I don't know if this question has been asked before (if it has, no need to respond), because you could spend a lifetime reading this board in its entirety. However I ask it due to the recent survey question that was posted a few weeks ago. The question was "would you see a provider if you knew she was married". If I remember correctly the majority of respondents indicated that it would not make a difference. As most of you are aware there are a lot of married providers in this business (the percentage would really surprise you). So, that leads to the following questions.

1)Have you ever been with a provider that you would have married if the circumstances were right?

If the answer to that question is yes, would you still marry her if she stay in the business?, if not would you marry her if she quit the business?

2) If you were available, single and did not have a SO, would you marry a provider under any circumstances.

If by "marriage" you mean "sign away all my current and future disposable income to one person", then I think I'm already married to my provider (and yes, she's still in the business, and likely guilty of "polygamy")

This may be a silly question and an even sillier answer but I think it really is a question of age & whether or not one would want to have children.  If one is young and wants to make their genetic investiment with a lady I don't think they would want her to continue working.  However working girls have just about the same feeling and attractions as civilians so why not marry someone who is retiring.  How ever if one were to do this it should never be a subject which is later thrown in a partners face during a later moment of domestic strife.  Likewise I believe that ladies who do marry always run the risk that thier past will not be forgotten (there was just a post to this effect on one of the boards).

If one is 40+ and doesn't want children, or any more children, and is thinking of getting married to anyone then, IMHO, they need serious counseling.

Just my .02

Statistics show that married people tend to live longer and have happier lives as they age.

There is a lot to be said for having a partner to share life with.

Your negative view of marriage is sad, and says more about you than about marriage.

For about 10 years, I have been married to a provider. I was a widower when we met, and she was divorced. I was a client for more than a year and during this time we developed a close friendship based on mutual interests and attraction. I let her know that I have total respect for the way she earns her living and would never ask her to stop.

She eventually moved in wih me and became a loving and supportive stepmother to my children. After a while, she decided to retire to devote her energies to raising our children and developing a career as an artist. When the kids were older, she decided to come out of retirement. She missed the extra money and the excitement. She limits herself to no more than 3 appointments a week, mostly with regulars who have become her friends. She continues to work as an artist. Through all of this, I've been supportive of her career choice. To the extent that we have stresses and differences in our relationship, it is over our different styles of child-rearing and not about our respective jobs.

I am successful in my career and continue to support her financially. The money she earns from her two careers goes for her personal needs, artistic projects, "extras" for the kids, and other personal expenses.

Sex has always been wonderful for me with her. She is imaginative and sensual and will occasionally surprise me with a threesome with one of her friends. She has no problems with me playing around with other providers or civilians, but, frankly, I seldom feel the urge.

I don't claim to have the ideal marriage nor do I claim that marriage to a provider would work for most men. Speaking only for myself, I have grown intellectually and spiritually in this relationship. I have learned how to shed jealousy and accept the wide range of possibilities in relationships. I've become less judgmental and more accepting. Above all else, I have truly found the love of my life.

A lot of my married clients are very passionate, gentle and tender while making love.  They're more considerate of my  feelings.  They listen more, share thoughts and are concerned about me as a person. They're also concerned about pleasing me sexually. They seem more happier, relaxed and at piece with themselves.

The majority of my single clients (not all of them) are more sexually agreesive and less gentle and tender. They're hesitant about sharing thoughts, they seem a little self centered, quite a few have discuss other escorts during the session, they aren't concerned about pleasing me and they're sometimes disrespectful of my time.

I've learned how to adapt to all kinds of gentlemen and I treat everyone the same.  Because of my nature for SAFETY (I don't bbbjtc/cim/spit/swallow or anal) I entertain mostly married clients between the ages of 35 - 55.

There's such a variety of escorts who provide wide ranges of services and the reviews are very helpful in assisting him to find exactly what he's searching for.

I am 40+ and then some, and was married for 29 years.  I went through a very, very nasty divorce a year ago.  I miss her terribly, but I think I miss being married even more.  I would have no problem with marrying a provider, but I don't think someone actively in the hobby would be for me.  If I marry again, I plan to quit the hobby and I would expect her to do the same.  I'm pretty open minded, but I think I would have to draw the line there.

1) Yep, I could marry a provider. Definitely. I'm not a stuck up person and will never judge her for her past occupation. I think that providers have a very noble occupation - sharing their sexuality to those who needs it.

2) As long as she has enough "quality time" for me, she can continue to provider if she loves that work. But I would expect her to be a part time provider to have quality time with me. I would also expect her to screen her clients carefully - I will be concern about her safety and would prbably suggest she provides from 9 - 5 (no evenings). If she wants to retire - I would be happy to support her financially.

I had a near-year-long relationship with a provider (see some of my earlier posts for the back story) during which the subject of a possible marriage came up.  The relationship didn't work out, but it faded for the same kinds of reasons civilian relationships fail -- the failure had nothing to do with Marina being a provider.

Had the relationship survived, I believe I would have married her, and our understanding was she'd continue to provide, at least for a while.

Relationships with providers are unique.  I've written on this subject before, but it's been a while:

In civilian relationships, a lot of time and effort is invested by both parties in the negotiation of sex.  It's quite a complex dance, with its own language and set of rules.  Indeed, it's often the case that so much effort is made in this vein that insufficient attention is paid to the deeper aspects of the relationship.

But, in a relationship with a provider, the sex is a given.  The issue has long since been resolved by the time the real relationship begins.  So, with the concerns about sex out of the way, both parties can devote their time to actually growing the relationship, and really learning about each other.

So, yes; if Miss Right came along, and she just happened to be a provider, I'd still marry her.  And I would support her in any decision she made regarding work, education and so on -- even if one of those decisions involved continuing to work as a provider.

-- Modified on 7/29/2004 9:07:36 PM

I would still make you work for our sessions. Sex would never be a given. Now go clean the dishes.

I left a wife for a provider.  Would have married her if she hadn't gotten into drugs.   We didn't get as far as the issue of her continuing in the business.  It wouldn't have bothered me so long as there were limits on it.

I was married for 5 years and liked it.  Unfortunately it was the wrong person.  I have been divorced 2 years now.

I would definitely marry someone who was a provider.  We all have sexual pasts and to be judgmental of that would be very hypocritical.

However, I do not keep up my hobby while married or in a committed relationship.  I wouldn't want her to date other men if we were together.

Now any ladies interested?????!!!!!

Just one man's opinion.

So many guys have both a wife and a provider (or more than one provider).  It took courage, faith and integrity to committ to give up what you had.  Sad that you lost both.