and by all things being equal, I will specify - a dude has set up a 3 hr. dinner date...  would you rather be treated well and with respect (like on a "real date") or would you rather have  agenerous tip - say 50-100% of you normal fee, but not be treated as well (for instance - burger kind instead of a nicer establishment...  crude humor - at your expense, constant pushing of the envelop with respect to what you will or won't do?  any thing that makes you uncomfortable?

Obviously it is a business for us and money is a large part of the reason for what we do, but I if I didn't enjoy the gentlemen I meet, I would be doing something else.  No brainer here... the gentleman on a "real date" is my choice.  Furthermore, I would not repeat with a rude disrespectful man.

There is a huge difference. I would prefer the gentleman of course because you want to enjoy yourself as well and being with someone rude and who treats you bad is not fun and would not repeat.

Be treated well and make less money.

I guess if you had a habit to feed and you were numb anyway then bad behaviour wouldn't make a difference.

99.5 % of the time, the men are kind, respectful and sweet.

xo Lisa

i appreciate the tip, but my rates compensate me farily for my time and companionship. i offer the  best experience possibly based on what i charge for my time.

and i expect that the gentleman i'm in the company of, take a similar approach. he should be looking to get the best experience out of his time and money spent.

so keep the tip... i'd rather we both put our efforts into having an incredible time.

runs better!  and to be honest, most of the ladies I have met in this, are really very nice... quite intelligent and oh so sexy!

Even with more money, it is not worth the hassle or being disrespected.

Kindness and tenderness are intangibles and priceless.

Kisses,
Vanica

It would take quite a lot of money for me to allow someone to treat me as a second class citizen.  Certainly more than twice my regular fee.  

Kate

Respect and consideration simply can't be measured against dollars. I'll take a little decency and class any day of the week. There is no dollar amount worth selling my self respect for. It is sad that there are in fact men who think a big tip can compensate for being an a$$hole, and even more sad that these SHPOS's always manage to find the ladies who's self esteem isn't strong enough to stand up to his behavior.

yes, I did have to ask... because there are still guys out there who are rude, unclean, unkept and in general bad dudes... The answers are more for them, and to provide them with the perspective that if you treat the ladies right, for the most part - they will return in kind... nothing more, nothing less...  Belive me, I have seen guys who treat women like dogs, and then expect because they throw a lot of money around that the behavior is ok.... well, its not - not in civie life, and not in the hobby...  makin a case... that's all, makin a case.  You ladies are just that - ladies.

Get to the point, man! That's what you're asking. Kind of disrespectful in and of itself.

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this board is read by a very wide variety of folk... some come to lurk and some come to learn... and some? Well, they are here living vicariously through those of us who hobby.  My post was not to ask that question, but to make the point to my fellow hobbiests... that $ does not excuse rude behavior.  

How often do you see a post.... I saw soandso the other day and she was great! but she was busy and I could never hook up with her again... and some of these even brag about a tip or present...

Why do you suppose that happened?  You read a review... and it is clearly written to embarress the provider!  Especially one with page after page of sterling reviews.... why do YOU suppose that happens...

and I have walked into the room - with a provider in tears... and spend a few minutes... or more, drying her eyes... or explaining that I am not the last dude.  

This was posted, to give providers a chance to say it straight up- treat us with respect... no amount of tip$ can replace that respect.  period.

I hope you got the point... cause that is about as sharp as i can make it!

I am respectful and thankful for the ladies, their business, and their sharing with me & catering to me.  Being rather new (less than 1 year in this hobby) how can I try to talk crude/rude, act crude/rude, etc WITHOUT being disrespectful.

Simply say near the begining, "Respectfully, I'd like you and/or I to talk/act crude/rude"?  Can we play crude/rude?

No, still means No!

Would that be offensive or ok?

I'm not terribly comfortable saying this, especially to a stranger.  Ya, kind of a contradiction when I want to have sex with them

rather, I am talking about genuine disrespect.  I had a couple of providers do things to me... that I would not accept in real life (ok, so maybe now I would! lol) but that was ok.... they know me.

you seem to get what I mean - no, means no.  Being on time, being clean, having the proper amount of cash - and so on!  Not role playing issue, a genuine human emotion issue.

I would give him his money back (at most I would keep $50 to 100 for the time already involved) then let him finish his burger alone.