is the first session usually the most exciting?

yes, we all love our regulars. But how do we keep things interesting and spicy...guys are excited every time they see a new provider and it is not hard to get them off  but when it is a repeat client it usually takes more work to get them as excited as first time it seems .  

gentlemen, does standard session do it for you every time you see your regular providers? dfk, bbbj, 69, f..cking in different positions, then bbbj cim or jerk off on tits or face...it seems like all reviews are pretty standard...

i feel like i need to try hard to come up with new ideas every time my regulars see me?do other providers feel the same way?sometimes guy are quite and i am not sure if they want to try something new?i usually take the lead and try new things, but maybe it is a turn off and they just want the standard stuff...

is it just the excitement of the new body that gets you off the best or your regular provider can actually surprise you and make you cum as hard as that very first session

And every time I see her just seems hotter than the last.  

Can't imagine things getting much more spicy than they already are. If they did, I would likely wind up in the hospital.

This post so doesn't apply to me. Sorry I couldn't offer better input. Don't mind me. Carry on.

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You might want to look into the TER HobbyCare Supplemental I just mentioned in the thread two topics down. If you had HobbyCare, you wouldn't be afraid of turning up the heat

I rarely repeat even once but occasionally will repeat one or two times even with the most beautiful provider. This is precisely because the physical part is less exciting after the first time. The ones I repeat with more often are the ones that will take time to chat or build a connection and that don't mind going over a little in time just to talk after the physical part is over on the first time even. It amazes me how few providers are not clock watchers. All it takes is talking for 5-10 min afterwards and if they don't have someone scheduled the next hour than investing a bit of time just to talk and build a connection is what would impress me and ensure a repeat visit.

To me the connection is the key!  If I am seeing a new provider that I've been wanting to see for a while I will purposely leave something out (maybe doggy or DATY).  I already know I want to repeat.  I'll admit....I tend to be slightly submissive. too.

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I have found it very rare when the second visit is as great as the first. I agree that a connection is an important ingredient for me. When you do find the lady that keeps each visit as exiting as the last it makes the hobby so much better. Going in knowing you are going to have a great time always gets me exited.
  The down side IMO is when there are touring ladies on my bucket list and I see them and get disappointed I think I could have been with _ _ _ _ _ _ and had a great time.

but the client too. The main thing I want to see over repeat visits is not being taken for granted, i.e. no decline (at worst) in service or attitude from the first date. Inventiveness and imagination are also valued.  

But I try to do my part to keep things interesting for repeat visits. It could be bringing a new toy to try, or suggesting a position we haven't tried, or a different massage technique if we're doing that, or a role play, etc.  

It can be something very small. For example, once on the second date with a petite provider, I asked her if I could carry her to the bedroom.  Very corny I know, but I had the urge to do it. She got a strange look on her face and said, "No one's ever done that before!"  I found that hard to believe, since she's over 50, but if she was acting she did a great job. And when we got to the bedroom, we had a spicy time.

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I agree with several others here that connection is key. While it's good to spice things up, when there is a unique, genuine connection that goes with that, it can carry things a long way. With my ATF, we always talk first. It can be fun, flirtatious, informative...but when that kiss comes, when it is passionate, it can knock your socks off. The rest is then off the charts.

I always find it interesting hearing those whose second and subsequent visits aren't as good, because my experience was the opposite. Our first was quite good, but or second was amazing. And since then, they've been better and better. At this point, it's an escape for both of us - and that's when I think things really got hot and spicy.

Just my two cents.

I alternate between crisp new $100 bills and new $50 bills, sometimes I use ATM $20s when I'm done for the duration

Not sure if others are like me, but the regulars I see follow a comfortable routine that I enjoy over and over with them.  What keeps it interesting for me is about 6-8 different gals each of whom is different in what they do, and I space the visits out over a couple of months or so.

What I appreciate in my regulars is that they offer consistent quality session after session with no roll back on time or effort.  Those that do roll back I discard

previous visits. She uses her creative seduction skills to the max. She knows how to turn up the heat and then let me cool down a bit before letting me cross the finish line. As I often say to her, she is a true courtesan.

I don't quite understand why it would take more to get a man off if he's made the conscious decision to go out of his way to see a particular provider. He wants to see you. So he's obviously attracted to you. Because if he weren't, he wouldn't waste his time and money.

