be extremely vigilant, and also share information to the greatest extent possible so that it never happens a second time.  An informal Megan's Law of sorts (a Calif. law that requires sex offenders to register with the local police department of any city in which they reside).  We certainly know the cops aren't going to help unless someone gets killed. Unfortunately, these sick bastards know this too and that emboldens them further.  Cops wouldn't even take a beating seriously ("What do you expect, in your line of work " would probably be their response).  But we all know they'll spend weeks planning, and spend thousands of dollars to bust an escort in her own home.

Treating people with decency are not only reserved for the providers. If a person needs to be told, then they're already out of reach. I think how you treat other is a direct reflection of your parents.

I will confess to being the guy that started the thread that I'm sick of "treat her well". I worded my comments a little too strongly, which I regret, and recieved a fair amount of flame response which I did not respond to. I hate flaming, and quite frankly, chalked the whole thing up to having had a cocktail or two that night.Knowing that would have perhaps caused me to rethink my original post.

In any event, today I visited a very nice FBSM gal that was complaining of "asshole guys".  I aksed her what she meant and she told me that a lot of guys showed up expecting more than FBSM. I thought how odd...any TER-savvy guy would know better, if the gal is reviewed as FBSM, for God's Sake, don't expect more. It then occurred to me that not all of us are TER-savvy, so for $200, they might be very well expect more. The problem of course is that their desires and expecations for what $200 can buy cannot be discussed before the session on the phone. LE causes this problem, but it also causes the "leap-of-faith" problem that allows rip-off providers to flourish. We all know that the rip off artists can't describe their service offerings, so we take that chance, that they will be good "honest" providers and take the leap.

I just thought it ironic that there are two ends to the spectrum, all based on the same dilemna.....the provider that gets hassled because she can't describe her service offering....and the rip-off artist that does'nt describe her offering, and gets away with it, because she knows the client doesn't expect her to reveal the service offering on the phone. He takes the leap of faith and gets ripped badly.

A pity that LE causes this lack of communication between consulting adults to flourish.

In terms of my orignal comments, about the "I hate the treat her well posters"....I apologize...my guess the is the guys that post that have been ripped-off more than others, and feel like thay maybe have to protect the quality providers they see.

\Take Care,

Duit

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