I recently have been asked by two separate providers to give them contact info on providers who know me.  Both are reviewed favorably here and, thinking that this was something providers helped each other out with, I went ahead and gave the published contact info of the only provider I see on any regular basis.  That provider reacted badly, which is a fence I will have to try and mend, and in retrospect, I should have thought about it a little more.

Can any of you clients or providers help me out here?  Should I contact a provider before using them as a reference?  Even if only one time?  Should this even be done at all?  Could this potentially be a trap set by LE?

Sorry for the long post but I would appreciate any help you guys can give.

Thanks,
BigBuzz

Big Buzz,

I have several ways for a potential client to confirm himself to me and using another escort to contact to confirm his validity is one of them.  So, the asking for this information is certainly acceptable on the new providers part.  Now for the previous provider (now to be referred to as reference, LOL).  If you had any question about her not approving of you using her as a reference, you probably should just clear it with her prior to giving out that information.  

Everyone has their own rules they try to live by.  Neither are right nor wrong, you just have to respect them both.

Guess you will have a different outlook next time.

Wish you the best in trying to smooth things over with the reference.

Steami

I had recently been asked by a client if I would mind verifying him to someone in another state as he was going out of town and this was what the escort required in order for him to have an appointment.  I did it happily and thought it was really an excellent idea in terms of not having to wonder if the guy is LE and also save a lot of time gathering the pertinent and personnal information.  I did not use the idea until recently when a request of an appointment was made from someone who said upfront I AM NOT LE  no one ever starts off the email with first off let me say that I am not LE as many providers say I look like LE.  That made me nervous and so I choose to ask for a provider reference.  I do not usderstand why you say you did not have anyone but a regular provider to ask for this reference when I clicked on your reviews you have reviewed several girls why didn't you choose one you didn't see on a regular basis?

If I was the one who asked you for this reference I apologize for any unneccesary discomfort I may have caused you with your regular provider but she should understand in this life variety is the spice!
Be safe everyone
Love Sasha

Most quality providers will be happy to give a reference for you.  I am asked to do so quite often and am happy to do so.  I also write to ladies all over the country asking for them.  It has actually worked in my favor many times as I have made contacts with ladies nationwide by being cool with giving referrals.

You can always write to a provider that you have seen previously and ask her if it is ok to use her as a reference.  That way she is prepared for the call/email from the provider you are due to see.

Most of us are not jealous or catty and are happy to provide a reference.  It is too bad that your regular provider could not see the positive side to providing referrals.


Good luck,
Kelli

I, too, see provider references as being a great idea--and have gladly given many myself. It seems strange that your regular provider would have reacted so badly--unless she is a very private person (which doesn’t seem to fit, given that she has `published contact info.’) Know that her foul reaction was a strange exception--not the norm. You did nothing wrong that would have offended most reasonable ladies;  I have never heard of someone becoming upset over a referral request...

I think it would be best, though, to always let the provider from whom you are requesting a referral know that another provider will be contacting her to obtain such a reference. I am happy to give referrals (as I value any time that we can help one another out, and work together as a group with common interests); however, I am unwilling to mention even the name of a prior client--or disclose any knowledge of his existence-- to anyone, for any reason--unless I have his prior permission.  

That said--referrals are a fantastic system to use as part of a screening process. Most of us are more than willing to give them...with no negative feelings involved!

I always ask first before giving anyone as a reference.  Just a habit from my professional life I guess, but I coudln't imagine not doing it.

Falcon

This made me curious.  If you got an email from someone you didn't know, claiming to be a provider, and asking for a reference on one of your clients, what whould you do?  Assuming you hadn't heard from the client that he wanted to give you as a reference.

Falcon

Thats an easy answer... I WOULDN'T!  I don't think there is a provider in her right mind that would give a reference to a girl they have not heard of or from a client they have not heard from (regarding the referral).

Most of my clients have actually called or written to me and asked me to provide the reference.  So I am the one to make the initial contact.  

Hope that settled your curiosity,
Kelli

What I do when approaching a provider from out of my area who is not aware of me is to introduce myself first and tell where reviews of myself can be found (TER, TBD/Orl., Foxfiles, etc.) and I also include a link to my website.  This should help her to realize that I am legit.  

I then give information about the potential client (name and email address). It is also suggested to the potential client that he also contact her and give her permission to reveal this information to me.

I also must agree that in sharing information with other providers across the nation, it has helped me along the way.

Steami

Falcon,

I agree.  I think my mistake was assuming that this was a common communication and I should not have let the provider be blindsided.  Thanks for your help.

Big Buzz

Sasha,

Thanks for your insight.  No, it was not you who requested the reference, but I do hope to one day have the pleasure.

With respect to the reviews I have posted, they are somewhat old and, though I would like to fancy myself a memorable date, I doubt any provider who met me once six or more months ago would have the slightest inkling as to who I was, even if I called them to request their reference.

BigBuzz

I'm a partner in a professional services firm.  I ask clients for their permission to have prospective clients contact them for references (and I always tell the client that they are free to discuss any perceived shortcomings or idiosyncracies they feel that I have).  I've gotten great results.

On a few occaisions in the past I've handled the 'provider reference' the same way with excellent results.  It's pretty much as Perspicacity describes from the "other side."

I tell the gentleman the provider he gives me must have a web site or mall online ad.  When I request or give a reference I always give my online ad address so that they know they are truly dealing with a working escort sand in turn if they want a reference from me I need to see the online ad first before I will give out the info.