There are those emails you accept, and work on; those you simply delete with no response whatsoever; and then those that you need to reply to courteously, and carefully because you don't want to hurt their feelings, but for whatever reason you simply are 'not interested'.

What are some of the ways you have handled those? If you feel more comfortable PM-ing me, or email: [email protected]

and I don't think that's right. I think they deserve a considerate response even if it's to say something like 'thank you, but I don't think we're a match', but I don't like that either necessarily..

I'm a hobbyist, not a provider, but I'm curious as to what you mean.  Why would you ignore a potential client's e-mail at all?

It happens ALL the time.  If a provider lists both an e-mail and a phone number, I prefer to do the introduction via e-mail and then use the telephone for scheduling on game day.

My own observation, and this is corroborated by what I've heard from others, is that about 1 in 3 e-mails is ever returned.  If you exclude the more computer-oriented gals who are more active on the boards, that probably drops to 1 in 5.

In my business life (i.e. that other shit I do to support the hobby!) I consciously choose to use e-mail, fax, phone, etc. based on a number of factors about my message, the audience, and time sensitivity.  However, I find that some people are very heavily phone-biased and others are heavily e-mail biased regardless of what best suits the message.

I suspect that the thought an e-mail would just be ignored will seem foreign to some, like Sedona, because of their personality.  But for many others, ignoring incoming communications has become an unfortunately routine way of managing their schedule.

Oh my! There are PLENTY of emails you ignore, and delete, deservedly so!
Rude, ignorant, vulgar, lame, stupid, LE...those get deleted quick.

I know many ladies who just don't answer emails because they don't have time, or some aren't worth their time, or can be answered on their own - example: "Hi. What are your rates?".
Most of us don't answer emails like that for MANY reasons. But, one reason is, look up her website and you'll find the answer! You had to have already gone there in order to find her email address..So, emails that are questions that they can find on their own often either get ignored, or a one line response directing them somewhere is what is the response. (I'm talking in generalizations here, even my posted question is in general, not so much how I do things).

Some ladies get hundreds of emails and dozens of calls a day, plus their personal life stuff, as well as another business, job, or school, and they just sort through for the ones that might actually amount to anything, and ignore or delete the rest.

I was just trying to see what 'template' response ladies might use to reply to someone that had an OK email (nothing 'wrong') but for whatever reason you weren't interested in accepting, but (I think) should get a courteous response.
Reason I ask is because I was surprised to note that many ladies still ignore/delete those anyway, mainly because they haven't come up with a 'good response'. Some ladies have used the excuse of 'sorry, not available those dates', only to get the reply, 'well, how about the following Tuesday?' and then you're back in the same spot. See what I mean? So, because nobody's comfortable 'letting someone down'; the 'rejection' thing, they just delete. I'd rather come up with something where everybody feels good.

So, let me ask you, then, Aug5, how would you want a lady to decline if it were you? Or what would you suggest?

You're absolutely right. And what many do is sift through to the ones they are interested in and delete the rest.

I'm not saying that's right or wrong, or putting down anyone that does that, but I'm saying that since I would rather answer those 'good emails' (just not interested) with a nice response.

Sedona,
I completely ignore any e-mail that does not have a greeting, like:  Hi, XXXX,
And/or is not signed

I think it rude to simply write:  I saw you on TER and when can I get an appointment?  Or:  I want to see you , when can I come over?

No name or any of their information included. That just does not get a response from me.

All other e-mails I do respond to and they may or may not lead to an appointment. That just depends on their schedule and mine.

The more information they give me in that first e-mail, the less e-mailing back and forth we have to do and the quicker we can set something up.

ATW

Here are a couple of general replies which come to mind.  As long as you are polite but clear, any response should be alright.

"Thank you for your inquiry.  I do appreciate you taking the time to contact me.  Unfortunately, I am not currently entertaining new clientele.  I hope that you do find a wonderful lady to share some great times with."

If he may know that you still see new gents, you might have to be a little more honest.  Something along the lines of

"While you seem like a sweet and sincere man, I just don't think we are well suited to eachother. (If there is an obvious reason why, you may want to mention it).  I must politely decline a meeting since I don't feel that I am the best lady to provide you with the unique and unforgettable experience you deserve."

If the gentelman seems like he is an alright person, but you just don't think that your personalities mesh, you may want to point him in the direction of a lady whom you feel he would be compatible with.  Of course, you only want to do that if you feel that you simply aren't a good match, not if you feel he will be a potential problem.

I agree that a client must ge declined every now and then for any reason a lady thinks it is required, this of course will never make this trade fully safe a lady. It is just that it appears to me that this practice of turning a customer away exists a lot more in America than Canada, my observation anyway. especially in cities like Seattle were I live, I never had a problem in Vancouver and never will, but I have in Seattle and a few other cities on numerous attitude issues. God Bless you Angel.

It's simply a matter of respect.

When a potential client e-mails me and has obviously not taken the time to read my profile here or my website I typically send them my form response directing them to my website. I have noticed that out of those that I do this to almost none of them end up booking. Over time you get a feel for what will work out and what will not. Some of us have a higher tolerance for things than others. I am perhaps not the most tolerant but I am also very aware of what works for me and what doesn't. When we stick to what works for us we stay happy with our profession, enthusiastic, horney and our clients have a better time.

Not reading the available information on a provider and then calling her or e-mailing her with questions that could easily be answered from doing so is indicative of the overall nature of the person. Am I right 100 percent of the time? No, probably not. But when I need to book only 5-10 (allowing for discounted multiple hour appointments) hours a week with 4-6 people, have good reviews over a good period of time indicating you can pretty much be assured that I am going to take the ones that are the best and forego any that pale in comparison.

