One of my regular providers told me yesterday that she is leaving the business temporarily maybe permanently! Apparently she is having a relationship with one of her clients who is 14 years older than her and is married! She said her clients has bought her a car, leased her a house, has given her his credit card, has paid for her university!

she is 32 and has a 5 year old son. I was wondering how long do these kind of relationships last! I mean if the guy is rich and has been using the agencies he probably will kepp using the agencies and see other girls and as soon as he finds someone better the new girl is going to probably replace my regular provider!

I could be wrong! Just wondering how long do you guys think these kind of relationships and arrangements last!

Appreciate all the replies!

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Sounds like the girl thinks she just won the lottery...What's the problem..?? Sounds like a win-win situation for everyone, but you. There are risks in everything we do in this business, as well as in everyday life. Worse case senario(sp),she gets dumped by Sugar Daddy and has to return to Providing....In that case you win. Your all adults here and nobody seems to be taking advantage of anyone.  There are other Providers, many with much less baggage, Go find one to enjoy. Hobby on....Kisses, Robyn

Why do you say I won if she returns to Providing????
to be honest with you I am happy for her that she is out of the business! She was new in this business and on some occasions I had advised her to get out of it! I am very happy for her that she is not doing it anymore! Hopefully that guy will take care of her for along time!

I am just wondering if these kinds of relationships really last long! I doubt it! I thought maybe some of the providers may have gone thru it or have had friends who have gone thru it and can add some feedback!

Funny...I get sighs when it comes to my donation ..lol. What I don't understand is this...in some ways you Guy's wonder what in the world posesses us to be in this business. Heck if your wife would be moonlighting all Hell breaks loose. But, when a Girl does find that One special Guy to take care of her...you complain . Say WhaaaaaaaT was the question Moneybags?
xoxo Nadia
MakeLoveNotWar

It definitely happens, but who is to say how long it will last.  Since you do not know the intimate details of their relationship there is no way to judge.  Some people get married, think it's for life and less than a year later they are divorced.  Some people don't get along all that well on a first date and end up happily ever after.

It sounds as if you have developed a friendship with her.  If she is your friend than I am sure you want to see her succeed in life and wish her the best.   It seems as if she is trying to improve the quality of her life and her sons' by furthering her education.

I am sure you will miss her but this is probably best for her.

Good luck to you, AlbertK
Daisey

I have heard about this in a couple of cases, and have been approached with it, but I've never actually taken up an offer.  The location was WAY too cold for me to live in!  My closest actual experience was a $15,000 check as a tip from a client during our first one-hour visit (turned into 3 hours).  I refused it, but we ended up compromising and used it to lease an apartment in my name for both of us to use (my incall location for my business, his outcall location for any business).  After the term of the lease was up, it was my time to move again, so we didn't continue after that.  

In cases where this has happened with other providers (and it does), I've seen it last anywhere from 6 to 18 months.  It does happen somewhat frequently to many ATF's that are generally low-volume, GFE types that stay well below the radar.  A period for a quick "breather" or "maybe-retirement," it's actually a pretty good deal for a longtime provider that needs a little "vacation" from a high number of clients, before returning to the business refreshed -- or for a provider that wants the extra time to concentrate on moving on in her personal life and out of the business permanently (this is how it was offered to me previously).  Most providers I know look at the arrangements as just being "exclusive" to one client for the short term, and return to full business once the time has come.  Men are fickle, and none of us look 20 forever.  ;^)

Maybe this opportunity will last long enough for her to finish her degree, and move on in her personal life.  Or, maybe it won't, but either way, she's probably making about the same amount, with more time to devote to her personal life.

If a client wants to have an exclusive arrangement with a certain ATF/provider, it really comes down to making a living.  He doesn't necessarily need to pay her to replace other clients, and generally arrangments are made according to her cost of living.  

For instance, let's say a provider's normal living expenses are $3500/month, and she sees one client 3-5 times/week, for 1-1/2 to 2 hours per session.  His hourly breakdown ends up being $80-180/hour.  If you can afford to pay someone $3500/month (like a personal assistant, marketing consultant, web designer, etc.), then you are getting a hell of a deal on sex 3 to 5 times per week for a month for as many months as you like.  Considering what most men married 20+ years are probably giving more money to wives for a hell of a lot less sex than 3-5 times/week, it makes sense to a lot of men that can afford it.  LOL Additionally, if she is able to pursue a career in her personal life outside of their dating, it can be more affordable to the client, and they both benefit from the arrangement.  

JMHO,

BJ, Palm Beach, Florida
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What does ATF stand for???
Also, do you have a web site?

I'm finding out myself after my ATF informed me a few months ago that she had retired after reaching her goal of buying a condo and I was now the only man in her life.  I didn't ask her to do this.  But since I was used to spending money on her - why quit?  

So as two slightly mature adults, we sat down and worked out the arrangement that would make both of us happy.  Monitarily and emotionally.  We live 3000 miles apart and realistically can only see each other every 30-45 days for great 3 day weekends.  As a very independent woman - a 26 year old teacher - this kind of relationship is perfect for her - and with a bit of self evaluation - perfect for me as well.  Some would say that as I long as I'm paying her - she's still a provider.  And that I'm a now her sugar daddy and I'd say - you're probably right.  But every relationship is a give and take and I don't really see the difference in this one.  I get a wonderful woman, a traveling companion who truly wants to please me and she gets to enjoy some incredible vacations and get a bit of security to boot.

How long will it last?  Who the hell knows.  Just enjoy each other while you can.  It's that simple.

If it does, be aware that she may not be.

It was part of her decision, not mine. In fact I told her I could never ask her for that.  Just don't tell me everything and we'll be fine but she insists on making me believe I'm the only one - even to the point of making it a big part of Ten Commandments of Mel.  Why?  Well, maybe she's not lying when she says this makes her happy.  Otherwise, you'd have to ask her.

Thank you for your previous insights.  As you say, nobody knows how long anything will last, just enjoy it while it is there.  I am becoming romantically involved with one of the providers I see and have been frantic trying to figure out what it all means.  Now I see that I don't need to answer that, just enjoy it while it last.  Whatever happens will be fine!!!