Hi all,

I'm not new to the adult industry, in fact I'm a professional and known Dominatrix in the S. California area.  I, however, am not all that familiar with this specific industry protocal.

My situation is this:  At times I have clients who'd like to have a women introduced into my sessions that is willing to... well, go the extra mile or at minimum to participate in what I'd consider a more extreme teasing and denial scenario.  I would never assume or include anything that any of the involved parties would object to (meaning, I'm not asking the professional to do anything that she wouldn't do if I wasn't involved - no tying you up, no marks, not asking someone to do what isn't natural to them etc. etc.).

When I've tried to contact women in the escort industry I've been extremely disappointed.  Photos not matching with the person walking in the door, further "investigation" provides me with the fact that the ad that stated "no agency" was BS, the girl I spoke to on the phone isn't the one standing in front of me and all these questions were asked at the time of the call.  -- You are the girl in the photo, right?  Oh, yes yes... um...  wrong!

I know a few credible women in the industry (personal friends), so I know this can't be the standard for this profession.  Where am I going wrong?  Networking?  Are professionals intimidated by a woman calling?  Are "couples" discouraged?

I understand communication over the phone isn't always an easy process, as I've said I'm in the sex industry myself.

As a service provider or someone who has experience in hiring a professional for a "couple" situation, may I have some words of wisdom?

With respect,
Brandi Ryder