Of course like any relationship, even the professional ones can get a bit stale I guess. But if that happens, then I would venture to say that the fault lies with both parties. It's the ole takes two to tango. You're not the only one in the room. If he's opening up his wallet to see you and somehow doesn't find that exciting enough, well maybe he needs to switch things up a bit as well. I don't think that burden should fall squarely on the shoulders of the female partner, regardless of what type of relationship the two people have with one another.

I also think that you may be over thinking this. Speaking only for myself, I know that I go out of my way to visit GFE providers because I want to be able to make love to my partner. And if there's chemistry, then it doesn't matter how often I see that particular woman. Because every time we meet, it's amazing. Granted I may only see that one woman say once every 2-4 months (maybe even longer). So enough time has passed that we're not practically married! But I know a few pros whom I've seen six times within the span 6-8 months and each time was just as good as the last if not better. Honestly I think the key for both of us is to just jump in and get busy. Don't think. Just do. In fact this should be a much simpler process with a partner that you are familiar with. There should be a natural flow. If it gets too difficult because either (of both) of you is too busy thinking of new and exciting things to do to one another, than perhaps it's time to move on.

i loved your response...thank you

looking hot is not enough. i know many guys who have hot younger wifes or live-in centerfold sugar babies, yet they see providers on the side because things at home got stale...

Surprise is one of the greatest aphrodisiacs. That's why many seek out a new lady each time. I love surprise too, but I prefer comfort even more. Over the years I’ve had a handful of long term atfs, but one lady took spontaneity to a new level. It took place in the bedroom for sure, but also, more so, outside of it.  

I had many many sessions with her, but each time we partied, she created something different. So with her, I had the best of both worlds, surprise, and comfort. It always seemed like when something new happened, it was so spontaneous. First of all, she had a wide variety of clothing, so I was always greeted with a new outfit. She often sent me pictures of her new outfits even before modeling them. I never knew what it was going to be. It might be new lingerie, a new bikini, an evening dress, a mini skirt, or even naked. But my favorite was, one time when she forgot what time I was coming and wasn’t ready, she answered the door in a baggy pair of sweats. That seemed to be the real lady, rather than the escort, and I loved it.  

It never failed that she always sat me down on the couch before and after a session simply to talk. We talked about everything from hobby news to real life. Often we’d be trading wild stories when she’d say, “I’m so f*cking turned on”, she’d jump me on the couch. Sometimes the talk turned serious when sad things happened in our lives. There were times we’d just sit and hold hands, with tears flowing. One time after a session, she showed me her expensive collection of ………  Another time it was out to the back yard to show me the table she’d refinished. She was so proud of that one. Many times she’d talk about her boyfriends post session, asking my advice on certain issues. One time, she brought out some childhood pictures for me to see. It didn’t matter to her that her real name was written on one of the pictures. She trusted me that much. I wouldn’t recommend that one with just anyone. We also had many discussions on the hobby philosophy of living a dangerous double life. Our discussions were not only fascinating, but therapeutic.  

Of course, being in this hobby, one has to talk about the bedroom. There were so many surprises there too. And once a surprise would happen, it wouldn’t repeat itself. I’d sometimes mention how much I’d enjoy this surprise or that, but they would rarely be repeated. One time she stuck her pussy in my face to start the wildness, one time her giant tits. Another time she stuck her gorgeous bubble ass in my face. I was shocked at how much I enjoyed licking it. But we never did that again. One time when I was riding her hard, she slapped my ass, but only once (I liked it). But I think my favorite surprise was the time, just before I hopped in the shower, she accidentally walked in on me while I was peeing. I was embarrassed, but she got that look in her eye, said she was wildly turned on, and hopped in the shower with me. We were both on our knees madly kissing and licking cock and pussy. I’ve never seen a woman cum so many times in a row like she did in that shower that day. It was so much fun I thought that might become our regular routine, but that was the only time. There were a million little nuances, I could go on and on. Simply put, it just never seemed like she was an escort, nor thought of me as a hobbyist.  

