How many of you are able to handle a close loving relationship and be able to be a provider.

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have three children. My life is so normal and pretty boring. . Not many people know I am a part time (maybe 5-10 hrs a week) FBSM girl and have been for years.

Have been many things in adult entertainment industry during my marriage: stripper, dominatrix, phone/computer sex girl, fbsm.
I have some pretty strict limits IRT my "menu" though, which I never deviate from, so maybe that makes a difference. I feel very happy the way things are but anticipate retiring completely within the next year or two as I start another career - one I've been preparing for since 1999 - with time off to have two children and of course, attending school and raising my family.

Is that like "deleted?"  Let's not get going on that again...

I don't think it's whether we as providers can handle it. I think its if the gent can. We live with our lives and are ok with it. If a gent is used to a conventional relationship, it will be a stretch to adjust to say the least.

Well I am more at ease about this then my provider friend is.  It would only be a huge issue for me if we were to be husband and wife. I am not saying I like it and am comfortible with it. Just that I am more at ease than she is.

I wish she would retire and spend a life with me.

Without having that I still wnat a relationship with here and we both keep our spouses.  Not as good as having each other all to ourselves , but better that not having each other at all.

what do you mean by that.  Open minded but no cigar.?

I would think most providers would be reluctant to go broadcasting to their clientele that they have an SO they are close to, as some guys may not be keen on that.  I may be wrong, but I wonder.

Its a pretty broad question...as asked, the answer is YES, I havea close knit and loving group of friends, I have a very good relationship with both my daughter and my mother...I have clients that I feel a bond with that I may call close and loving...

If you meant can we do this and have an SO in the marital/carnal sense; No Way can I do that...I dont think that I would want to be with someone who was okay with my having sexual relations with others....something about that doesnt sit right in my world...

I've been in the biz for 3 years now, married for 8.  He knows what I do for a living and he loves how it charges me up and I have thumbs up from both clients and my sweetie
It's all about making quality time and communication and fortunately for me, he is secure enough in himself and in our relationship that he doesn't get bent out of shape, even if you guys are bigger than he is

...to a far greater extent than most men, or at least some providers are OK with it. I agree completely that it is far more problematical emotional gymnastics for a man who is used to a conventional relationship. I personally would have no problem having a relationship with a provider who was out of the business, retired and had this phase of her life over and done with completely. I don't subscribe to that somewhat antiquated view that when a woman has s*x that she is somehow damaged goods but when a man has s*x it's a "right of passage" and a measure of his virility and appeal to the opposite sex, or in this community perhaps a measure of his affluence.

The reason I would find it difficult to engage the services of a provider that I knew to be married or in a committed relationship would center on trying to put myself in her SO's place and have some sort of feel for how that might affect him, even if he seems to be OK with it. I personally would NOT be OK with it but that is merely my personal perspective. I'm not trying to be judgemental here.

I was quite misinterpreted in an earlier thread about providers and SO's. Being male I approach this from the perspective of a male and I wonder about how some men are able to deal with their wife or SO working as a provider. I'm not suggesting that a provider is NOT entitled to a relationship outside of her work as a provider, is NOT entitled to experiencing LOVE, that is not my position at all. I was trying to imagine myself in the position of the man in such a relationship. There are evidently some men out there who can "handle" it. I would NOT include myself among them.

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I guess it’s up to each individual to decide as to how important a “close loving relationship” is in their lives, and what they're willing to do to hold on to it.

Special one’s they say, only come along once in a lifetime.

My thoughts too, I wish the love of my life who became a provider would retire and be mine, because I hate sharing her affections. And it does stress me out.

with my cat. LOL

...of why I would find it difficult, if not impossible, to engage the services of a provider that is married or in a committed relationship.

"If you meant can we do this and have an SO in the marital/carnal sense; No Way can I do that...I dont think that I would want to be with someone who was okay with my having sexual relations with others....something about that doesnt sit right in my world..."

This is precisely on point, at least in part, as to why I indicated in an earlier thread that I would not engage in the hobby if I were married or in a committed relationship myself.The other part of the equation I have explained in a previous post. Once again I am not passing judgement on those who are married or in a committed relationship who engage in the hobby.  It simply would not be the right choice for me.

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