With an increasing number of you guys being damn near perfect with your communication, charming in your e-mails, and considerate of our position as it stands with LE and our safety, there simply is no need to answer those who are not at least informative and attentive enough to read a couple of paragraphs before they contact you.

Most escorts that have good reviews and have been around for more than a few months don't have too hard a time filling the available timeslots they have for appointments. Most escorts I have known are not only escorting and have many other endeavors that they pursue or responsibilities to take care of.

I have also found that those who IM me while I am on Yahoo and immediately assume that I am there standing on a cyber street corner just waiting for them naked and ready to rush out the door to meet them because they sent me a one line message consisting of "are you available" NEVER work out.

Hey, if I'm not remarkably improved by tomorrow, I'm banned from Christmas!
If that's so, and you can handle my hacky cough, wanna do something?

Great topic, Sedona!

We've all recieved a few (or more) emails from Gents we would rather not spend time with. I respond to all of these Gents, but the key word is Gents! The rude boys get deleted without comment EVERY time.

When I feel that we may be non-compatable, I respond something like this:
"Hello, X*****. Thank you so much for the email! I'm sorry, but I feel that I'm not the right girl for you. You WILL find her, though! And you have my very best wishes, Sweetie."

Emails which mention or ask about my rates or service details get deleted without response! Between my website and boards like TER, there is plenty of info out there. I even added a note on both the 'contact' and 'donation' pages of my website: "Please find rate info before contacting me. I am very discreet and never discuss numbers online, phone, or in person."

When I get phone calls asking about rates, I tell them I won't have that conversation. Then suggest they do a little bit more homework and get back to me if they like. If a man mentions any service details on the phone, I tell him I can't help him (before I hang up on him)!

I'd really like to and it sounds so darn fun!

It seems to me that the ladies who currently just delete any emails they are not interested in would be better served by setting up an automatic response to all incoming email rather than simply not replying at all.

The email could say "I have received your email and if I am interested in meeting you I will respond via email in 2 to 7 days." or anything else the provider would care to say. If she is interested in meeting a particular person the provider would contact that person in the time frame given in her initial automatic response.  If she is not interested at least she has acknowledged receipt of the email.

Obviously this is not as personal as crafting personal replies to some of the gentlemen that you do not want to see but seems less rude than just deleting them with no repsonse at all.  It would also be useful to the gentlemen to know when to just move on to the next lady on their list.  

Well, this thread has certainly grown since I've been away.  The conversation seems to have died, but I still hope you get this message.  

Anyway, this is how I, as a hobbyist, operate (you'll see how it relates to this thread in a minute).  Rather than just choose one particular girl that I want to see, I select perhaps five to ten girls who fit a particular "profile."  Then I do as much research as I can on them, essentially comparison shopping (e.g., "this one has bigger breasts, that one costs fifty dollars more, red hair vs. black hair, etc.").  Basically I try to narrow the search down to those who are in my general area and who seem like a good value for their relative quality -- a unique twist on modern portfolio theory, no?.  For me, it's like investing in anything else -- I try not to go into anything without thinking.  

The thing is, not all girls post their rates and all their info online.  Some give rates, others list some of the "services available," still others give nothing but ask that I e-mail them to tell them what I am "interested in."  So I often get stuck sending e-mails to ten different girls, but having to ask for different things in each letter.  Who has the time to thoughtfully compose all these letters?  Thus, my e-mails are often no more than two or three sentences, although I am always courteous and respectful.  The first thing I write in each letter is "Hello."  Surely you can understand why I have to abbreviate each letter, rather than tailoring it to each specific lady.  

You asked HOW I would like to be declined.  Honestly, it has never happened.  I either get responses or I get ignored.  I would personally prefer that the lady just write back to me and tell me that she prefers not to answer questions of this nature, and that I should rethink and rewrite my inquiry.  This should be done as tactfully and politely as possible.  But now let's be realistic about this.  I may be a busy person, but you are probably just as busy as I am, if not more so.  You probably don't have the time to see all the hobbyists who e-mail you anyway, even if they were all polite gentlemen.  So just delete the fu*kers.  Happy Holidays.

someone inquired with meabout an apt..he was on his way to Vegas from LA with a couple friends(guys) he wanted me to meet with him and his friends for an orgy...I told him that I was not comfortable in that type of apt.that it was too easy to lose control of the situation..I also had someone send me a nude pic..frontal errect and he was pretty graphic in the letter..I told him that I was both unable and unwilling to provide the type of services he wanted...if they seem ok..but they just dont seem to know better..like they write a semminly nice letter but put some graphic words in their inqury I tell them that most providers would not answer a letter such as their's as it could be taken as a trap by LE..and if they write back very apoligetic I usually talk to them and probably meet..but if they are just very graphic and raunchy from the get-go..I just delete it...without explanation..they should know better...sometimes i wonder if one of the pics on my site may give them the impression (wrongly) that anything goes..but everytime i take this paticular pic down..tons of people I've never even met call to ask me to put it back up....

Hmmmm, the one thing I do know about LE is that anything,and I do mean anything they can use against you in court,They will, which is exactly why the aclu advises that You never say anything that can be used against you,and e-mails can be easily traced to your own computer.Personally I'm very specific about that and I never answer personal questions about sessions,On average a day I get about 2 to 3 emails asking if I do greek.Which I never answer.I mean why should I entrap myself.But on the contact page of my site its pretty self explanitory.What it makes me wonder about though,vulgar and fairly grapic language seems to have become so commonplace and acceptable.Or the thinking that asking for a specific act by abbrivations on the internet is acceptable.Think about it if a cop asks for bj,or bbjt,The judge is going to convict.And it works both ways,You ask an undercover officer for a specific sex act and the cuffs go on.