It goes without saying that because of all the wildness and discussions, sessions quite often went overtime. However, we were always honest with each other. Sometimes she’d say she had another session soon, and had to wind things up. Sometimes I’d say I had to get to my event. But most of the time we’d go over. One time she must have had the afternoon completely free because she wanted me to stay. I stayed four hours before she let me go. Other times she would order out (using her real name), and we’d have lunch together. One time after one of those lunches, we were cleaning up a bit in her kitchen when she walked over to me, put her arms around me, and held me. It was as if we were dancing, but we weren’t. We held each other for a good ten minutes plus. In between sessions she would often write, saying she was thinking of me. Once she got so excited I was coming to visit, she sent me six emails in succession. She once told me she spent two hours a day writing her gentlemen callers. I believed it. She took great pride in being the best. You know she’s retired now. One does not know how much they’re really going to miss someone until they’re gone. I do miss her, but also wish her the very best. We had hundreds upon hundreds of sexily wild nuanced adventures. But when I think of her, the thing that always comes to mind is that long, sweet hug in the kitchen. I think that’s the best hug I’ve ever had in my life. And the most spontaneous

those that roll back end up working at walmart lol  

onnection is important and conversations before and after the actual intercourse is what builds but...but question remains how to keep things spicy in terms of sex...it becomes even harder to be kinky with somebody you have emotional connection with...i.e. your wife or long-term g

If the lady is intuitive, she picks up my likes, dis-likes & rhythm so those ladies are awesome & I can't get enough.  But if the lady does the same routine each time, then it's not as interesting.

She is hot in every sense of the word. Insatiable, sexy, energetic, fun, attitude, sass, naughtiness, intelligence, class.

Everyone and anyone who sees her will tell you the same. She's all that and 100 bag of chips.

PM me and I'll be happy to tell you more. Better yet, visit Chicago and I'll introduce you to her.

You're going to find all categories of preferences out there. Some guys are most comfortable to progress through typical activities they like.  That was me until I started venturing outside the box. Today I look for spicy...repeats for me are either because of awesome chemistry and connection, or fun uncommon play...or better yet....both.

I wouldn't assume because it's not commonly in reviews,  that "spicy" engagements are rare.  Because spicy can be very much a YMMV thing...not many providers want those details shared, and often doesn't make into a review.

If a client is a regular, that's for a reason....he loves being with you.  No reason not to ask if he's comfortable with how it's going, or if he would enjoy spicying it up....and then you'll know. Ask your regular about his fantasies...then you'll really know.  I see fetish and bdsm options on your website so you probably already know some ways to change it up...lots of erotic content out there though if you need any ideas.

i do not like it to be a business like transaction, when YMMV negotiations start during the session it makes it more of a transaction and ruins all the mood for experiments...

Implies there is something to return for... I have see a number of very fine providers and if you treat them like you want to be treated I have fond they will go the extra mile to keep you coming back. Everyone can have a bad day but my favorites always take the time to make it up and I keep coming back!

Every once in a while a surprise gift card, nice bottle of rum, coffee, or little things like that give me a great opportunity to give them a "special thanks" - no not by opening my butthole for business, but by simply thanking and giving a kiss. Boost their egos, recognize and appreciate them, and over time bring in some crotchless panties and a slutty skirt. LOL

Or another girl that looks like you for the "mirror effect" lol.

One great thing to do is notice if your client is trying to keep things spicy too. I have an ATF who sees me twice per month since I came back... he has a couple fat cats. He buys me new top shelf beverages to take home and taste... Next date I'm bringing the cats some treats. LOL

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Not that I don't like something different every now and then, but when I'm visiting someone I know, I'm not distracted wondering if she will or will not do something or do it a certain way. I can relax and my worries evaporate. We can talk about or do other stuff because I know the regular stuff will be there. As mrfisher said, consistency.  

My all-time ATF (that's ATATF in TER nomenclature) is a K-girl (now retired) who I saw many, many times. She could read my mind and make me feel so good even if nothing was happening. It was BETTER than being in love (no pain and suffering) ... for an hour at a time.

Absolutely it does....I actually think the whole point of YMMV may be to skip the negotiation altogether for the extra spicy activities. Tiered pricing/services by definition kind of pigeon holes the activities. That may set your boundaries and expectations as a general rule, but perhaps you relax those for a regular.....to spice it up!

And sing
Im a yankee doodle dandy  

Its fucking hot

you are as "lovely" as always  

 

their partner. Foreplay leading up to a mind blowing orgasm as well as the "pillow talk" afterwards plant the seeds for the next encounter.

Thinking of ways to keep things interesting for a major regular has me wondering that maybe Caligula was perhaps not as extreme as i had once thought...hahaha  
Despite our best efforts to keep things spicy without resorting to animal/human sacrifices..I will never forget something a guy friend once told me..
"The only thing better than pu*sy is new pu*sy"  
With so much variety on this website I'm absolutely stunned and flattered that i get to see anyone more than twice!