When I'm sleeping with a girlfriend, I'm perfectly fine with my sexual stamina. I'm not claiming to be a superman or anything, but I've never really had a problem with premature ejaculation or not lasting long enough to satisfy myself or my woman (at least, not that I've ever gotten a complaint about! ). However, when I'm with a provider, I turn into a minute man. If I'm with a provider I know only allows for one pop, I can barely even let her give me head, as I know I'm just going to come way too quickly. And it's no fun not being able to get head! And when we finish the job... well, it just gets finished way, way too quickly.

Am I alone in this? Anyone else experience this? Any ideas on why I can last a perfectly fine, long, satisfying time with a lover (and ones I'm certainly attracted to), but not nearly enough time with a provider? The only theory I've come up with is that by the time I go to see a provider, I'm extraordinarily horny as I don't use providers when I'm seeing someone so I probably haven't gotten it in a while, and have been thinking about it alot. But I don't think that's quite it, as I get incredibly horny with girlfriends as well. Any thoughts?

Perhaps it's caused by adrenaline. The whole experience of seeing someone for me is always somewhat of a "rush", even if it's someone i have seen before. You get excited looking forward to the evening you know is to come and by the time you get there your body has sped things up alittle bit even though you don't always feel it, causing everything to go alittle faster then normal.

I have a similar problem and I don't think we're alone at all.  

I like the longer sessions and don't have much of a problem with providers when I do that.  My most common MO while I'm out of town is to book a dinner date.  I set up the appointment for say 6:00PM and go thru the getting acquainted period up front.  I'm all cleaned anxious and more than ready when she arrives.  And I usually don't last too long here.  Then we freshen up and go out for a bite and some public teasing (I find that fun and most ladies like the attention). Then return to finish the evening off with a more comfortable and longer lasting multi pop session.

I have a different problem. I normally go longer and sometimes can't come for a provider. Almost never come the second time.
Never had this happen with SO or girlfriends.

These several responses tell me something I've known about myself for a long time -- the more comfortable I am with a partner the longer I last, the more active I am and the more times I pop.  For me personally, that's why the GFE experience is very important and it's why I last longer with a civilian or a provider with whom I'm very comfortable. YMMV

Hmm.. I can only tell you about my own experience as an SP vs as a "civilian", and yes, as an SP, there are a lot of clients who seem to be extremely turned on from the very beginning and tend to ejaculate very quickly.  (how's that for clinical?)  As a civilian, it tends to start that way, then slow down as you both get to know one another and what you like, et cetera.  So my conclusion would be that it hinges on your (meaning the client's point of view,) familiarity with the lady.  I think it starts with fantasy, which makes you very horny and cum quickly, and turns into reality, which gives you much more control.

-Anya

We all experience similar reactions because it's a biological/natural phenomonon. Nature hard wired our bodies to explode more quickly with new females. Males are on the planet to spread sperm to as many females as possible. Nature makes unfamiliar females more exciting so we won't miss the opportunity to fullfill our natural mission--for emission.

When we can relax with someone we know and care for we reach our peak slowly and are able to control ourselves better. A close relationship is therefore often more satisfying.

Both experiences are wonderful. Nature intended it that way and I'm very happy about that...to be sure!

Cergio

I'm in total agreement- it's about feeling comfortable with the provider vs. feeling it's just a business arrangement:  I find that I come prematurely when I'm not allowed to kiss or feel close with the escort and that I can usually last the full hour if kissing is involved. In other words, it has to feel natural.
Also, a lot of it is in our heads: I try not to get too excited because that makes me feel a loss of control.  When I'm confident that I'm going to have things go my way- as opposed to experiencing fear over what might or might not happen- then I last longer and don't get too sensitive down there, leading to premature "shooting."
On a somewhat divergent subject, I kept coming too soon with people I'd met for the first time- or just couldn't get it up (I'm not a machine and am not used to meeting someone then having sex with them.  Think about it- that's not how it is in real life, where you usually check someone out over a long period of time, get used to her, go out, etc.)  In the end, I had to rely to Viagra for insurance that I could get it up and then not come too quickly.