I wanted to know in terms of your married clientele, if they share with you some of the reasons they have become hobbyists...for instance, I am just now becoming a hobbyist for a few reasons:

1. Because my wife of several years simply can't and won't complete a blowjob anymore..she has TMJ and its too hard for her to do...so she says

2. I haven't done anal in almost 15 years and want to again

3. I t would be nice to have sex with someone other than the same person Ive been having sex with for a number of years.

Do your clients share these things with you, is it typical, and do you as providers like to talk about these things or not

At this time, 100% of my clients are married. They have all given me the impression that they are in (my) Category # 2, or #3:

2) Very happy in their marriage, but the sex life isn't of the caliber that they would currently like

3) Very happily married; sex life is great, but want the variety - the 'buffet'

But, those are merely 'impressions' and not actual conversations regarding their wives. They don't usually say, and I don't ask. They DO, however, ask ME about MY relationship!
Today was the first time I had correspondence with a 'potential' client and he wrote some specifics (category # 2).

Hmm..you've just inspired two new thread topics..maybe tomorrow..

xo,
Sedona

My clients are usually 100% happily married men who's wives are pre-occupied tending to the children and too tired to complete any sexual encounters that their husband may need.  I have only had maybe 1 or 2 clients really say negative things about their wife, but for the most part they really love their wives and want to give them a break, and therefore do not bother them for sex.  Some men just like the variety of women, but their heart belongs to only one.  To each client is their own reason, but I do know they do love their families, and only want some relief out of the situation.

Yes, we talk about all kinds of things and NOT just reasons why they hobby...I encourage it. It is another relationship to build (if that is what you want.)
Sometimes, I like it when I know nothing. that way..well the role-playing fantasies are more fun...(you see one fantasy is sex with a stranger...yummy!!)

Stay safe, and have a great 4th of July.

Shaye

I will talk about whatever the client wants to talk about (for the most part.) He can tell me the truth, or make up stories if he wants.


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whisper sweet nothings in your ear instead?

This question is very interesting to me.  I've been a hobbiest for about 3 or 4 years now and have only had one provider even ask if I was married.  I indulge 2 or 3 times a month.  I've seen one provider for over a year now, at least twice a month - she's never asked and I've never offered.  We talk about a lot of things in our time together but never this subject.  She knows everything about me personally - kids, income, lifestyle, job etc.  I consider her a friend.  Don't get me wrong, I have no illusions about our relationship.  It's strictly business - me purchasing a service from her.  I get the impression she's uncomfortable talking about it so I don't go there.

Just for the record....
I've been married for 19 years.  I love my wife and kids and don't want anything to jepordize that.  I have a very strong sex drive that my wife is unable to satisfy.  I also love women - all colors, sizes and varities.  After all, it is true - variety IS the spice of life !