I always hear providers say that regulars are hard to find and good ones are rare.  I am just curious.  Do you treat your regular clients any different?  How do you feel if/when you lose a good regular client to other providers?  How do you keep these good regulars from jumping ship?

Ladies please define a "regular." I've considered myself a regular in the past when I was saw someone every other month. Now I'm up to once a month. Do I have to be on the schedule once a week to achieve "regular" status?

What is a "Regular" client?

My definition of a regular is a gentleman who visits me at least once a month (but he will usually visit more often, say twice a month or more).

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Do I treat my regulars differently than other clients?

No. Every gentleman that comes through the door is treated pretty much the same. How a client is treated depends on the chemistry between two people, etc.

I find that when a gentleman becomes a regular it is because we "Clicked". There was an instant attraction and/or rapport between us. The gentleman was as much a "BFE" as I am a "GFE".

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How to become a regular.

When I first got started "in the biz" I noticed that a lot of my new clients seemed afraid to ask if they could come back. I could tell they wanted to ask me something, but they never would ask and they would leave. I finally figured out that in some cases they wanted a verbal invitation to return. I was glad to ask and they were glad to accept my invitation to come back.

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What keeps a client coming back for more?

"Reasonable Rates" and "EXCELLENT Service.

If the gentleman can actually "afford" to see a girl more than once a month and they "click", he probably will become a regular.

If the gentleman is getting "Excellent" service then he'll be back!

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The benefits of "Regulars"

I LOVED my loyal local regular clients. I knew he wasnt a cop or a psycho, and it was always great to see the familiar face of someone I liked and enjoyed being with.

When I was in Las Vegas I had a lot of "regulars", which is unusual in that town. The ladies there cater to the tourist trade and many of them (most of them) wont see "locals". I was one of the few girls in town with an Incall location who WOULD see local clients.

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When "Regulars" stop visiting

I actually had a few "regulars" who stopped visiting. I sincerely missed them.

One stopped visiting because he was really looking for a dominatrix. My personality just isnt dominant, so when he found someone who could provide what he "really" wanted I understood why he stopped coming.

Another found a provider with no limits. I HAVE LIMITS! :0)~ But this provider he found would do ANYTHING and that's what he wanted.

But when a regular stops visiting its usually NOT because he doesnt like the provider he is seeing anymore, its usually because of price or services offered somewhere else are better.

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my .02 cents
Sable

What a great topic!
I've been noticing a big shift in my clientle since 9/11.  Less traveling gent's and more locals.  I'm just thankful for the business!

I try very hard to make my regular friends happy.  For instance... if I can't see him and our schedules for the immediate future won't work, I'll try and find someone I know he'll like and hope he calls back, which he usually does :P  Besides, I can make 2 people happy and that's not so bad.  It also generates friendship amongst the ladies.  Not such a bad idea when you feel so alone out there at times.  

Do you treat your regular clients any different?  

Yes, As I get to know him better, our relationship changes.  I also like to think up new things that we can experiment with to keep things fun/exciting. (bondage, wardrobe, hot tubs, outdoor fun..

How do you feel if/when you lose a good regular client to other providers?

Every man has the right to see who he likes.  Every lady has different qualities.  Usually that friend will come back to see me either periodically or to stay.  It's kinda cute when they feel they're cheating on me. hehe

How do you keep these good regulars from jumping ship?  

Treat them like they should be treated.  Keep things exciting.  I also give free dates from time to time for the men I see quite often to show my appreciation and respect.

I thought about having a regular but I was married for a good number of years and had a regular.  One of the great things about this hobby is the variety.  I assume that someday I'll get back into the monogomous relationship mode but right now I'm going to sample as much I can afford and handle.

I love my regular clients and I often hangout with them for quite a bit longer than the time paid for espeically if they see me more than once a month. I consider them to be a regular after they have seen me three times...why? don't know but it seems thay by the third appt we have a nice comfortable camaraderie and that makes everything so much better. I remember their b-days and give them deeply discounted or free appointments. I have actually made several good friends that started out as clients and have become so familiar that I think they missed some of the excitement of meeting someone new....if I can tell that is the case I will reccomend someone as many stick to their habits espeically when they have providers to their house or have had bad experiences.

Your statement, "I consider them to be a regular after they have seen me three times" reminded me of a situation I once experienced as a "regular."

