As I sit here this afternoon drinking a martini (shaken, not stirred) a question came to mind ; is it appropriate to provide my services on Sept. 11? This will be a day of great mourning and apprehension for many. Personally, I will not be providing any services, it just seems inappropriate to enjoy myself on such a somber day. Any opinions, whether in agreement, or not? I would love to here other perspectives.

I will be providing... comfort and touch is a take it where you find it thing.

And many of us will want to get our minds in a better place.

Rebecca

You were right when you said it will be a day of great apprehension for many.  I've talked with a lot of people about it (haven't we all), and it's clear that there is a lot of fear right now in America.

I've been leading mountain climbing trips for more than 15 years, and have had a great deal of first-hand experience dealing with fearful people and successfully helping them to overcome their fears.

If you or anyone you know feels fearful about anything, the best way to deal with it is to take control of what is happening to you.  Fear comes when we feel that we are not in control of what happens to us. Realize that you are in control, that the things you do during the day are things that you choose to do.  This doesn't mean of course that a bomb set by a terrorist might not go off and kill you.  But risk is part of life, and a willingness to take risks is expecially part of a well-lived life.  

I read a good quote from a fellow climber yesterday:  "You're born, you live, then you die.  A lot of people forget the middle part".

So live!  Take control of your life, and don't give in to fears about 9/11 or anything else.

Private email me if you want to talk more about this.

Hmmmmpf.... Good question. I intend to avoid the media and might just be looking for some wonderful place to escape. Might feel some frustration if I can't find someone to escape with... my thoughts...

A lot of men will want comfort on 9/11, I imagine.    

Also, you really should stir your martini, unless you like your drinks watered down.  Shaking breaks up the ice cubes while stirring doesn't.

Remembering 9/11 and obsessing over 9/11 are two different things. Terrorism has come to America. We should be vigilant but we should not give in to the fear.

That quote is from George S. Patton, the greatest general this country has ever produced (IMHO).  It is the first thing I learned in Officer Candidate School in 1965, and helped me through 2 tours of duty in Vietnam.  It'll help me through 9/11 as well.  I'm a New Yorker.  I lost 2 friends in the North Tower and my town lost 8 fire fighters that day.  It's been a tough year for us all, so why let those camel f**king bastards win?

Do NOT use racist remarks ... it is unbecoming of an American, ESPECIALLY one who claims to have served in the Army ...  keep your dignity and grace.

A bunch of criminals did this ...  would you use the same abnoxious language towards McWee, the Aryan Churches in Idaho, or some of your ancesstord who may have participated in lynching African Americans?

I think your sentiment is admirable and whatver feels right to you, you should do.

Personally, just speaking for myself, I dont plan on doing anything special on 9-11. My feelings and, yes, you might say anger, are still there from a year ago but I don't see the point of stopping living on that day, vs, any other and I can think about the people who died on any day, and often do.

Its kind of like when someone once asked me about whether I thought of a certain close friend who had died, on what would have been their birthday. I told them that I didnt make a special point to think about them on that day because I think about them on most days anyway.

I think its good that we remember, but I dont think we need to shut down to do so. At least not me anyway, but like I said, do what feels right to you.

IMHO, water is an essential (though unlisted) ingredient in a good Martini. I could never figure out why I made such shitty martinis until I was talking to a friend who was a bartender.

I like my Martini's ice cold, so naturally I kept the Gin in the freezer. Trouble was, the gin was so cold, it really didnt melt much of the ice in the shaker, that little bit of water from the melting being what makes a good martini. Took my bottle out of the freezer and the rest is ... well, suppose it would be a bit dramatic to say the rest was history. But my martini's were now quite tasty.

Lisa,

The best way to respond to terrorists, and terrorism, is to live our lives to the fullest, and do not demonstrate fear and weakness.  It is thoughtful of you to think about this true tragedy, but, we should not permit to be parallized by this.  

Look at what has happened to the Airlines industry, and how that has affected families and the economies connected to the travel industry ...  we need to live as normally as we can, and don't let fear guides us ...  also, we should refrain from racist behaviors, isn't that what our enemies really want?

Everyone has given a pretty good idea of how they will be handling that day.


It's a fact that there are many babies born 9 months after a funeral or tragedy. When you lose someone or you are struck by a tragedy, it is very normal to want be close to someone, to share intimacy and a real life connection.

