Hi all.  To begin with, the vast majority of my sexual education and experience has come from paid providers.  However tonight  something just happened to me in the "real" world of dating that freaked me out a little and I need some TER expert opinions.

I've been dating this chick for the past month.  She's 28 yrs old (I'm a few years older), she's Asian (I'm white), and she's employed full time as a banking professional.  She's pretty hip, but she's only been in this country 2 yrs.  Anyway, onto my question...

Tonight I got my first BBJ from her (woo hoo!).  It was awesome.  No complaints about her technique, she was so good she took me to the finish line with her tongue alone.  But check this out...afterwards she went to the bathroom, got a warm damp washcloth and cleaned me up.  I thought it was great pampering...then it dawned on me that's the same treatment I get in MPs!  By professionals!  So now I'm wondering if she's ever worked as a professional.

Can anyone chime in and let me know if this behavior is common in the "real" world of boyfriends and girlfriends?  Or is it highly suspicious, and smacks of professional training?  

Thanks!
One neurotic dude

Well Johnny,

To me it simply means she doesn't like goo all over you or herself.  I've had girls do this as early as my late teens...certainly didn't think they were in "the biz".  Normally someone simply reaches for a towel, but I think the wet washcloth is a nice touch, don't you?

Why not just ask her..? She just sucked your cock ....!!! Would it make a difference in how you think of her..?? I was married for many years and dated alot before that and I've always done the "clean-up" thing after sex. A warm wash-cloth offered should be common courtesy. Bottom-line is, if you enjoyed being with her and it doesn't matter then forget it. If it would be an issue then ask and tell her honestly how you feel. But remember...if your ready to be a hypocrite, be prepared for her to point that fact out to you....How would you know the script other-wise..??

Don't be a hypocrite.  I am told by a friend that exclusivly dates Asian women (non-providers) that cleanliness is a common virtue amongst them.  Enjoy and count your blessings, one BBBJ at a time!

While I guess it would be to my advantage to insist that only SPs are good at anything in bed, (or think of cleaning up,) the fact is that there are many women out there who've never been in the biz who are great at sex and love it too.

My advice would be that you need more experience with the civilian population!

-Anya

I would think it has more to do with her cultural background than her job history.

I dated a Korean girl and she did the same thing. She also was a reverse cowgirl fanatic!!

Let's see:  A BBBJ followed by her getting up to get you a warm towel and then clean you up like she was your Mommy.

The only thing she didn't do was turn into a keg of beer, 2 large pizzas and 4 of your best buddies.

Dude, quit asking questions!  Just hold on to one of the best things that may ever happen to you......

Just my 2 inches.

Hobby On!

GG

You are all awesome for responding!  Thanks for putting me in my place and giving me some perspective.  Rock on.

then my wife must have worked in an MP prior to our marriage. Way back when we used to have sex, she would pamper me and would often provide a warm, wet washcloth to clean up. How I miss the good old days.

A more direct response: You are reading way to much into a simple act. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.

Brighton Beach Johnny,

I can't add much to what's already been said other than to echo a few comments.  It's definitely NOT just a professional thing, nor does it necessarily have anything to do with ethnicity.

Don't be so suspicious..even if they're bad, few things can ever equal the fears that can be created in the mind---something along the lines of "a coward dies a thousand deaths, a brave man dies but once."  Yeah, that's corny..but still seems applicable your issue & many other things.

And as someone else said...just be thankful it was a warm towel!  LOL

Don't be paranoid.  She is showing that she cares and is sensitive to your needs.  Wouldn't you do the same for her.

Enjoy!