I met a young agency lady who was thoroughly reviewed. During the first visit, based on her reviews, I knew I was on the wrong side of YMMV in one important area. We hit it off and had a good time. I saw her again and again. YMMV didn't change yet she kept telling me that she wanted to see me. I saw her very last minute a couple of times and at potentially inconvenient times. At the time I wasn't a big tipper so I could never understand why she kept coming back. She was the agency's top girl so she didn't need my visits. I saw her 6 times. Somewhere in there I went from a "I'll grow on her," mentality to being just plain stubborn! In retrospect, I wish I called her on it in a gentle way.
My question...

Did you ever start with a YMMV client only to adjust the rules in his favor after he became a regular and you became more comfortable?

I like being a regular.

I like the comfort of making the call and not going through the screening. I like the comfortable atmosphere of the room as I walk into it, both of us feeling secure. I enjoy the genuine expression of a girl being happy to see me, because she knows she'll be getting her money and then sum, and we'll both be having a good time.

But eventually I need to venture out again for the excitement of meeting someone new. How long does a regular last? What’s the typical pattern?

riker

and at this point, I have two women I see.  I wouldn't see others, except for novelty.   I know this is just a commercial hobby, but every so often, you meet people in this business who are just good people...and it's always a welcome thing to me to be with good people!

I personally find a great deal of comfort and satisfaction in my regular clients.  Do I treat them differently...You bet I do and why wouldn't I.  I am a good business woman and know the value of regular steady income.  I kiss their ass and always give them way more time than I would the 1 time aquaintance.  Which is not to say I treat the 1 time client badly on the contrary I always make it a point to give every hourly  client a curtasy extra half  hour so they can be relaxed and not feel rushed or cheated in any way.  I believe in value for the dollar I would expect nothing less if I were making the purchase so why should I expect anyone else to get less than their dollars worth.  

The  best thing about regulars is the comfort level allows for more sexual experimentation.  Pushing the kink buttons if you will.  Also their friendship is an important aspect as well. I often go to dinner or lunch on a purley social basis.  I truly enjoy their company.

The regulars are special of course, but I treat the new as well as the old. I encourage my regular to see other and I give references if they asked for it. They appreciate it and they always come back. But there are some clients require different experiences and that reason alone should be respected.  The way I see it is that somebody had them before me and someone will get them after me. I learned the simple principles of mastering this business and it is having a great personality.
“Make yourself indispensable and you’ll be moved up. Act as if you’re indispensable and you’ll be moved out.”



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I echo most of the sentiments on this thread.  It's mutually benefitial to have regulars.

Unfortunately, at times this relationship becomes rather difficult to maintain...

i.   The provider limits herself to a specific window of time and then retires, or moves out of town

ii.  Provider gets involved in a serious relationship.  Congratulations are in order.  However, this affects sessions with clients if she still is in business

iii. Provider ups the fee due to popularity

iv.  Hobbyist likes new adventures and decides to explore

if you treated your regulars a little bit special, they would still be regulars and you wouldn't be missing them so much. Not saying go overboard or relax your rules, but a guy who sees you for an hour every week, maybe once a month saying let's take 2 hours today, the second one is on me. Or a phone call after an appointment to say thanks, appreciate you, you make me feel special. Or a bottle of champagne ocassionally "just for you honey to let you know I appreciate you". But then again, in my profession, I have more business than I can handle, and you wouldn't want that.

over 2 years now. Still able to see a few other semi-regulars and toss in a newbie now and then. Saw my previous regular for 3 years until she got married. It never ceases to amaze me what bad business women MOST providers are. Some who could have been a semi-reg (or maybe even a reg) showed me a great time, but never showed appreciation for be being there for the 5th or 6th time. I may as well have been a first timer. One lady would do things with me that others reported she would NEVER do, but she would DFK others and not me. Said she didn't treat everyone the same, would never give all of herself to anyone, and always held "something" back to "make the guy keep wanting to come back". Even though we REALLY clicked and I had a great time with her, I tired of this silly game and stopped seeing her. When she started to struggle a couple of years ago (market downturn), she called, invited me back, and said all, including DFK, was now on the menu. I jumped at the chance.....NOT. The silly game had run its course......her loss, not mine. Too many other great ladies like Mongoose to replace a game player.