I have met many people in the last year who have felt the close personal sting of 9/11. One of my favorite gents lost almost his entire staff at the Pentagon. I knew the pilot of Flight 93, not personally but we were online buddies for a couple of years. I met a woman on my latest travels who lost her neice in Tower 2. No matter where you go...someone was effected one way or another.

I have gotten alot of requests for personal time on Wed. Some of the e-mails state that they just don't want to spend the day alone....for whatever reason. We have mourned for a year. We have altered our lives in one aspect or another, but to completely shut down is not the answer.

Work, enjoy, connect. LIVE. As I said in another post......we must cherish the gift we all share...the chance to wake up and see the light of another day. 3,000+ souls lost that chance a year ago. Let us go on and find happiness, humor and fun...for ourselves, for their memory and for the ones we love........

xoxoxox
Lass

Just as I did last year on sept 11, I saw a provider and it calmed me tremendously, I needed the stress releif. I am in the private security business and was on  shift watching it while it happened at 0545 L.A. time, We had tons of client calls, and after that day and all the sh** that went with it, I needed to relax just like I will do tomorrow.
sorry if that sounds shallow.

HAL.

I do not think that it would be unappropriate myself.  I will take the time to reflect, ponder and say my prayers in rememberance, but am of the steadfast belief that if we stop our everyday normal activities, that the terrorists have won.  In a sense, in doing my normal routines I feel that I am honoring those that died more, for although the deaths were tragic and grieves us beyond end, the simple act of doing what you normally would do sends a message that those barbaric radicals have not won and that the deaths of the innocent weren't all in vain.  

Little comfort I know, but it is those little things in life that give us the most meaning.  I think about them everyday of my life, but since have learned to appreciate so much more.  The flowers seem a little brighter,  the air crisper, for I had the luxury of waking up this morning and breathing life.  

So in doing your routines, you are doing those routines not only for yourself, but for those that lost their lives...you are continuing on for them and therefore honor them.  Keep them in mind with everything that you do.

Lauren

Lauren

I recall everything about that day & will likely never forget it, nor the days which followed for quite a while.  No, I didn't lose anyone that day, but two very close family members were in very close proximity to the Pentagon.  There were many hours that passed before I was able to find out that they were both safe, as anyone can imagine things were extremely chaotic there in the immediate aftermath, just as they were in NYC.  I naturaly breathed easier once knowing they were safe, but the time leading up to that moment was pure hell.  Those who've ever been through a similar period of not knowing are the only ones who can completely understand.

By the next day enough information had come in about the flight paths taken, etc...that I realized with the lack of skill of the hijackers, while not targeted, my people were in more jeopardy than I at first realized.  I was so shaken by this realization that there were some nights during the following week that I couldn't sleep at all..others I was lucky to get 2hrs.  And I am not by nature a person prone to either fear or panic...usually pretty calm & keep my head about me actually.  

Hobby on that day?  Personally, I doubt very much that I will..but that's just me, if others choose to do so that's fine.  But it took a while after 9-11-01 before I could really get to the frame of mind that I even thought about the hobby.

Since I live 5 mins from the Pentagon and 9-11 really hit close to home. (so to speak)I am not going to be working but will be attending the cermony at the Pentagon.

I was referring to those camel-f**king bastards that boarded 3 aircraft and purposely crashed them, killing thousands of Americans of all races, religions and ethnic groups.  Read my post to the above thread,  "Never forget....".  I think you'll see my point. I am not by any stretch a racist, and I stand by my description of those terrorist criminals as described.

Call me what you will, but I think we should commemorate 09/11 by eliminating Islamic civilization tomorrow.

whatever

Yes well as I woke up early that morning sad I decided to trot down to the world Trade Centre site and pay my respects for a number of hours.  This was my first time as I wanted to stay away for what I thought was a nice touch in my heart and visit for the first time on the anniversary.  I got a call as I was there and decided that perhaps this person would need company so I left the site and proceeded to go to my apt.  

There are many calls that let you down and waste your time ladies we know, but I guess they are the sad gents that want to give the other gents as themselves the bad name of punter that never shows let down or asshole maybe.  I waited and called the line to his cell where he couldn't hear me (conveniently) so I called back and told him its a shame he is an asshole on a day like today and shame on his ways.  And also said I may mention his name and number. x

Gents please when you are going to cancel do please let the ladies know, call with a number and give a number at work or a cell many ladies do have a life it is but respect and decency not to let a lady down and it really does sadden me when there are those few who dont support the strengthen of the decent clientele outthere.